Teenage Girl: I Want Anti-Gay Discrimination for My Birthday

What did you ask for on your 14th birthday? New clothes? The latest hit CD? Money? One Maryland girl, identified as Sarah, has a rather unusual birthday request. She wants her state legislature to deny equal marriage rights for same-sex couples.

Sarah, who is home schooled, told the Maryland Senate Judicial Proceedings Committee last week that it “would be the best birthday present ever if you would vote ‘no’ on gay marriage.”

The teen goes on to perpetuate long-disproved myths about LGBT families. “I really feel bad for kids who have two parents of the same gender,” she tells the Committee.

Yet numerous studies have shown that children raised by same-sex parents do just as well, if not better, than peers raised by opposite-sex parents. Evidence also suggests that child abuse is less likely to occur in lesbian families as compared to the general population.

Sarah also falls back on the old “definition” talking point – that society will somehow fall apart if the word “marriage” is expanded to include same-sex unions – and the idea that being gay is a frivolous lifestyle decision.

“People have the choice to be gay,” Sarah says. “But I don’t want to be affected by their choice.”

Click here to listen to an audio recording of Sarah’s full testimony.

Last month, a teen girl named Taylor appeared in a video calling for a boycott of Girl Scout Cookies after it was announced that the Girl Scouts of America allow transgender girls to join their troops. The video has since been removed, but like Sarah’s testimony, Taylor seemed to rely on erroneous conceptions about LGBT people as well as conservative religious bias.

It’s easy to speculate that these young people have been indoctrinated by their parents or other elders. In Sarah’s case, however, that’s somewhat beside the point. The real question is why the Maryland Legislature considers biased personal testimony – from anyone, not just a teenager – as evidence against a civil rights issue like gay marriage. If we were debating segregation, would it be right to consider the comfort zone of a professed racist?

The truth is that Sarah won’t be affected if gay marriage passes in Maryland, or anywhere else. Sarah and her family can still believe that being gay is wrong. They can continue to go a church that believes the same. They can continue to homeschool their children. No one will force them to attend a gay wedding. If Sarah grows up and marries a man someday, gay marriage won’t invalidate their union or force them to divorce.

But millions of Americans will be affected if Sarah gets her birthday wish. Their lives are being affected right now by people who share Sarah’s views. Gay and lesbian couples are being strained every day – financially and emotionally – because they don’t have the same rights and protections that the government grants to heterosexuals. Families are being torn apart. Children who need loving homes are still waiting.

The fight for marriage equality isn’t about changing a word, Sarah. It’s about giving LGBT families the same opportunities and freedoms that your family has had. It’s about fairness.

My own birthday is coming up in a few weeks and now I know what I want. Instead of gifts, I’ll be asking my friends and family to make a donation to a group fighting for LGBT equality. I think it would be the best birthday present ever if we voted “yes” on gay marriage.

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Austin Munn
Austin Munn4 years ago

I don't blame the girl. She was more than likely brainwashed with these views since birth, and doesn't know any differently. I've seen a lot of this growing up in the south.

Heather G.
Heather G5 years ago

Anon, if you don't think people of the same sex should marry then DON'T MARRY A MAN!! You keep saying marriage is between a man and women. Women is the plural of a woman. How many women are you married to? Maybe you could move to a country that bans homosexuality but encourages polygamy!!

Anon A.
Anon A.5 years ago

I dont think gay, lesbian or whatnot should be allowed to be married not beacause the world would end. I believe that vows of that magnitued should only be man and women. but you all would say your wrong this and that. well in america we get to choose our laws and our religion and i choose no to same sex marriage. But if they want to be life partners fine by me that is. If they want to moe to a country who allows that is fine also which there are only 11 the rest of the world says either do gender reasignment or no or just no. Marriage for centuries has been between MAN and WOMEN. If kids raised by the same sex are grown up fine well the simple answer is that there is so few same sex partners verus the rest of the population that it would be unfaire to say they will grow up fine or better

antonia maestre
antonia maestre5 years ago

She is a product of her parents and society. Very sad...

Annmari Lundin
Annmari L5 years ago

More than 300 comments and more will come. This issue is really getting people worked up. I'm glad to see that the majority are supportive of equal rights. I wouldn't expect anything else, this being Care2.
Bringing up a child into hatred of others and lying to that child about how other people will affect her negatively should indeed be considered child abuse. The parents who named their kids after nazis with the second name being Aryan, had their kids removed because it was obvious those kids would have a difficult future with names like Hitler.
Hopefully this megaphone kid will grow up to form her own opinions and realize that the entire world isn't revovling around hatred, bigotry and discriminatory birthday wishes!

Debbie L.
Debbie Lim5 years ago

That girl is just ignorant.

Laurie Greenberg
Laurie Greenberg5 years ago

Sarah, honey, I'm sorry that you have had a life filled with blind hatred and discrimination against large portions of the population of every community. My birthday wish for you is that God will bring your parents new brains- brains which function properly- and hearts that can love all people.

Hillary K.
Hillary K5 years ago

These poor brain washed children.

alice Johnson
alice J5 years ago

I don't think you realize that there are gay people everywhere. You know several of them. Yes, you do! The guy behind you in the grocery checkout lane; the guy who washes your car at the carwash, the repuglican who votes with you on fiscal conservatism, the guy in the next cubicle at work. You know what they think of you? They don't "give a hoot" about you.

Mark S.
Mark S5 years ago

Folks, keep your bible and keep it to yourselves. Quit trying to play God (and having the sense of power) and control other people. Thank you.