5 Reasons Why You Are Still Single

There are many reasons why a woman might be single. Maybe she isn’t interested in dating or wants to focus on her career. Maybe she hasn’t meant anyone she was compatible with or maybe it’s just none of anyone’s business what a woman’s relationship status is, but that doesn’t stop researchers from coming up with ridiculous studies to try and crack the code on how a woman can find her leading man and avoid ending up a sad, single cat lady.

Take a look at the following studies and try not to pull your hair out while doing so.

1. Your Job Is Too Stressful

Stress is a common factor in many people’s jobs, but for women it can have the added inconvenience of making them appear less attractive. According to a study from the University of Turku in Finland, men found women with high levels of a hormone called cortisol caused by stress less attractive.

Why? It is thought that perhaps low levels of cortisol signal health whereas stress is related to strong negative effects on a woman’s health like heart disease or cancer.

The study also found that men found women attractive based on an “ideal” amount of fat – “neither too little or too much.”

So if you are looking for love take some deep cleansing breaths at work and make sure to watch your carbs.

2. You’re Not Feminine Enough

Maybe the reason you haven’t meant anyone is because your jawbone is too big or your cheeks aren’t full enough.

Such were the factors of attractiveness found in another riveting study about what men find attractive in women. Turns our men are more attracted to women with feminine features, especially when they are looking for a “fling” or short-term relationship. When looking for a more long-term mate, however, men many actually prefer less attractive/feminine women because naturally women who are attractive are more likely to be unfaithful.

So either you are unfeminine and therefore unattractive or attractive but a whore and only destined for one-night stands. Great.

3. You Make Too Much Money

A recent study from the Pew Research Center has found that 40% of mothers are now the family breadwinners. While this is great news, it turns out that making more money than your partner can lead to the demise of your relationship.

Half of the participants surveyed thought a mother working outside of the home is bad for marriages and even bad for the couple’s children.

So does that mean we can look forward to another study is 5 or 10 years that shows us how out earning their partners resulted in divorce for many women?

4. You’re Too Smart

Maybe you look to smart to find a man.

According to a study from the University of Texas at Austin men are more attracted to unintelligent looking women, particularly because they feel such women would be more willing to have sex with them. Appearing sleepy, intoxicated, silly or childish were other signs of attractiveness as well, but again only for one-night stands or short term relationships. When looking for a more long term partner these qualities lost their appeal.

5. You’re A Feminist

Feminists hate men right? We think they are all evil, terrible, unfair monsters that live to see us take a back seat to their success while we cook and clean to meet their every need.

Nope that’s actually not the case, but the stereotype of a man-hating feminist is something that is all too common. So much so that when a woman identifies as a feminist she may find that her dating pool dwindles. I know many fearless feminists that have had a hard time dating because they identify as feminists but it is my hope that times are changing and that men (and women) will look for partners that are just as feminist minded as they are.

And as for all these “studies,” well if you ask me they are a load of BS so if you’re single take a dance break and put your hands up!

Photo credit: Photo by LyndaSanchez used under a Creative Commons license.


Jerome S
Jerome S7 months ago


Jim V
Jim V7 months ago

thanks for sharing.

Jim Ven
Jim V1 years ago

thanks for the article.

Mary K.
M. C4 years ago

Men and woman are just different, that will never change !

Melania Padilla
Melania P4 years ago

What if you choose to be singe?? Have you considered that?

Stacey Toda
Stacey Toda4 years ago

Is still being single the same as being single again?

Myriam G.
Myriam G4 years ago

Dear John,
I believe you, I'm sure this woman was very disappointed to see you go. It's probably her loss.

Still, I wouldn't be shy too smile to Gene J...

John Doe
james rico4 years ago

myriam of course every one is different with different tastes. and birds of the the feather flock together. to each his own. i can understand that.but no one can denie my exsperience as to what i knew to be true unless they were their too.i have had woman here make posts that the woman was not sad to see me go. but then again if i said this much on a public forum then why would i lie.i had left lyichburg VA at 2pm that day for richmond VA left richmond for DC where i had to get a bus to NYC to get another bus to NJ. so this was at the bus station in DC it was 10pm i was tired. and i just thought that if this woman wanted to meet me so much. and at the last minute she did not smile. then this was not someone i would want to have a forever relationship with. it could be a regional thing but in NJ thats the way it is. in south florida it is different. it was hot the 30 of june too

Myriam G.
Myriam G4 years ago

Dear John D
please don't say that a similar experience (an attractive woman staring) could never happen to Gene J. You see, sometimes, people's demeanor can be far more attractive than their looks. In fact, some people are so tolerant, open, intelligent and caring that it actually shows in their looks. I've read several posts by Gene J, they are always well-thought and altruistic. I find Gene J very attractive.
(So, Gene J, be warned; if you come to Montréal and you find yourself waiting at a bus station, and there you see an attractive 44-yo staring at you, smiling, it just might be me...)
See, John? intelligence, tolerance, openess ; that will get a woman smiling... at least a woman like me.

GGma Sheila D.
GGmaSAway D4 years ago

It's said that laughter is the best medicine and I must agree. Thank you for giving some of the best laughs I've had this week. John D - you made my night.