Why This Couple Literally Can’t Wait for the Courts to Decide on Proposition 8 (Video)

After the California Supreme Court recently denied a request to expedite a ruling on the issue of standing that is crucial to the federal Proposition 8 court case, meaning that the 9th Circuit Court of Appeals decision will likely be put back until next year, one couple from California recorded a message on why they literally can’t risk waiting for the court’s decision–one of them has Alzheimer’s disease and worries that he will not be able to recognize his partner come the day the decision is finally handed down.

Many believe that marriage equality will, one day, be a reality all across America. However, for Derence Kernek and Ed Watson from Palm Springs, California, time really is of the essence and the promise of tomorrow not enough.

Ed has Alzheimer’s, and in this moving letter and video for the Courage Campaign, the couple discuss why they really can’t wait for the court to deliberate on this matter and why they, along with the Courage Campaign and other advocates, are asking the court to lift the stay on Proposition 8 and allow same-sex marriages to be licensed once again while the case is being decided.

Ed writes (via Courage Campaign):

Yesterday I found out the California Supreme Court denied a motion to speed up the Prop 8 trial. They’re going to take their summer recess and come back in around 6 months or so. It must be nice for them.

Thing is, I am 78 years old, and I have Alzheimer’s disease. I have been with my partner, Derence, for over 40 years. And if the courts drag this out for months and months, I fear I will, God forbid, lose the ability to recognize my beloved Derence when he gets on his knee to propose to me.

I can’t afford that, and Derence deserves better. That’s why I agreed to be named in Courage Campaign’s amicus curiae letter to the 9th Circuit, asking that the stay be lifted so I can at least have my dignity on our wedding day.

Please watch this video of me and my partner Derence, and then co-sign our letter to the 9th Circuit, begging them to lift the stay while the California Supreme Court drags its feet.

If the California Supreme Court is going to take its time, then we deserve the dignity of marriage…before I can’t remember what marriage is.


Ed Watson, Palm Springs, CA

Watch the video below:

Derence and Ed aren’t the only ones calling for the stay on same-sex marriages to be lifted.

California attorney general Kamala Harris has filed a brief in the Proposition 8 case in which she asks the court to grant the state permission to resume licensing same-sex marriages while the case is being decided because proponents of Proposition 8 can not demonstrate how they will be harmed if this is allowed to happen, and that their chances of success in this appeal, she writes, has been “substantially diminished” by their lack of standing at the federal level. You can read more on that here.

TAKE ACTION: Sign the Courage Campaign’s Letter to the 9th Circuit Asking them to Lift the Stay

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Tracey D.
Tracey D6 years ago

action taken. Thank you.

Norma V.
Norma Villarreal6 years ago

Good luck and thanks for your courage.

Alicia N.
Alicia N6 years ago

noted and action taken, good luck.

Dominick J. Di Noto
Dominick J. D6 years ago

Hi Derence and Ed, Bert and I standing right there by your side. Thank you for coming forward and thanks for Courage Campaign for bringing this up front and personall.

K s Goh
KS Goh6 years ago

Thanks for the article.

Glenna Jones-kachtik
Glenna Kachtik6 years ago

What enchanting men. 40 years! They need to write a book while Ed is still lucid - what wonderful things they have accomplished & seen. Those against same sex marriage always point to the unfaithfulness - I would put these 2 up against a heterosexual couple anytime.
Because what they forget is that marriage is NOT about sex - marriage, no matter what kind, is about LOVE.

Susan McKowen
Sue McKowen6 years ago

Signed petition and shared on Facebook, Twitter and MySpace. Hang in there, Derence and Ed!

Lyn Redbird
Lyn henry6 years ago

Noted. Thanks.

Christopher C.
Chris C6 years ago

Derence & Ed...I wish you all the best and hope they lift the stay on same-sex marriage soon! 40 years together...congratulations!

Olivia Schlosser
Past Member 6 years ago

Very sad...signed the petition