One Mother Takes On the FDA’s Anti-Gay Donation Policy

Imagine losing your son to suicide. Then, taking solace in the knowledge that at least his organs would be able to help other people live their lives, finding that your son’s eyes were rejected for transplant solely because he was gay.

Alexander Betts Jr. was 16 when he attempted suicide in July of 2013. He’d been outed as gay at school and tormented by his classmates for his sexuality, his mixed-race heritage and his cleft lip, all of which is all believed to have contributed to his suicide attempt. That act left Betts in a serious condition in the hospital, and not long after, he unfortunately died.

In the weeks before his death Betts had signed up to be an organ donor, and his mother Sheryl Moore made the difficult but admirable decision to keep her son’s body alive for four days after brain death so as to ensure that his organs would be viable for transplant. There’s one thing she didn’t bargain on, however, and that is the FDA’s anti-gay donation policy.

The FDA’s donation guidelines specifically rule out certain tissue donations if a man has had sex with another man in the past five years, saying that this “behavior” is a risk factor for Hepatitis B and HIV.

Specifically, while Betts could donate his heart, lungs and kidneys, his corneas were rejected because he was believed to be gay and had an unknown sexual history.

When Betts’ mother noticed that her son’s corneas hadn’t been donated due to the FDA’s rules, she was very upset. She is quoted as saying: “My initial feeling was just very angry because I couldn’t understand why my 16-year-old son’s eyes couldn’t be donated just because he was gay.” Moore is also aware that her son would have been banned for life from donating blood because of his sexuality. “This is archaic, and it is just silly that people wouldn’t get the life-saving assistance they need because of regulations that are 30 years old.”

The FDA maintains that the donation policy is sound based on the elevated HIV risk that gay men face. For instance, about 50 percent of all people living with HIV in the United States are gay men, yet they only make up about 4 percent of the population, with over half of all new infections occurring among MSM.

We’ve previously discussed the compartmentalizing that goes into banning men who have sex with men from donating blood while failing to inquire into the sexual histories of heterosexuals who may be far more promiscuous than your average gay man. However, the tissue donation ban is uniquely suspect because in those very same regulations it says the following is also banned:

1. Persons who have had sex in the preceding 12 months with any person described in criteria 1 through 4 of this section or with any person who has HIV infection, including a positive or reactive test for HIV virus (Refs. 17 and 18), hepatitis B infection (Ref. 64), or clinically active (symptomatic) hepatitis C infection (Refs. 65 and 66).

2. Persons who have been exposed in the preceding 12 months to known or suspected HIV, HBV, and/or HCV-infected blood through percutaneous inoculation (e.g., needle stick) or through contact with an open wound, non-intact skin, or mucous membrane (Refs. 18 and 64).

With these provisions in mind, it is impossible for the FDA to claim that the five year deferral on MSM donating tissue is solely to guard against HIV/Hepatitis transmission when in the very same set of regulations it basically allows heterosexuals who have definitely had sex with someone who is HIV positive to have only a 12 month deferral period.

That means a man who sleeps with an HIV-positive woman, for instance, would only be banned for a year. To extend that further, a man who has slept with many HIV-positive women without taking precautions, would still only be banned for a year.

The extra four years on the deferral then is solely for gay and bisexual men, thus suggesting that this “behavior,” as the FDA calls it, is of itself a health risk akin to intravenous drug use — which is not supported by medical science.

Moore, who is a CEO of three firms that oversee indexed annuities for the insurance sector, now says she plans to add her voice to a growing body of activists, medical experts and politicians who are all calling on the FDA to revise the bans on MSM donation.

In the meantime, Moore has found some comfort in the fact that she’s been able to trace where her son’s organs have gone, including that his heart now belongs to sport-loving 14-year-old boy who is doing well after the transplant surgery.

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JD She
JD She3 years ago

Yeah, last time I donated blood I read that homosexuals would not be allowed to donate and I thought...what?!
By "risky sexual behavior" I assume they mean anal sex. Must I point out that gay men are not the only people who do that? Yep. Straight people too. Women too. Perhaps they should put THAT question on their blood donor form: "Check "yes" if you have had anal sex in the last year." Most awkward blood donation question ever recorded.

Janis K.
Janis K3 years ago

Thanks for sharing. Sad.

john hall
john hall3 years ago

Just stupid so a person dies and another has a chance to live,see or have a better quality life and a goverment agency says hell no, we must protect you...why don't you let the patient make that choice and not FDA.

MK H.3 years ago

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Barry T.
Barry AWAY T3 years ago

I am just shaking my head. Where do the FDA find these people? Does FDA stand for Freaking Dickhead Administrators?

pam w.
pam w3 years ago

As a regular donor, I know that ALL blood is routinely tested, regardless of how I answer the pre-donation questionnaire. I also know there are thousands of people who would donate if there were no discrimination against them.

Donna T.
Donna T3 years ago

Dumb, as always.

Marcia Geiger
Marcia Geiger3 years ago

The FDA? They don't do really well in so many areas.
One of the fastest growing AIDS populations are the "senior citizens", who have become sexually active. The FDA better check DL for age groups!

Elizabeth F.
Elizabeth F3 years ago


Margaret Mary Davison

I really have no faith in the FDA anyway. But this....this is outright discrimination! It isnot based on science or medical research. It is clearly based in bigotry. What is just as sad is that so many waiting for transplants are forced to go without because of this!