Waitress Harasses Gay Parents — What Would You Do? (VIDEO)

If you were in a restaurant and overheard a waitress making homophobic and discriminatory remarks to a gay couple sat with their kids what would you do? What about if she refused to serve them on the grounds of their sexuality and, per state law, asked them to leave?

Well, in this ABC What Would You Do? segment we see what happens when both a lesbian couple and a male couple are subjected to just that kind of treatment in a restaurant in Texas where legal protections for LGBT people are severely limited.


Photo used under the Creative Commons Attribution License, with thanks to Marjie.

299 comments

Kate G.
Kate G.6 years ago

Mathew S, my heart goes out to you. My dad tried to change even to the point of having electroshock therapy, all because he did not want to be gay. He tried the navy, priesthood and marrying too, had 5 kids in six years because all he wanted to be was "normal", he took a long time to realize he was normal. He was a wonderful man and he did love my mom and he thought she was beautiful. He would have loved for it to be just that married happily ever after. Once when he was ill my mom came with us to the hospital and it was so cool to see my mom and dad interact together, it was as if they did not miss a beat, but you could see how much they did care for each other. He has passed and had some happy years after his acceptance of himself. He was born in Ireland to Irish Catholic parents and came to the states as a baby, it was very tough.

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Kate G.
Kate G.6 years ago

Wow, that was beautiful, sad, happy and sad.

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Kate G.
Kate G.6 years ago

Wow, that was beautiful, sad, happy and sad.

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jane richmond
jane richmond6 years ago

Discrimination of any kind is WRONG!

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Annmari Lundin
Annmari Lundin6 years ago

I was very touched by the message in the video, the brave and loving reaction from so many "bystanders" and the difference between Texas and New York in a similar situation. Thanks for sharing!

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Lika S.
Lika P7 years ago

I think it is just wrong to discriminate against ANYBODY.

It's not necessarily that kids need the "mommy and daddy" situation, it's just best if there are two loving parents. So some kids have a mom and a dad. Other kids have two moms, others have two dads. I'd say having a two parent household is better than a single parent household.

The one lady in the "lesbian" couple, it's insinuated toward the end of the segment that she lives that life daily, so it's not just acting and drama, she feels the discrimination daily.

Any family or couple getting refused at a public place, would be boycotted by me, and that particular group would get invited to eat at my house, with home cooking. I welcome everyone at my table.

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Kathleen D.
Kathleen D7 years ago

The man who took a stand against the behavior of the waitress was appropriate, even in the final response to her. People who are intolerant also push all the hot buttons they can and then claim they are being insulted by those who get fed up. The waitress/actress made a point of getting people riled (that was the intent, to provoke) and some simply sat looking uncomfortable or sheepish. Others took decisive action in letting the waitress know it was HER behavior that was inappropriate, not the lesbian couple.
I applaud with elation when people take a stand when others are being verbally or physically assaulted. There is nothing admirable about a bystander witnessing egregious acts and refuses to assist either by confronting (in a non-violent matter) or calling the police in physical situations. Our country has a great more on it's 'plate' to deal with than to concern ourselves with another's sexual orientation.

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Don Go
Don Go7 years ago

I pray to have the same courage those people do. I do not want to be the one who stands in the back.

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Teresa H.
Teresa Haller7 years ago

I would have had NO problem with telling the waitress to mind her own business, and that her work is to serve, not to condem.
I would certainly have talked to the manager also.

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Tana Williams
Tana Williams7 years ago

I saw the segment on TV and my reaction to that situation would not be able to be seen on TV, might even include cops. the waitress was way out of line with her "ism".

But the truly amazing thing is hearing the same "ism" being put forth on this thread. With all the science out there, both anecdotal and empirical, that the following is incorrect: "As to the "waitress," her concern was basically sociologically sound". It is true that a male "father figure" is a great idea, but it has been shown that single mothers and same sex couples do just as good a job of parenting as a traditional couple.
If animals don't have rights, that means we don't either. Our genus and family is that we are primates and come from the species(?) of Homo sapiens. Sorry, I believe that 4 leggers have rights the same as 2 leggers. I also believe we,like other animals, are omniverous, which means we eat whatever we get our hands on and so all that blather from the vegans is incorrect.
And, as far back as one wants to go, from any culture on the planet, you will find homosexuality as a common thing.

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