Arnold Schwarzenegger Reveals That He Had a Child With A Staffer

Former California Governor Arnold Schwarzenegger acknowledged that he had a child with a member of his household staff a decade ago.  The revelation came days after he and his wife, Maria Shriver, announced their separation after 25 years of marriage.  Shriver apparently moved out of their home months ago when she learned about Schwarzenegger’s transgression.  The staff member with whom Schwarzenegger had the child had worked in their home for 20 years.  She retired in January.

“I understand and deserve the feelings of anger and disappointment among my friends and family,” Schwarzenegger said in a statement to the LA Times.  “There are no excuses and I take full responsibility for the hurt I have caused. I have apologized to Maria, my children and my family. I am truly sorry.”

The former staffer said in an earlier interview that another man (her husband at the time) was the father.  The child was born before Schwarzenegger’s stint in office began.

Schwarzenegger asked that the media leave his wife and children out of the public eye in the wake of these revelations, and that’s certainly a request that journalists should respect.  The whole incident is even more tragic, given that Shriver stood by Schwarzenegger in 2003 when more than a dozen women came forward during the recall election, saying that Schwarzenegger had groped them.  Schwarzenegger first denied the allegations, then apologized, and Shriver openly defended her husband.  Shriver’s friends said that she had been unhappy for years, but felt that she could not move on until her parents had died and Schwarzenegger’s term as governor was over.

It’s shocking that this kind of behavior – in which women, while they did not file legal action against Schwarzenegger, explained that he had humiliated them – was not only accepted by California voters, was defended by his wife to whom Schwarzenegger had already been unfaithful.  It’s especially disgusting that Schwarzenegger wasn’t given more flak, given that Meg Whitman, during her race, was criticized heavily for her ability to be a good mother. 

But this seems to be the state of the political system in America, where women are given so little respect that political wives are expected to stand by and even speak on behalf of their husbands, regardless of how they are treated, and men believe that they can act with relative impunity.  Especially in the wake of the John Edwards scandal, it’s clear what damage our political system allows men to do, even as it holds women accountable for maintaining the fragile facade of “family values” that conservative politicians elevate so highly.

 

Photo from Wikimedia Commons.

123 comments

Kathleen D.
Kathleen D7 years ago

Sorry about the lack of clarity in my post. Hope you know what I was saying cause I don't want to have to re-post.

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Kathleen D.
Kathleen D7 years ago

Hey Diane; I truly am not angry or upset, just over the article. I too supported John Edwards, sent money for his presidential run, etc., etc. I've talked about his illicit affair in other articles, and, I think somewhere in this forum. I said there was once again hypocrisy on the right and that the play on the story surrounding Edwards went on and on. I was disqusted with him when I along with millions of others found out about his total disregard for his wife and family. A wife who was desperately ill and who by all accounts was the "love of my life" as stated by Edwards before his affair was found out. But I would say, the long-term ramifications are going to be far more damaging that Schwarzennegor's and it shouldn't be.
Edward's career is over and it could have been a incredible political ride for him but....
And, just so you know, I'm glad we agree on far more things than not.

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Diane L.
Diane L7 years ago

Kathleen, please, PLEASE don't be upset or angry about this. Yes, it's just a "discussion" and I think we agree more than we disagree on most things. I never said I condoned what Arnold did, and never liked him, so maybe you misunderstood where I was coming from. Just don't think it was worth all the HOOPLA. No, neither Weiner nor Clinton, nor JFK had a child as a result of their affairs, but now that you reminded me of it, John Edwards did, and I was a supporter of his as well. Makes you wonder how many others have that we'll just never know about.

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Kathleen D.
Kathleen D7 years ago

No person could have defended Clinton more than I when he was villified for his indiscriminate behavior with Lewinski. I guess I look at how egregious something is depending on the nature of the act. Wiener's showing his weaner did not equate to having an adulterous affair but the outrage shown by the right was unparalleled. Clinton's leaving a stain on a dress also does not compare with the adulterous affairs many on the right have had. nor do their acts equate to a child being born as a result of an adulterous affair.
I'm done with this conversation so you can have the last word. This is my opinion and was not meant to strike such controversy in postings. Just as your opinion is your's, neither of us is going to sway the other so might as well leave it alone.

