10 Signs Your Kitty Actually Loves You

Editor’s Note: This post is a Care2 Favorite, brought back by popular demand. It was originally published on July 25, 2013. Enjoy!

Ever wondered if your kitty really loves you?

From finicky to feisty, our feline friends aren’t always the easiest to read. Unlike dogs who make their affection for us loud and clear, cats have far less obvious ways of communicating how they feel.

If you want to discover just how much your cat cares about you, then check out these 10 signs of true love:

1. Head butting. If a person were to do it to you, then you’d have a pretty good idea of what they were trying to tell you, but with a cat it’s a whole different story. To be on the receiving end of what is actually known in the cat world as ‘head bunting‘ is a very special privilege indeed. During this exchange your cat deposits facial pheromones that represent their feelings of trust and safety they have with you.

2. Powerful purrs. Cats purr for all sorts of reasons, but there is one unique full bodied rumble that your kitty saves exclusively for their true love. Purring also lowers your kitty’s heart rate and helps them to relax and exhibit feelings of contentment.

3. Love bites. If your cat is a chronic nibbler, then chances are they’ve got a thing for you. It’s pretty easy to tell the difference between a love bite and a regular cat bite, one hurts and the other tickles! Nibbling isn’t a common sign of love, but when a cat employs it, they’re trying to say “you’re awesome.”

4. Tail twitching. You can tell a lot by looking at a cat’s tail. Just as their tails puff out when they get scared or agitated, their tail will twitch at the very tip when they are feeling bliss. If you notice this action when your cat approaches you, then you can be sure that they think you rock their world.

5. Tummy up. When your cat throws itself on the floor and starts rolling around, they are trying to get your attention. Cats only show their tummies voluntarily to those they can trust. Feeling safe means a lot to a cat, so when they sprawl out in front of you, this is a sign that they feel loved and protected.

6. Licking your hair or ears. It’s not often that humans are deemed worthy of these very special grooming sessions, but if your cat has chosen to bestow you with hair or ear licking, rest assured you have been welcomed into the inner circle. Grooming is one of the most obvious signs of the friendship and trust you have with your furry companion.

7. Kneading. Kittens knead against their mothers to stimulate milk production, which is why experts believe that kneading behavior in cats is nostalgic of kittenhood and acts as a way of reliving the happy moments they experienced as little ones. So next time your kitty starts moving its paws up and down on you, remember that they are not just trying to soften you up before taking a nap, but that they’re expressing their adoration for you.

8. Slow blinking. It is said that cats kiss with their eyes, so don’t expect to share this sign of affection with any old cat. Cats save eye contact for people they know and trust. If that eye contact is coupled with slow blinking then you’ve just received a kitty kiss. Return the love by mimicking the behavior.

9. Nap time. Kitties crave warm safe places to sleep, so if your fluffy feline decides to snuggle down beside you or better yet, on your lap, then you should feel especially honored. Cats are most vulnerable when they are sleeping, and there is no greater compliment than when they choose you as their snooze spot.

10. Gifting. There is no denying that a small dead something is not at the top of our wishlist, but a kitty that presents you with this bounty deserves to be praised. Despite our domestication, cats still have the inner hunter and sharing their prizes with you is a sign of true friendship.

If you’ve been fortunate enough to share your life with a cat, then you’ll understand that they are consciously connecting with us. Whether it’s via grooming, purring or snuggling up, cats are loving and affectionate individuals that form very special bonds with their favorite people.

Photo Credit: Shikhar Bhattarai/Stocksy


K M8 days ago

Only a few of "my" kitties will let me pet or love them. I TNR the local ferals. Some have tamed down and become very loving, while others only come to eat. Thanks for re-posting it. Some of us didn't see it the first time.

Summerannie M
Summerannie M9 days ago

My beautiful highly affectionate black cat ticks all the boxes and more. An amazing relationship we have who attracts other cats to pay a visit. One just dropped in after a year I'd say. She? is happy but growls but smiles too and stretches and rolls on the ground exposing her belly. She's hesitant and apprehensive, loves coming as my cat n I accommodate her for a chat. She's a stunning rag doll.

Clare O
Clare O'Beara9 days ago

Cats are very loving and friendly

Ellen J
Ellen J9 days ago

My current cats have never presented their tummies except when they lay on their sides. I am guessing it has something to do with their being abused in their previous situations, as both are rescues. But the other signs of affection they demonstrate. Thanks for the reposting of the article as it is good to be reminded.

Nita L
Nita L9 days ago

My kitties have always done these things. I know they love me. Thank you.

Danii P
Danii P9 days ago

Thank you.

Elaine W
Elaine W9 days ago

Noted :)

Mia G
Mia G10 days ago

Thanks for this

Jeramie D
Jeramie D10 days ago

Now I know my cat loves me. Thanks.

Barbara M
Barbara M10 days ago

thanks for posting