‘Church Ladies Are Having The Best Sex,’ Says Abstinence Activist

Pushing back against a report that teen pregnancy rate in the US is at a nearly 40-year-low due to contraceptive use, America’s leading advocate for abstinence-based sex ed has claimed that comprehensive sex-ed programs are “based on profound ignorance about human nature” and that “the church ladies are having the best sex.”

Leslie Unruh, co-founder of Abstinence Clearinghouse, which has 4,000 affiliates in 50 states and 105 countries, told Truth that Transforms, the flagship radio program of Truth in Action Ministries, that “all the data” backs abstinence-only-until-marriage education.

This despite figures from the Centers for Disease Control (CDC) that states with abstinence-only-until-marriage policies continue to see higher rates of teen pregnancy compared to states with schools that teach comprehensive sex education. The CDC says that “strong pregnancy prevention messages directed to teenagers” and the “increased use of contraception” may “have contributed to the recent birth rate declines.”

“The teen birth rate increased during the height of the federal investment in abstinence education,” Bill Albert of the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy told Salon. “Researchers who have looked at it closely over the past several years tend to believe it is contraception that is making the difference.”

In 2007, a federal report showed that abstinence-only programs had “no impacts on rates of sexual abstinence.” Other research has shown that abstinence-only strategies could deter contraceptive use among teenagers, thus increasing their risk of unintended pregnancy.

Unruh is referring to one study which showed that abstinence-only sex education for 12-year-olds delayed intercourse for only two years — not until marriage. The study group was also held in question as not quite applicable to the question of abstinence-only.

Tracy Clark-Flory reports for Salon that other social conservatives have twisted the fall in teen pregnancies to claim that abstinence-only sex education works.

Thanks to the efforts led by Unruh, 37 states require sex education that includes abstinence, 26 of which require that abstinence be stressed as the best method.

Truth that Transforms host John Rabe described comprehensive sex-ed programs, particularly those which include discussions about sexual orientation and gender identity, as “ideological indoctrination.”

“Exactly,” said Unruh, “and you know the information is really designed to have all kinds of family, regardless of how many people were involved, it’s about [sexual] orientation, gender identity, it’s out there, and I’ll tell you it’s really based on profound ignorance about human nature and what makes for a healthy family. It really is the next stage in really the self-destruction of what we call the traditional family and a healthy society. So it’s a fight worth getting involved in and fighting for our kids.”

“[Those who abstain from sex before marriage] have long-term relationships. They have better marriages. They make more money. They’re happier. All the data is there,” she claimed, “and it is time for everybody to recognize it, both in the church and in the public sector that you know what, the church ladies are having the best sex!”

Possibly there’s data on that — but church ladies have a higher divorce rate than non-Christians and atheists.

This is far from the first bizarre statement from Unruh. Martha Kempner on RH Reality Check recounts how in a TV appearance with Unruh, a camera unfortunately caught Kempner with a look on her face that screamed “is this women crazy?”

In a May 2007 appearance on Fox News about a birth control pill that suppresses menstruation, Unruh said:

“This is a real war on women and war on children. We do not need big pharma, National Abortion Rights Action League, who have had a war on children and on babies, to now come in with another drug and to play God! … wanting us, women, who are feminine and have fertility and it’s something to celebrate, wanting us to be like men — c’mon!”

And an investigation by Amanda Robb for MORE discovered that Unruh married her husband six months before the birth of her first child.

In 2006, Citizens for Responsibility and Ethics in Washington (CREW) requested an IRS review of the Abstinence Clearinghouse and the Alpha Center, a crisis pregnancy center, also founded by Unruh.

In their letter to the IRS, CREW states that the Abstinence Clearinghouse and the Alpha Center have both violated tax law by not reporting any lobbying activities, even though CREW has found that they both engage in such actions. In addition, CREW claims that the Alpha Center has violated additional tax law by endorsing a candidate for office.

Related stories:

Big Decline in Teenage Pregnancy Rate Thanks to Contraception

Teens Using Better Birth Control, Says Report

Tennessee Senate Approves Bill To Warn Students That Hand-Holding Is A ‘Gateway Sexual Activity’

Screengrab: Dana Carvey as the Church Lady on Saturday Night Live


Huber F.
Huber F4 years ago


Kellyanne M.
Kellyanne M5 years ago

I will admit I had intercourse before marriage. Yet my husband of 30 years , with full knowledge of this fact still married me. We are still blissfully happy, with 3 children of our own.

Anna M.
Anna M5 years ago

It's Sunday. Maybe I can get some.

/end sarcasm

Norma V.
Norma Villarreal5 years ago

Church ladies are having the best sex....now isn't that special?

Maitreya L5 years ago

The early American puritans may have had decent sex at least, women could sue for divorce if their husband did not satisfy them sexually, and men could be excommunicated from the church if they "neglected" their wives needs. Plus some allegedly believed sex with Jesus was one of the rewards for good Christians in the afterlife.

Jane Barton
Jane Barton5 years ago

Virginity is only overrated for the "screwee", not the "screwer". The woman is merely a valueless
"hole", it's the RAPIST that gets what HE wants. Therefore, MEN are everything, WOMEN are
nothing, except for that one time they're a virgin.

Jane Barton
Jane Barton5 years ago

Yeeees, I want some of this hot sex that all these church people AREN'T having.

Amanda M.
Amanda M5 years ago

Mari G, right on! Virginity is highly overrated, and a bit of a burden, especially for women! Let's face it-the first time a woman has sex HURTS. Combine that with total ignorance about what to do, especially if the man is experienced, and you have a VERY stressful wedding night! I for one am GLAD I wasn't a virgin on my wedding night and knew a thing or two about pleasing my husband, otherwise I'd have felt like I was running a race and already behind. Combine that with the stress about the potential pain, worrying about the deposit we'd have to pay for bloodying the hotel room linens, the frustration about not knowing what to do sexually, and that would've been a nightmare instead of a honeymoon!

Not only that, but comprehensive sex ed studies have proven that that method of sex ed is the one that results in delayed sexual experimentation. The more teenagers know not just about contraception, but also human sexuality and physiology, the more they are able to protect themselves and not act out of sheer hormonal impulse. Not only that, but even if a teenager wants to wait until marriage for sex, he or she is going to need information about contraception if they want to plan and space their family (unless they're Duggar clones). Knowledge is POWER!

J.L. A.
j A5 years ago

So sad when science goes against preferred beliefs so proponents try to pretend that science is actually with their views...that kind of disconnect can lead to major mental health problems...

Rose Becke5 years ago