Are We Done With “Obeying” Yet?

It’s only a few short days until the highly anticipated nuptials of Prince William and Kate Middleton, and every aspect of the wedding is being highly analyzed.

Including the wedding vows.

Via the Daily Mail:

Kate Middleton will not vow to ‘obey’ Prince William in her wedding vows – following Princess Diana’s lead, it was claimed last night.

The bride-to-be will instead promise to ‘love, comfort, honour and keep’ her husband.

The couple have decided themselves what they want to say in their vows.

According to the article, although Diana refused to say “obey,” she was a rarity among the royals.  And even after Princess Di made the break from tradition, few women followed suit when marrying into the royal family.

So is it the centuries of tradition that lies within having a royal family in the first place that leave people so aghast at the idea that Kate will be skipping the “obey”?   Does it beckon back to the old stereotypes of “if a man can’t rule his home, how can he be expected to rule a kingdom?”  Or is it just that with the quaintness of a royal wedding in general, and the idea of a commoner being transformed into a princess, some expect a delicate, docile and pliant creature ready for bedding and breeding?

Should a princess be expected to say “obey”?


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Alicia N.
Alicia N6 years ago

no comment but thanks

Tracey D.
Tracey D6 years ago

The "Obey" line should be removed from all wedding vows.

Sheila D.
Sheila D6 years ago

Does anyone still say that? Don't think so.

Lynn Mitchell
Lynn Mitchell6 years ago


Heidi M.
Heidi M6 years ago

I can't remember the last time I attended a wedding where they used the word obey. It's archaic and I certainly would not have expected Kate and William to use it any more than anyone else.

Barbara W.

I see nothing wrong with omitting the word obey. I think any bride or spouse can think for themselves. I do not associate obeying with doing what is expected in royal protocol. I know they will do just fine. I know that in any relationship it is a two way street.

Nance N.
Nance N6 years ago

What a silly debate.

Angelica T.
Angelica T.6 years ago

So, seriously, who are the 5% saying yes? This sort of affirms my theory that there are people that come on Care2 just to be trolls and vote for something appalling just to rile everyone up. Get a life, people.

Jeanie Johnson
Jeanie Johnson6 years ago

Excellent! Who Cares! That is the best comment and the best option for response. No woman should ever in her life be expected, coerced, pushed, shamed into saying she 'obeys' another human.

Sue Griffiths
SUE Griffiths6 years ago

In your quick poll 'should a princess be expected to say obey', the choices are:- 1. NO--- 2. LEANING NO----3. LEANING YES----4.YES.
You've forgotten,----5.WHO CARES?