A Thank You from Constance McMillen

Last week, many were shocked and dismayed to hear that the Itawamba County School District, of Fulton, Mississippi, had canceled the district’s April 2 prom because Constance McMillen, a senior at the school, had asked that she be allowed to bring her girlfriend to the dance. With the help of the ACLU, Ms. McMillen is now suing the school for what she feels is a clear infringement of her rights and an act of blatant discrimination.

Members of the Care2 community joined thousands of others across America in asking that the prom be reinstated and that Ms. McMillen be allowed to attend the prom with her girlfriend.

As such, Constance McMillen has recorded a special message for everyone who has supported her in her legal fight:

While the grassroots effort to have the prom reinstated was growing in both size and strength, a number of high profiled offers of support for McMillen’s cause began to surface.

If you haven’t seen it already, the video below shows Constance McMillen being interviewed on CBS, and it may be of interest. In the video, McMillen discusses the events that led to the prom being called off, and also mentions what it was like for her to return to school after the district had decided to cancel the prom:

As an aside, I know many of you were concerned about McMillen’s welfare following the school district’s decision. While the response of her fellow classmates has been mixed, as this report demonstrates, it appears as though Ms. McMillen has firm support in her home life: 

McMillen said she didn’t want to go back to the high school in Fulton the morning after the decision, but her father told her she needed to face her classmates.

“My daddy told me that I needed to show them that I’m still proud of who I am,” McMillen told The Associated Press in a telephone interview. “The fact that this will help people later on, that’s what’s helping me to go on.”

During the course of the last week, several offers have been made by business owners who are more than willing to host the prom should the dance not be reinstated. USA Today reports:

As news of the board’s decision spread across the nation, Matthew Sheffield of the Mississippi Safe Schools Coalition said his office was flooded by people looking to help.

“We have so many people willing to donate money, resources, time,” he said. “We are trying to figure out what we are going to do.”

Among those is New Orleans hotel owner Sean Cummings, who offered to transport the students by bus from the northeast Mississippi city and host the prom at one his properties free of charge.

Film director Paul Saltzman offered to provide a screening of his movie Prom Night in Mississippi as part of the entertainment at a private prom for the students. The documentary, shot in 2008, is about the first racially integrated prom at Charleston High School in North Mississippi.

Meanwhile, Constance McMillen recently made an appearance on The Wanda Sykes Show. You can read more about what went on – including Wanda’s special gift to McMillan – by going here.

However, others have chosen to show their support for the school district’s decision:

Fulton Mayor Paul Walker said he supports the school district’s decision and knew of no private efforts to host the prom.

“I think the community as a whole is probably in support of the school district,” Walker said of the town of about 4,000.

Southside Baptist Church Pastor Bobby Crenshaw said he’s seen the South portrayed as “backwards” on Web sites discussing the issue, “but a lot more people here have biblically based values.”

Politically, Ms. McMillen’s story has not gone unnoticed either. Representative Jared Polis has expressed his dismay over the district’s actions:

U.S. Rep. Jared Polis, D-Colo., said a bill he’s introduced in Congress would protect students such as McMillen. Polis said the measure would make it illegal to discriminate against gay and lesbian school students. He said his bill is modeled after similar laws in at least 10 states…

“This situation with the prom is a perfect example of why we need to protect students from discrimination. In this case it’s a prom. It other cases, it’s getting beaten up or killed,” Polis said.

Polis said he was “dismayed” by the school board’s action.

“They ruined the prom, not only for this young woman, but for all of the straight kids at the school,” he said.

The legislation Rep. Polis refers to is the the federal Student Non-Discrimination Act (H.R.4350) that aims to curb violence against students who identify as being lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender. The  legislation is also designed to ban public schools from discriminating on the basis of a student’s perceived or actual sexual orientation or gender identity.

You can find out more about the federal Student Non-Discrimination Act by clicking here.

Finally, the ACLU’s request for an injunction to have the prom reinstated is expected to be heard within the next seven days, with both sides hoping for a quick resolution. As soon as we receive word on this decision, I shall update this post.

UPDATE: The hearing for McMillen’s case is scheduled for Monday next week according to Advocate.comThe Advocate also relates that:

“In the court documents, McMillen said Rick Mitchell, the assistant principal at the school, told her she could not attend the prom with her girlfriend but they could go with ‘guys,’” reported the AP. “Superintendent Teresa McNeece told the teen that the girls should attend the prom separately, had to wear dresses and couldn’t slow dance with each other because that could ‘push people’s buttons,’ according to court documents.”

