Pastor Says Parents Should Punch ‘Girly’ 4 Year Olds


The Pastor of a North Carolina Baptist Church has been captured on audio urging parents to punch 4 year old boys if they ‘act girly’ and to ‘break their limp wrists’.

Sean Harris has been the Senior Pastor of Berean Baptist Church in Fayetteville (near Fort Bragg) for six years.

In audio obtained by the website Good As You, Harris says:

“So your little son starts to act a little girlish when he is four years old and instead of squashing that like a cockroach and saying, ‘Man up, son, get that dress off you and get outside and dig a ditch, because that is what boys do,’ you get out the camera and you start taking pictures of Johnny acting like a female and then you upload it to YouTube and everybody laughs about it and the next thing you know, this dude, this kid is acting out childhood fantasies that should have been squashed.”

“Can I make it any clearer? Dads, the second you see your son dropping the limp wrist, you walk over there and crack that wrist. Man up. Give him a good punch. Ok? You are not going to act like that. You were made by God to be a male and you are going to be a male.”

“And when your daughter starts acting to Butch you reign her in. And you say, ‘Oh, no, sweetheart. You can play sports. Play them to the glory of God. But sometimes you are going to act like a girl and walk like a girl and talk like a girl and smell like a girl and that means you are going to be beautiful. You are going to be attractive. You are going to dress yourself up.’”

Adds Harris:

“Can I take charge like that as a parent? Yeah, you can. You are authorized. I just gave you a special dispensation this morning to do that.”

Harris’ rant was part of the ‘Marriage Sunday’ campaign of those supporting North Carolina’s Amendment One campaign, which would define marriage as between a man and a woman in the state’s constitution. As well as his call to violence by parents, Harris condemns LGBT people as “sick” and says that rejection of the constitutional amendment will lead to ‘Muslims taking over’.

Harris’ church also runs the Berean Baptist Academy, which he describes as:

“A place where students receive an excellent elementary and secondary education in a warm, friendly, distinctively conservative atmosphere. Our staff and faculty are fully devoted followers of Christ and active members of conservative churches.”

“My prayer and goal for each student is that they become followers of Christ, grow in their understanding of the Bible, mature in the faith, and graduate with a Biblical worldview as tomorrow’s Christian leaders.”

Listen to audio of Harris courtesy Good As You:

Here is the Church’s website. Here they are on Facebook, where comments appear to be being deleted.


UPDATE: Pastor Sean has apologized for his words, saying, “I misspoke.” See the full story here.


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Image of Harris via Youtube screengrab


Kathy Perez
Kathy Johnson5 years ago

Gotta love the rednecks in the background "amen" ing. This world is a sad place. All little boys have compassion in the beginning, society crushes it. And we wonder why men oftenbecome violent. Why they rape women, fight and kill. We wonder why our girls grow up and become women who need to sleep around and dress slutty to fell like they have approval. This is why

Adrian Kleinbergen

It's getting to the point where I just hear or see the word "pastor" and I immediately become suspicious and hostile.

Sofia E.
Sofia E5 years ago

Sick and disgusting creature!

Karen Howard
Karen H5 years ago

"I just gave you a special dispensation..." And you are now God?
What does punching children accomplish? Anger, and the Bible says: "Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged." (Colossians 3:21)
and in James 1:20 "for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God."
So if you punch your kid when he's 4 or 5 (or younger) because you suspect he/she might turn out to be LGBT, you're going to make him/her angry. And if you provoke your children, they may become discouraged in your faith and leave it. According to the Bible, you're not producing righteousness.

Diana S.
Diana S5 years ago

(comment cont.) man suggests is disgusting, heart-breaking, obscene, and abusive. But it does need saying, because too many people are so terrified of the fall-out from breaking or having their child break any of the "Gender Inquisition's" rules, that they become card-carrying inquisitors themselves, and police their child's gendered behavior obsessively. Parents -- please don't break your child's spirit, make them hate themselves for being themselves, and ultimately lock them in to roles that are merely parts to play, not the truest expression of who they really are. Love them, empower them, and accept them for who they are. Ask yourself -- what you would have been like, and what might you have achieved, if your own parents had done the same for you?

Diana S.
Diana S5 years ago

Whether a child's sexuality will be expressed later on in life in "gay" or "straight" intimate relationships is not necessarily predictable based on "feminine" behaviors in boys or "masculine" behaviors in girls. However, it makes sense that such behaviors in children are anathema to certain groups of people, whatever the child's choice of partners may be as an adult. I submit that homophobia rises in large part from sexism. People are generally (not always) born one SEX or the other. GENDER is about the behaviors and roles people who are biologically male or biologically female are expected to take on by their culture. In many cultural/religious traditions, bio-men are taught that they must be aggressive, tough, take-charge, etc. In the same traditions, bio-women are taught that they must submit to male authority, be a care-taker for all, focus great attention on "keeping their looks," etc. Sex is pre-determined. Gender largely has to be not only taught, but constantly reinforced, with punishments and rewards. Gay/lesbian/bi/transgender people are the ultimate proof that gender is mostly a made-up story, told to keep women in their traditional roles: they are social outlaws already -- they can tell their own stories about what "real" men or women can do, feel, say, want or achieve. This makes them extremely dangerous to the status quo and those who benefit the most from it -- straight (and especially conservative) men! It shouldn't even need saying that what this

Deborah F.
Deborah F5 years ago

This is what terrifies me about the Bible Thumpers.

sheila l5 years ago

He should be removed from the pastor pulpit forever.

Ron Hemenway
Ron Hemenway5 years ago

This man just encouraged parents to abuse their children. I understand the first amendment protects the freedom to speak your mind, however this man is a leader of his church with a lot of influence and seems to be encouraging child abuse. I would think that the good pastors speech might be illegal. If any child were to get hurt by by parents following his advise might the good pastor be held liable.

Debbie L.
Debbie Lim5 years ago

What a freak! He should get punched and get his wrists broken like twigs.