Some Women Deserve to be Beaten and Raped a British Survey Says

The British (men and women) really don’t like it when women dress provocatively.  In a recent survey conducted by the British Home Office, 1 in 7 Brits responded that it was acceptable for a man to hit or slap their wife or girlfriend if she dressed in sexy or revealing clothes in public. 

Let’s delve a little deeper into the numbers.  Fewer Brits responded that it was acceptable for a man to hit or slap a woman if she cheated on him or didn’t treat him with respect–two actions most people would agree are more serious offenses, or at least I thought.  And don’t get me started on the “acceptable in some circumstances but not in others” numbers. And about a quarter of the respondents believe that if a women is raped or sexually assaulted, she is partly to blame if she was wearing sexy or revealing clothing.

Wow.  Just, wow.  So, what exactly is up with the Brits and their attitudes toward women dressing provocatively and where on earth does the leap from too much cleavage to violence come from?  And would the same survey in the US result in the same answers?  I don’t know the answer, but I do know that dressing provocatively does not mean a woman is “asking for it.”  In fact, this line of thinking makes men seem so powerless–like animals who can’t control themselves around exposed legs or plunging necklines. 

The Scottish advocacy site, This Is Not An Invitation, explores how focusing on the way a victim is dressed distracts us from the actions of the perpetrator:

“In rape trials exactly the same criteria for judging a woman’s reputation emerge again and again. The young woman who dresses quite normally in today’s fashions is put on trial because of it. The purpose of such distortion is to give jurors the impression that the woman is provocative and therefore to blame for the assault.

The identification of women as ‘prey’, liable to be attacked on the basis of how they dress or as a result of all kinds of perfectly normal behaviour, is a reflection of women’s subordinate situation in society at large. The misogyny behind such depictions may not be apparent to most jurors, it is so taken for granted.”

Jacqui Smith, the Home Secretary said that “Violence against women and girls is unacceptable in any form no matter what the circumstances are,”and that more need to be done to change attitudes that condone violence against women. Smith has called for a national debate on domestic violence in the UK. (TimesOnline)

Questions and Response Rates

A. How acceptable or not do you think it is for a man to hit or slap his wife or girlfriend in response to her nagging or constantly moaning at him?

2% Acceptable
14% Acceptable in some circumstances but not in others
82% Never Acceptable

B. How acceptable or not do you think it is for a man to hit or slap his wife or girlfriend in response to her flirting with other men?

3% Acceptable
10% Acceptable in some circumstances but not in others
86% Never Acceptable

C. How acceptable or not do you think it is for a man to hit or slap his wife or girlfriend in response to her being dressed in sexy or revealing clothes in public?

6% Acceptable
14% Acceptable in some circumstances but not in others
79% Never Acceptable

D. How acceptable or not do you think it is for a man to hit or slap his wife or girlfriend in response to her having an affair/cheating on him?

1% Acceptable
7% Acceptable in some circumstances but not in others
90% Never Acceptable

E. How acceptable or not do you think it is for a man to hit or slap his wife or girlfriend in response to her not treating him with respect?

2%  Acceptable
9%  Acceptable in some circumstances but not in others
88%  Never Acceptable

Photo courtesy of Carrie Soderburg 


Marion W.
Marion W.6 years ago

I like to walk along the beach nude in the summer; doesn't mean I want to screw anyone.

Ann W.
Ann W.6 years ago

Karl, you need to stop holding it all in or you are going to explode. I'm not saying go and rape someone but do something. No one deserves to be raped. I realize you are angry and some women tease you, but not all women do that and even the women who tease you don't deserve it. If it makes you that angry, get up and walk away, don't rape them. It's that simple. Its scary how many men on here think it's okay including you. This is your problem, not women's.

Karl Grosvenor
Karl Grosvenor6 years ago

I don't know if women deserve to be raped,but many don't help themselves,there are men that rape defenceless old ladies and children,they are scum who need killing,but we are talking about when women prick tease men into assaulting them in a sexual way,personally I hate women who literally rub their genitals in your face then curse and swear at you for daring to look at what they are showing,I have seen vaginas' and nipples on full display and these women wonder why men's mouths are open and their penises are erect,but the truth is they do it for power,they get off on teasing,as well as using their sex to get what they want from men,mainly money,they know men need sex,but women can take it or leave it,I am in my 40's and have never dated or had sex,and really hate women who prick tease,and there's a lot of women who do it at various degrees,and at all ages,from 14 up to their 40's,now when at home and feeling sexual I fantasise over girls like this and watch porn,but in real life I am unable to get a women other than for friends,so avoid going out especially at night or at venues like beaches in the summer,because the temptation to let myself go is overwhelming,these women take men to the brink,then push them away like they are nothing,why many more women aren't raped is a miracle,I myself have always wanted a medical solution like an operation to rid myself of my sexual desires,then I can be free and not controlled by them,of-course if women dressed more conservatively then

Miranda Lyon
Miranda Lyon6 years ago

There are people who make me so regret my commitment to support free speech. Several of them have posted comments here.

Miranda Lyon
Miranda Lyon6 years ago

Justified? Never. Period.

Selma A.
Selma A7 years ago

Hey Alex I hope you seek counseling. Stay away from women in the meantime. Seriously. Spent time in jail yet?

Alex Brown
Alex Brown7 years ago

it's all bullshit women claim feminism and want equal rights but refuse to split the bill because theyre women and we have to pay for them we have to open the door for them what are they born without hands go open your own door. you want to be equal and so when you hit us we cant hit you why aren't we equal so if you hit me how come it's not right for me to hit you back. it's all bullshit, women who get raped get raped because they dress like sluts and lead people on and need to shut the fuck up. you dressed like a slut and got whats coming to you hell some of you tease us guys lead us on and then go cold on us you really deserve it so shut up and quit bitching about it when it's your own fault. if you didn't do any of those things none of this shit would happen and you wouldn't be on here bitching about it. and feminism and women's right is bullshit you claim equality in order to be treated specially because you're a woman just like the blacks and homos you're all the same hypocritical two bit scum!! you all make me sick.

Ricky M.
Ricky M.7 years ago

Lol, this is pretty funny.
Let's compare this to the fact that lots of women find it acceptable to destroy your property if you make them jealous. Both are retarded, and in both cases people take these idiotic relationship games far to seriously. The purpose of a relationship is my personal profit, just like a business deal or a video game.

James W.
James W.7 years ago

You will never get 100 percent in an opinion poll, even if the question was as basic as are you breathing. There is always a percentage of the population (roughly 10 percent) that will choose an answer as a joke or out of stupidity. Another thing to consider is intelligence, if 2 percent of the population is in mensa the 2 percent at the opposite end are as stupid as members of mensa are intelligent. I doubt you would find any intelligent person choosing any of these items as acceptable. It's likely that the positive votes are by the dumbest members of society.

Gary Harewood
Gary Harewood7 years ago

I think the system is flawed and will be so forever until we look at women as equals and respect their right to dress in whatever they like. Any woman who has had a drink or worn a short or revealing outfit is picked apart in court as deserving or asking for it if she is attacked.
We critisize other cultures as being backwards in their treatment of women yet we have a 7% conviction rate for rape cases in the UK. To me this is as bad as any "backward" culture and proves that equality is an illusion with women expected to know their place and to make do with having less rights than men.
Rape is a form of exerting control over the victim and men who do this should ALL be imprisoned in the hope that they will have the same done to them so they can feel as helpless as their victims. If we dont have a good enough deterent the situation will not improve.
Men who hit women should be on a register like sex offenders so women could check a new partner to vet him and cut down the chances of starting a relationship with a violent bully.