Girls Are Good At “Wearing High Heels And Lots Of Pink”


A new survey of children ages two through twelve has revealed that as much as we parents often try to make certain that we are teaching our children that there are no real strengths or weaknesses in either gender, the kids themselves aren’t quite getting the message.

Readers of Highlights Magazine were asked questions about things boys are better at than girls, and vice versa.  The results?  A majority of kids still respond that boys are better at sports and video games.

As for girls?

“Being pretty wearing stuff boys can’t wear and wear make up. Having a lot of pink.”

“In cleaning houses because boys don’t sweep very well like girls do.”

“Girls are better at wearing high heels.”

Despite our ongoing efforts, it seems that children are developing more gender stereotypes, not less.  I can’t help but wonder if it’s time to break the “Free to Be You and Me” DVD back out in our own house, or bring my old favorite, “He Bear, She Bear,” back into the rotation at story time.

“There’s lots of things to do or be, no matter if we are He or She.”


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Teresa Wlosowicz
Teresa W5 years ago


Teresa Wlosowicz
Teresa W5 years ago


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christine moore
christine moore5 years ago

“Girls are better at wearing high heels.” Apparently someone has never seen a drag queen strutting around. :)

I prefer my shoes comfortable, thank you.

I am so glad I was raised the way I was! I liked playing dress up but also loved my t-shirt, jeans, and sneakers. I had barbies, hot wheels, a doll house, legos, an erector set and a dirt bike, but preferred a ten speed because I could go faster. I was encouraged to get dirty, build stuff and take things apart to figure out how they worked, have had plenty of cuts and bruises, even broke a tooth being a dare devil :) I wasn't ever told I couldn't do something because it was for boys or it was "un-lady-like". And guess what? I'm still a heterosexual woman.

Although I have been asked if I was a lesbian in part because I'm confident in whatever I wear, don't like wearing make-up regularly and am handy with power tools ... And once had a boyfriend that got pissed at me because I knew how to install a new front porch light and tile the bathroom floor better than he did. We didn't last long.

I'm having a baby girl in September and she will be raised to be her own person too :)

Jerry t.
Jerold t6 years ago

My son won't marry a dyke, and my daughter won't marry a fag. How shall I ever be modern?
From gender bender to gender blender. What a whirlwind of insanity.
A girl in a suite is almost as ugly as a man in a suite.
Men or woman accomplish nothing. People do. We work together, or we just don't work.
Helicopter people, fly away. These kids know who they are. Quit trying to bend them to you're purpose.
No difference??? I can go to bed with a man and actually get some sleep. Well, at least a real man.

Sarah M.
Sarah M6 years ago

so sad

Stephen Gyetko
Stephen Gyetko6 years ago

Damn! What year is it? I thought it was 2011, not 1955. Sheeesh!

Gergana Krasteva
Gergana Krasteva6 years ago

We cannot expect from the generations of women to be strong, intelligent and among everything independent, if we raise them in a world where stereotypes are still vallid in the society.

Don Go
Don Go6 years ago

Hmmm... that is quite interesting.
I don't know exactly what starts gender stereotypes... when I was a kid, I loved barbie, pink and wanted to be a ballerina.

Now I hate pink and barbie, and I wanna be an artist. I'm very pro-choice and gender equality too.

I think the preconceptions of a child may not be as important as how the child learns from it or is corrected, and what they interpret those preconceptions to mean as they grow older.

Kate Kenner
Kate Kenner6 years ago

i have worked with kids for years and yes, part of it is socialization but some it is what I call the "pink gene" and the "truck gene". That's just how they are. IT doesn't mean you don't; expose them to other options though. I remember years ago there was a kid with two dads. They bought him dolls and other such things. He wanted the cars and trucks though. men used to wear frills and wigs and dress like clothes. Does it really matter? It's the attitude that goes along with it.