UPDATE  – New Blog Post! Parents Organize a Private Prom but Exclude Lesbian Teenager.

UPDATE (24 March, 2010) – New Blog Post! A Tale of Two Proms: Court Rules in Favor of McMillen, Georgia Teen Kicked Out of Home Over Gay Prom Date

Related Posts:
We’d Rather Cancel the Prom Than Let a Girl Bring a Female Date

Take Action!
Care2 member Cheryl Noffsinger has created a petition addressed to the school board that demands that they reverse their decision. Click here to sign it.

You can also contact the school directly and let them know you support Constance McMillen’s right to bring her date to the prom. Click here for more information. A big thank you to reader Melissa Elaine Gacuzana for pointing to this action. 

Thank you to all those who have already taken action.

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Photo taken from the ACLU video, no infringement intended.


gerlinde p.
gerlinde p7 years ago

brave young woman, thankyou constance

Ashley N.
Ashley N7 years ago

The bible says all sorts of things that people ignore. Don't pick and choose what you want to follow.

Lee Jones
Lee J8 years ago

Constance ! You go gal! Stand up for who you are...
As for the bible being against homosexuals - any guy who cuts his hair, shaves his beard, etc. is a bad and possibly DEAD man - and anyone whose eyesight isn't too good, who plants two crops in the same field, eats shellfish, etc. etc. must be cast out or stoned to death. Not to mention anything about all the so-called 'christians' who commit adultery... who may well be some of the greatest detractors of folks such as this youngster who is simply standing up for who SHE is. Pheweee!!! Guys, get a grip!!

Amanda Roddy
Amanda Roddy8 years ago

The Polis bill will cause problems. It is breeding ground for frivolous lawsuits..You cant sue someone everytime they disagree with a lifestyle. What if someone was making you accept Muslims and Christians and sued you for criticism? What if someone made you attend church with them? Proms are social privaleages not civil rights. You cant make schools hold proms. How do kids know if they are gay or anything? We never studied sexuality so much like kids today You think a site as this would have better things to do.

John T.
John T8 years ago

This school district should be in deep KaKa. The private prom was a hoax. Constance, her date, and 5 other LD children showed up at the country club where the Judge was told a private prom was to be held.
The judge didn't give the ACLU their other request, citing the school boards remonstrations that time was too short to re-organize a prom there.
While Constance, her date, and the 5 LD children were at the Country Club, with some teacher chaperons, the real prom was held, secretly, AT THE SCHOOL. The same school the judge was told it would be impossible to arrange the dance in.

Beth P.
Beth P8 years ago

I'm about as 'straight' as a person can be. I know alot of LGBT's.
I am so proud of Constance! And her Daddy is right, stand up for who you are and what you believe. Don't ever let anybody stop you from that. Constance you're a lovely young lady, I would be proud to have you as a daughter. I know you didn't go looking for this situation, but it happened. You've handled it all with intelligence and dignity.
P.S. You have a terrific Daddy!

Holly M.
H K8 years ago

Thank you for all the e-mail addresses, snail mail address, AND the phone number for the school. I called and politely said they "needed to get with the 21st century".

I hope they are bombarded with e-mails and phone calls.

When is discrimination going to end?

Sofia B.
Sofia B8 years ago

Good to know that she has her family with her. I wouldn't have been prepared to stand up for myself in that way when I was 18.

For those who feel that gays parade their sexuality in the face of others: it is only because of the heteronormativity of society.

My ex-girlfriend used to joke that I was never out of the closet, if I was by myself or with a guy, I was thought of as heterosexual, if I was with her I was thought of as lesbian. It is tiring to have to come out every time one meets new people. I always wonder if I can use gender specifics in this group, or should I try and be neutral by talking about a person, not mentioning gender.

So not only being open with her girlfriend, but calling the school on their discrimination regarding the prom is not only brave, it's admirable. Go Constance!

Julie Power
Julie P8 years ago

If the zeal of bigots were harnessed to fight injustice, imagine the changes we could see in the world.

She's a brave girl and her parents obviously taught her well. They should be proud of her.

Linda M.
Linda M8 years ago

thanks for the post