HAVE YOUR SAY: International Day Against Homophobia and Transphobia 2012


Thursday, May 17, is the International Day Against Homophobia and Transphobia (IDAHOT) and this year Care2 is bringing you personal stories from around the world on the state of LGBT rights and the fight to free everyone from anti-LGBT prejudice and discrimination.

But of course we want to hear from you, our amazing Care2 readers.

None of us could fail to be touched by the continuing rash of suicides that plague our young people, many related to anti-LGBT bullying.

So, in the lead up to IDAHOT, we want to know:

If there was an LGBT or questioning kid sitting in front of you right now who was having to deal with anti-LGBT discrimination in their home-life or at school, what would you say to her? What would you want him to know?

Let us know by commenting below. We’ll pick out some of our favorite answers to highlight in a separate post, so please share your wisdom.

And, of course, make sure to look out for all the wonderful IDAHOT stories to come!


Related Reading:

Hillary Clinton Marks IDAHOT (VIDEO)

Homophobia: We Didn’t Speak And Now We Can’t

Be the Change: 5 Simple Ways to Fight Homophobia

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John Kramer
John Kramer5 years ago

All the gays and lebians, who live in Massachusetts, should write letters to thier state represenatives and state senators to tell them to legalize prostitution in that state.

Rin S.
Rin S5 years ago

There was no mention of this, at all in Australia. Heavily disappointed.

Grace Adams
Grace Adams5 years ago

I wonder even more about the heterosexuals who are so extremely uptight about sex in general that they lash out at everyone who does not exactly conform to their uptight standards. In high school I was afraid of boys because I was afraid my mother would kill me if I ever got mixed up with a boy. Probably an over-reaction on my part--but my mother did come on awfully strong about everything.

BMutiny TCorporationsAreE

Since I am a big History nut, I would cite as examples all the wonderful contributions people have made from recent to ancient times, who were LGBT.
Since I am a fiend for the arts [more Classical than modern!], I would cite all the artists.
Since I am totally committed to Anthropological Studies, I would take this young person on a tour around the world {thru books!} showing how indigenous cultures often were more than just "tolerant", but specially HONORED LGBT people for special Spiritual and Creative and Healing qualities they were believed {with evidence!} to have.
Since I am very Academically- and Book-oriented, all I can say is, that would work with ME if I were that kid!
These would serve as inspirations..... and show how PETTY and IGNORANT the bullying was really....

Phyllis s.
Phyllis S5 years ago

I would want the kid to know how fabulous gay people are ! I would want the child to know how much LGBT community has contributed to my life in ALL areas.I would tell the child it is not a "sin", or strange or even different. Not here in NYC anyway!!! My babies grew up with LGBT nursery school teachers and you know what? NO ONE has ever compared to their brilliance or creativity!!!

Brenda Y.
Brenda Y.5 years ago

It would be hard to know what to say. That it has taken me, a 38 year old woman since high school to completely come out. That I know it is hard, due to religion, society, bigotry...all of those things. That there are people who will love you for who you are. Love is beautiful, no matter if it is with a same sex, Transgender, any partner. Love is beautiful. Being yourself is amazing. So to find someone to talk to and to stay strong and to be who they are.

Kathy Perez
Kathy Johnson5 years ago


Nicole McIntyre
Nicole McIntyre5 years ago

I can answer this question because I have been in that situation before. It's so ridiculous that a parent, nevermind a friend or bully, could even fathom discriminating against you because of your sexuality. I am not gay but I have many gay friends who are not accepted at home and who have faced cruelty at school or in public places. It's just ridiculous to me and I've never seen a problem with it at all. I'm not too sure what people are scared of, really! Are you scared that a gay person is going to hit on you? Cuz if so, I think you should be flattered.

Anyway, to answer the question.. I would tell them that I love them very much and that there is and will be so many people out there who feel the same. I would say that they are a much better person than the person who is discriminating against them. I would say that love always wins and that they are winning because they can love and accept themself as a gay individual in this world. Hate never benefits anybody or anything. I would say that coming out was the first step and the best step. Accepting yourself is the most important thing and sometimes there will be others that will continue to hold prejudice but just know that you are better than that. You were made uniquely and beautifully and if anybody tries to give you shit for who you are, send them to me. And just remember that you are not alone and there are others like you and there are people who will fight for your rights. I will.

Josha N.
Josha N5 years ago

Even if it seems hard right now, think about who you want to be and become that person. Not the fearful, hurt bullyvictim they want you to be. Don't let them hold you back, because you can do it! You can be that balanced, rational and kind person you've always wanted to be, hand in hand with the person you love - no matter what gender they are!

Anita Wisch
Anita Wisch5 years ago

Thankfully, the children of today, will be the decision makers of tomorrow. Most kids know someone who is gay, lesbian, trans, questioning, bi, and even some straight people.

They don't care! They are OK with their friends, parents, and people in general, just being happy and in a loving relationship.

Sadly, we have to wait for more of the "old dinosaurs", and their rigid beliefs to die, before our world will be a much more inclusive place.