The Antidote to Cyberbullying? Teens Sending Compliments to Their Peers

Remember the story about Tyler Clementi, the Rutgers University freshman who killed himself after two students viewed him having an intimate encounter with another man via webcam on September 19th and then broadcast this on the Internet?

Clementi’s tragic story represents the worst of a growing trend amongst young people. The American Academy of Pediatrics calls cyberbullying the “most common online risk for all teens.”

Here’s why:

According to Covenant Eyes, one third of teens say they have been targets of potentially menacing online activities. 15% of teens overall say someone has forwarded or posted a private message they’ve written, 13% say someone has spread a rumor about them online, 13% say someone has sent them a threatening or aggressive message, and 6% say someone has posted embarrassing pictures of them online.

As a high school teacher, I see the effects of this cyberbullying almost every day, but now comes a heartwarming story about some teens who have decided to kill cyber bullies with kindness.

A Sincere Compliment

From todaynews:

Jeremiah Anthony created a Twitter feed to compliment his fellow West High School classmates after reading a story about cyber bullies, people who hound their victims via social media.

“You shouldn’t be such a coward you have to hide behind a screen and say bad things to people,” he told TODAY.

Soon, Anthony and two friends were sending praise to randomly picked classmates, and sometimes teachers, under the Twitter handle @WestHighBros.

Here’s how Jeremiah explains what he’s doing on this inspirational video entitled “A Sincere Compliment”: “We send compliments to people who we think are feeling bad, or who have done something really good.”

“I believe that showing the goodness in people is very integral to our account. So many people on Twitter and Facebook get cyberbullied because they are less than perfect. No one is perfect, so we try to have as sincere compliments as possible.”

Hooray for Jeremiah!

There have been more than 3,000 tweets so far. Here are a few of them:

“Very creative and wise. You’re an outstanding musician, with your guitar and your voice. Keep being lovely and caring of all.”

“Your encouraging personality and generosity toward others makes you very likeable. You’re quite the intelligent kid, keep it up.”

“You are the man, one of the best runners West has right now. You have more work ethic than just about anyone.”

It All Started In Canada

Jeremiah has thrown himself into the fight against cyberbullying, but he didn’t start from scratch. It turns out he got the idea from some Canadian students at Queen’s University in Kingston, Ontario.

From Time:

On a cold, rainy day, four college students were sitting around the kitchen table, depressed about their heavy homework and class loads at Canada’s prestigious Queen’s University in Kingston, Ontario.

To cheer themselves and others up, third-year undergraduates and aspiring teachers Rachel Albi, Erica Gagne, Jessica Jonker, and Amanda Smurthwaite started a Facebook profile called Queen’s U Compliments, in which fellow classmates anonymously submit compliments about members of the campus community, and the four founding members post them from the account.

The site was launched on September 12, 2012, and since then has gathered more than 4,000 friends and 1,300 compliments, while at least 56 colleges and schools in Canada and the US have created their own Compliment pages, according to Time.

Indeed, the idea has reached all the way to California; I discovered the other day that the schools within my own school district in the San Francisco area all have their own “Compliments” pages.

Every K-12 teacher today has to deal with cyberbullying, as well as the preponderance of the media to highlight the worst of its excesses. How wonderful to see these efforts to combat cyberbullying being spearheaded and carried out by students.

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Marianne Good
Past Member 5 years ago

Thanks for sharing.

Kathy Perez
Kathy Johnson5 years ago

kill them with kindness

Angie V.
Angie V6 years ago


Westhigh B.
Westhigh B.6 years ago

Also we came first. Not that it matters though.

Westhigh B.
Westhigh B.6 years ago

We only heard about Queen's University from you just now. We applaud them for their work.

Bill B.
Bill B.6 years ago


Thank you for posting this story about cyberbullying.

Here is the definition I first put forth over a decade ago, and it seems to have held up well today.

"Cyberbullying involves the use of information and communication technologies to support deliberate, repeated, and hostile behaviour by an individual or group, that is intended to harm others."

Here are few key points to keep in mind about cyberbullying:

• Most cyberbullying happens away from school, on home computers or Smartphones
• Most cyberbullying is done by someone the victim knows in real life
• Cyberbullying is a community health and wellness issue
• Cyberbullying should not be defined as a “School problem”
• All stakeholders must be engaged to address the issue
• Parents / families feel at a loss to effectively deal with it
• Cyberbullying victims and their families are scared, frustrated and often have nowhere to turn
• Youth feel alone, isolated and that there is nowhere to hide
• Educators and parents feel overwhelmed / powerless
• The is a cultural gap, “Digital Divide” (Digital Natives vs. Immigrants)
• Law enforcement does not have the time or resources
• Youth often have unfettered Internet access outside of school
• Youth behaviour Disinhibition = little or no empathy
• Cyberbullying is less about technology and more about people, relationships and choices
• Cyberbullying i

Will Rogers
Will Rogers6 years ago


Brian Chin
Brian Chin6 years ago

Great idea, and I wish I could support it materially. Kids should tell each other constantly, you do you and I'll do me, and we'll all be delighted when we see how we've created ourselves at the club. They'll be too busy designing their best selves to judge, hound, or bully anyone else. Namaste, kids.

Robert O.
Robert O6 years ago

Sounds like a nice idea. Thanks Judy.

Colleen Prinssen
Colleen Prinssen6 years ago

i wish more people would say I am intellegent, but they ask if I am a guy and retarded, because of my haphazard typing tirades.

I do not know why people give fake kindness to those undeserving. if someone is singing and it sounds like a rabbit being riped limb from limb. do not give them false confidance and tell them they are talented.

if a little girl looks like an obscese Don Imus who was in an acid and fire accident, do not call her beautiful. Only "inside' if she is altuistic and does good things with such kindness for people.

also. never be good to the kid who is in love with their pet. that is not necessary. tell them to get a handsome/beautiful human to make out with. Loving a pet like a comrad or offspring is another. treating them as a boy/girlfriend is not. they need help, if not mocking.