Gay Ottawa Teen Jamie Hubley Decides “It Hurts Too Much”

Last Friday, 15-year-old Jamie Hubley, the son of Ottawa city councillor Allan Hubley and his wife Wendy Barber, took his own life.  According to his final blog post, Hubley had hit rock bottom and decided that he couldn’t take it anymore.

Hubley looked happy from the outside, always smiling and giving everyone hugs. However, on the inside he was struggling with depression and the burden of the bullying that comes with being openly gay in high school. His recent blog posts document cutting his arms, images of bullying juxtaposed with the victims committing suicide, and quotes like “never underestimate how far someone will go to end the pain.”  On his YouTube Channel, Jamie had posted videos of himself covering the songs of artists that he admired.

The Ottawa area has seen a shockingly high number of teen suicides in recent years. Last November, 14-year-old Daron Richardson, the daughter of a former NHL player committed suicide. Another six young people killed themselves in June of 2010 and two more that same September — the start and end of the school year are the times when teens are most at risk.

The Liberal Party of Canada has called for the creation of a national suicide prevention strategy. Their motion, tabled in Parliament in October, was supported by the ruling Conservative Party of Canada. Teen suicide in Canada is three times higher than it is in the United States and, as Liberal health critic Hedy Fry noted, “suicide disproportionately affects gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender youth, aboriginals and seniors.” Stephanie Richardson, the mother of Daron Richardson, supported the Liberal motion, saying:

We’d like to ensure the conversations about youth mental health and suicide happens at every dinner table, school, hockey arena and mall across our country.

There is a facebook page in Jamie’s memory where various activities are being planned in his memory, including selling bracelets at high schools across the city of Ottawa. One of Jamie’s friends made this video in his memory, celebrating “the sweetest guy I knew.”

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Anti-Gay Bullying Leads to Another Teen Suicide

Mourning Parents Turn Grief Into Action on Teen Suicide

Give a Damn About LGBT Youth Suicide?

Photo credit: Screen capture from one of Jamie Hubley's YouTube videos.


s. ryan
p. q6 years ago

jesus mrs. b., you are the most uncompassionate person i've seen on care2 in quite a while. or maybe ever. cheers.

Jana B.
Mrs B6 years ago

I hate to be so harsh - but maybe kids in America don't realize how good they have it. Get over the petty crap and move on with your life. How selfish to take one's own life, leaving the relatives to a lifetime of sorrow. There are people starving in many parts of the world, people being tortured, limbs being hacked off, women being raped and their throats slit, children being sold into slavery and into the sex trade, young girls becoming victims of Female Genital Mutilation, do you think they're committing suicide? No. They're a lot stronger than that. They may be depressed, but they haven't sunk so low as to kill themselves. They're moving on with their lives and struggling to survive each and every day. I am disgusted with the last few generations of children in America (and Canada) who think that their life is oh, so miserable! Oh poor me! I am so depressed! I'm being bullied!...Why don't you move to Iran! Move to Africa! Move to any of those third world countries and you will see what depression REALLY is. Wake up and realize that you have it better than a lot of people in this world! Clothes on your back, food to eat, a roof over your head... and you commit suicide over bullying? Makes no sense to me. What a weak-minded person. That's my opinion and I don't really give a crap what anyone says about it.

Annmari Lundin
Annmari Lundin6 years ago

Tom Y.: Why don't you crawl back under that dirty rock you came from! How dare you accuse a 15 year old boy of causing his own bullying? How dare you? I think Jamie Hubley was very brave, but lacked the support of the people that should have protected him. The teachers and school leaders didn't do their job properly and other authoroties should have been available to him. Being a teenager is not very easy. Being a gay teenager is very difficult. Being a bullied gay teenager is one of the worst things you can go through. So, Tom Y.,ease up on your bigotry and see the victims!

Wendy W.
Wendy Walinski6 years ago

what a senseless tragedy! I am so angey at the way people can treat one another. Please stop, life is hard enough.

Val Away G.
Valerie G6 years ago

R.I.P. Jamie Hubley.
My thoughts are with his family and friends...

Val Away G.
Valerie G6 years ago

This is so tragic...
Les gens peuvent tellement être méchants lorsque confrontés à la différence.
Ignorance et incompréhension = Danger...

K s Goh
KS Goh6 years ago

Thanks for the article.

Jose M. C.
JOSE M. C6 years ago

Another problem I see is how the vast majority of the media portray teenage struggles. They make it seem like any negative event has to be an epic crisis that can only end in a world-changing victory or unspeakable tragedy. Teens are already inclined to think this way, and the last thing they need is constant reinforcement of such frequently irrational feelings.

Linda McKellar
Past Member 6 years ago

Mark, I also find truth in your belief that isolation requires community cooperation and brings people socially closer but sometimes the depression caused by isolation & the resultant social ills of alcoholism, glue sniffing & other "highs" tears at the family fabric. The loss of cultural identity is also a major factor. There are often not enough social supports in these isolated areas for these people either. Many northern communities do tend to be like extended families but the social "diseases" often become familial too.
As for my religious beliefs, I am also an admirer of people like Carl Sagan & Chopra as opposed to rantings by people like Chris Hitchens (spelling?). He is an antagonist who does more harm than good to anybody & is the equivalent of some religious fanatics. I do feel that some of the excessive religious fervour in some areas of the US & certainly in other religions around the world makes people struggling with identity feel they are somehow evil or deficient & that just exacerbates their personal struggle for identity...certainly not helpful.
Again, my friend, thanks for your thoughtful response & your open mindedness. All the best!

Linda McKellar
Past Member 6 years ago

Mark Alan-FIRST & FOREMOST, I must apologize publicly for accusing you of inaccurate data. That was TOTALLY my fault for skimming the article & not realizing the data applied to youths whereas I was aware that suicides in the general population are very close statistically. I feel like an idiot for not reading it completely. Very sorry!
I am proud of your stance. Everyone should be able to live as they are & not hide. I myself am asexual which, luckily for me, tends to fly under the radar because it is so little acknowledged. I was always getting the "when are you getting married & having kids" crap. There is little or no recognition of asexuality. I was always aware of my feelings.The difference is people always just thought I was shy or a prude or was hormone deficient. Nah! It was fortunate that I certainly never experienced the teasing or the scorn that many GLBTs unjustifiably experience. I did struggle with myself why I felt different. It never really depressed me but I had doubts until I actually heard such a "category" existed.
The tragedy is that narrow minded people cannot accept anything unfamiliar. This goes for race, sexuality, culture, you name it! It's called bigotry. Ironically, if they were really aware, many of their friends may be closeted! If they are true friends that should not change when they find out but it usually does!