Who Should Pay for Dinner on a Date? Kelly Ripa Weighs-in With Anti-Feminist Rant

This week on Live with Regis and Kelly the pair discussed the much debated question of who should pay for dinner on a date.

Yes, I know there are more important things going on in the world, but trust me Kelly Ripa’s comments are worth noting here.

On the show Regis referenced a Zagat Guide article about new dining etiquette rules - the number one rule being “equality – men and women should be treated as equals.”

In response Kelly quickly chimed in asking, “What does that mean?”

Oh dear. I knew we were in trouble.

Regis continued, explaining that normally “men are more likely to pay for the bill and tip.”

“As they should be,” Kelly exclaimed after which she shared a story in which she was utterly disgusted:

“The check came and it sat their for a inordinate amount of time…and I was so disgusted at that point I thought I’ll get this one because it’s, you know, $100 that means I never have to see you again…It is gross. It’s gross. And I make sure to tell Mark to raise our sons to know that they pick up the check for a lady and any feminist out there that disagrees with me I am sorry but it’s gone ridiculous now where women are expected to pay for everything and no, no, no. If we have the children…We give birth. You pick up the check. That’s the way it goes.”

How can we possibly expect women to pay for meals? Or go to college? Or get a career? Especially when they are so busy having babies. Perish the thought.

I kid, obviously, but why is it such a big deal for a woman to take a man out to dinner? It’s not! It’s hard to believe that it’s 2011 and we are still having this debate. A man is not required to fit the bill on every date and if he doesn’t it’s actually ridiculous for a woman to find that to be “disgusting” or “gross.”

So what do you think? Should the man always pay for dinner? If he doesn’t do you think it’s “disgusting” or “gross?” And what about gay couples? If two men go out, who would Kelly suggest pay? What about two women? How would you decide?

You can check out a video of Kelly’s rant over at Jezebel.

What do you think?

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jane richmond
jane richmond6 years ago

Each situation is different

Joy Jin
Joy Jin6 years ago

It really depends. If you really love the other person, you'll want to pay the bill.

Lika S.
Lika P6 years ago

I watched her video... She's blond. What else can you say? Women pay for everything? Unrealistic. So basically she's saying that to have sex with her, a guy has to buy her dinner. What happened to flowers? Because it "don't mean a thing, if you ain't got that ring..."

Lika S.
Lika P6 years ago

Well, here is the way I see it. Etiquette is such a delicate thing. Engaged and especially married couples, it doesn't matter who pays, your money belongs together as OURS, not mine/yours. So when a couple is married, the kids are hers and the meal ticket is his? How did she get herself pregnant? And with what Kelly Ripa makes for her TV appearances, she can't afford to take her very handsome husband out for dinner? Heck, I'd be happy to show him off... So is it all about her?

Anyway, when dating - on the first date, whom ever asks for the date should be prepared to pay. If he asks, he should, if she asks, she should. But, for fairness, bring your own money anyway, because paying your own looks independent. Also, if the date is going poorly, you may want to pay for your own. But if you know that the other has little, and you have a little more, I don't see why you need to make the other person go flat broke just to pay.

In the end, it's actually up to the situation to decide what happens. I think some people are confused.

Jeffie Freedom
Jeffie F6 years ago

I think it depends what kind of person you're looking for. If you see men as people who basically sponsor your life, then what you want is one who's going to pick up the tab. If you see women as being a sort of child that you have sex with, then you should probably find one who expects to be taken care of.

colleen p.
colleen p6 years ago

yes. otherwise people are going to cry sexism, and "what, he thinks I am poor? carless? stupid? timid? hopeless and helpless?"

this is what is wanted. Lady's night in bars is abolished in some places on grounds of sexism. then when/before a guy joke about wanting "a guys night", cry sexism.

Gill Armstrong
Gill A6 years ago

If I haven't got enough money to at least pay for myself, then I won't go out.
If I invite someone else, I will pay.
I very rarely let a man pay for anything for me. Here's a good example of why. Went to my local pub with a cousin, politely refused the offer of TWO drinks from someone else there, been given them anyway, drank them because I didn't want to seem impolite, then had to walk off when the man concerned said " I've bought you drinks all night you should at least come home with me." !!??! He was either drunk or a neanderthal, or both, either way, too many men expect something that I won't give, in return. Therefore I pay for myself.

Joan M.
Joan Makurat6 years ago

what a dimwit

Akin Adelakun
Akin Adelakun6 years ago

interesting article! thanks

Magdalen B.
Magdalen B6 years ago

I think it probably depends on the wording of the invitation. "Would you like to come out for a meal with me?" implies host and guest and isn't quite the same as"Shall we go...."
It's important that both parties understand the plan to avoid discomfort later..