Lesbian Couple Kicked Out of Restaurant for Harmless PDA

Even though it’s 2013 and we should be past this already, it’s hard out there for a same-sex couple. Even in Canada. Recently, a lesbian couple was kicked out of a Quebec restaurant.

Why don’t you try to guess the reason. Was it for:

A) Throwing their Birkenstocks at innocent customers?

B) Refusing to take their 12 cats outside?

C) Showing affection in a socially appropriate way?

If you guessed A or B, then you are adorable — and also wrong. A lesbian couple was in fact thrown out of a restaurant by the manager after one woman hugged and kissed the other on the cheek.

Quel scandale! Everyone knows that if you’re going to go on a date you need a chaperone, and, if there is dancing, you gotta leave room for the Holy Ghost.

I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt. I understand why — in twenty-freaking-thirteen — some people might still be shocked at the site of an out and open same-sex couple. A same-sex couple’s ability to be honest about their relationship is a very new development. If you are only accustomed to seeing couples of different sexes, the deviation from the norm can be jarring.

That is, however, no excuse. I find that, as homophobia becomes less and less tolerated, the holdouts will try to prove their acceptance of the LGBT community by saying that they don’t have a problem with gay people, but golly, do they have to throw it in everyone’s faces?

The short answer is yes. Yes they do, at least if they want to. Because what some people call throwing sexuality in everyone’s faces is more than likely just normal, innocuous PDA. Simple hand-holding, a peck on the cheek, just normal stuff that hetero couples do every day of their lives. You see, when you’re surrounded by one thing all the time you don’t necessarily notice it. It’s only when confronted with something else that you realize what was there all along.

I often think of culture as like air. We move through it, just living our lives and not even noticing this thing that is so crucial to our very survival. If suddenly something else is pumped in, we notice. It’s not as though there was nothing there to begin with; we were just so used to it that it became white noise.

As society changes, what we encounter in our daily lives and what we come to expect can become a bit shaken up. This is good, though. Not just for people who have become more accepted. This is an opportunity to really examine our prejudices. For example, if you’re OK with a different-sex couple holding hands, is there any reason to be against same-sex couples exercising the same privilege? If so, why? This is the process of growing as a person.

In the restaurant’s defense, the owner has taken full responsibility for the manager’s extremely bad decision. However, the manager and his homophobia are still employed at the restaurant. You can sign the petition to have the manager removed for treating this lesbian couple so poorly.

Change isn’t always easy, but with work we can make the world a little more fair for everyone.

Photo Credit: Sarah Salix via Flickr


Polly Churchman
Polly Churchman4 years ago

Calling all people in Montreal... go to this restaurant and show public displays of affection as often as possible, gay straight, bi and other. haha

John B.
John B4 years ago

Thanks Mindy for the article. Petition signed.

scarlett g.
.4 years ago

Appropriate Behaviors out in public applies to ALL!! Affectionate behavior included!!

Lisa D.
Lisa D4 years ago

I absolutely love the way this story was written! 10 points to the writer!

Alexandra G.
Alexandra G4 years ago


Past Member 4 years ago

Thank you.

PJ Chartrand
PJ C4 years ago

alessio g., gay and lesbian people have children all the time so your plan is hardly going to end the human race. le sigh

PJ Chartrand
PJ C4 years ago

Living in Ottawa rumoured to be the most boring large-ish city in the world Montreal has long had the reputation for being an open city decades before GBLT people finally got basic human rights in Canada so I'm at a loss to understand how this could happen especially with equal marriage rights firmly established.

The years I volunteered with the Vagina Monologues, in Ottawa, I've been in clubs and restaurants with a cast and crew that are straight and lesbian women who were hugging, kissing and even dancing together and never, ever, did anyone find fault with it.

Karen H.
Karen H4 years ago

Firing the manager won’t solve anything. There should be training, as there is for sexual harassment. “This is not right” should be taught to all employees. And if they have a problem with it, then they should seek employment elsewhere. Like Hobby Lobby.
If a couple—same sex or opposite sex—is making out for an extended period of time or getting hot & heavy perhaps it’s time to “get a room” and leave the restaurant.

John S.
Past Member 4 years ago

But Mindy, and you colleagues, you do realize I can't believe any story you tell. could but it really would be remiss of me, as you tend to lie outright. For example: on these story, "He apologized again during a radio interview, but added that the restaurant has surveillance video that shows the couple making out for 16 minutes." And then later in the article "I’m very open-minded. I own (gay clubs in the village),” Sergakis said. “Did the girls do anything really indecent? I don’t think so. But was it appropriate for the restaurant? I don’t know. If I had been there, I wouldn’t have asked them to leave, but I would have tried to make them understand why they should stop.”