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Diane L.
Diane L7 years ago

Kathleen, I couldn't agree more about Democrats apparently being kept to a higher standard, but remember, JFK screwed around with dozens of women while engaged to Jackie, while he was running for office and as both a Senator AND as a U.S. President. Bill Clinton? Well, we all know about Monica, and I thought he got a raw deal. He didn't let what he did interfere with his duties as PRESIDENT and was one of the best ones we've ever had. No, he was WRONG in denying what he did, but that was once again, between him and Hillary, UNLESS Monica stole government information while she was "doing" him.

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Kathleen D.
Kathleen D7 years ago

Another thing Diane; my business is nobody else's business because I am not on the taxpayer payroll. My position is he should not have run for office knowing there was a possibility his affair(s) were going to become an open book because it is a distraction and one cannot possibly fully attend to business when they are busy covering up their indiscriminate messes.
So, again, my business...nobody else's business (until such time I decide to run for political office).

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Kathleen D.
Kathleen D7 years ago

Ah; but so many people are hypocrites when it comes to politicians and their illicit affairs. It just depends on the side of the fence they are on. Putting that aside, Arnold and every other politician take an oath of office which is inclusive of high moral standing. It is pretty safe to say that a politician who lies or covers up affairs will not be honest about other matters in representing the American people. I take offense when Democrats are held to a higher moral ground and even prosecuted for their misdeeds but Republicans are not. You can say all you want that Arnold is no longer and as I've stated, as long as he stays out of political office I don't care about the prick. He is morally bankrupt and his past will follow him because I don't believe we heard the end of his despicable behavior.

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MD L.
Maitreya L7 years ago

Good point Diane (I can't send stars yet, but I would if I could). I'm no fan of Arnold, but I don't really except public figures to share all their personal secrets and sexual encounters. Personally I'm more concerned with how they do their jobs than about their sex lives. This incident doesn't speak well for his character, but it is between his family, the lady he had an affair with and himself.

Albert Einstein was a pretty horny guy who had a lot of affairs, but he seemed like a pretty good guy aside from that. Arnold is no Einstein of course, but having affairs alone doesn't mean you are a horrible person or not good at your job. Everyone has some kind of character flaw, it's part of being human.

There are plenty of things you can criticize about Arnolds policies, obsessing over his sex life seems kind of irrelevant, and maybe a bit voyeuristic. Though it does seem to be human nature to obsess over the sex lives of others. :-)

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Diane L.
Diane L7 years ago

AAaaaah, but the point is, Kathleen, that he isn't in office NOW, and this was just made public. No, he didn't lie and he wasn't even accused "before", was he? Yes, his kids are affected, and one of them has decided to use "shriver" for his last name.

As I said, I don't give a damn, but just curious.....you said he "kept secrets". Are you suggesting that when he ran for office, he should have just "spilled it all"? I'm sure you have "secrets" and so do I. I won't lie about anything IF I'm asked (if it's important) but should I go out of my way, for example, to tell anyone I might become involved with about every relationship or affair I've ever had? My "ex" fiancee asked me once how "many" men I'd slept with before him. I told him it was none of his damned business. Was I a virgin? Of course not. I'd been married, had two kids and divorced. He actually had set me up with a friend after I got divorced, so he knew I wasn't. Was I when I got married? Again, it wasn't relevant to anything and none of HIS business. Now, I wouldn't have lied just to make him "feel better", if I had been a real "floozy" (I wasn't) but since it wasn't relevant to that relationship, not any reason to answer one way or the other.

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Kathleen D.
Kathleen D7 years ago

Precisely! Schwarzenegger didn't speak up and deny it before because it wasn't divulged before. It's a shame so many are willing to keep secrets in order to protect these freakin politicians. He is not in office now and I could care less what he does with his life as long as he doesn't run for political office again. Anyway, he's a putz and really not worth anyone's time but unfortunately lives have been forever altered because of his piss poor decisions. One more thing, it's not between just he and Maria, his children have been betrayed by the bastard as well and I would say they probably have a lot to say.

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