World’s First Legally Wed Lesbian Couple Celebrate 10 Years

Dutch couple Helen Faasen and Anne-Marie Thus celebrate 10-years of marriage this week. They were the first lesbian couple to wed following the Netherlands legalizing same-sex marriage in 2001. They tied the not in Amsterdam alongside three male couples on April 1 of that year.

The couple take pride in their status as the first lesbian couple to lawfully wed, and have used that to promote equality for others.

From CourierMail:

“We married for love, not politics. But of course we were aware it was an historic moment,” 41-year-old Anne-Marie, a notary assistant and gay rights campaigner, said ahead of their 10th anniversary on Friday.

By tying the knot in front of the world’s press, “we wanted to make other people think about how horrible it is to be denied something that is a natural right for others,” added her wife, 44-year-old notary Helene Faasen.

“A heterosexual person never needs to think about whether he is allowed to marry or not, he simply needs to be lucky enough to find the love of his life.”


Anne-Marie and Helene live with their two children, 10-year-old Nathan, and Myrthle, 9, in Maastricht in south Netherlands, where Anne-Marie says she loves to spend her free time cooking and Helene relaxes by tending the garden.

Their children were born from Anne-Marie and anonymous sperm donors.

“Like many other people, we have a family, work, a house, a dog and two rabbits,” said Anne-Marie, who met “the love of my life” on a blind date in 1998.

“In the mornings, we also have to nag our children to get out of bed and eat breakfast … it is all very normal,” she added.

The children, said Helene, accept their family setup “as just one of the many options that exist”.

“The only objection our son ever had was for having to do double the work on Mother’s Day.”

(Read more here.)

The couple, who say they are eager to show how “dull and normal” they are, hope their presence as a married lesbian couple will help give people in countries where gay marriage and especially gay rights as a whole are illegal the courage and conviction that things can change.

They will celebrate their anniversary on April 1 by attending a press opening of a city council-backed photo exhibition designed to commemorate the historic day.

Since Helen and Anne-Marie married around 15,000 gay and lesbian couples have wed in the Netherlands.

Photo used under the MorgueFile user license, with thanks to mensatic.


Norma V.
Norma Villarreal6 years ago

Happy anniversary.

Imani D.
Imani Dial6 years ago

That's so adorable!!!! Congratulations!!!! My girlfriend and i hope to follow in their footsteps someday

For Real N.
For Real N.6 years ago

Stop congratulating them and their kind. God made Adam and Eve, not Carmen and Eve!

Don Go
Don Go6 years ago

Congratulations, that's wonderful!

I'm so glad for them, and I'm proud of their children too, they're more mature and open minded than most adults!

monica r.
monica r6 years ago


I chuckled about double-duty on mother's day, but hey, they get father's day totally free so that should make it up.

Naomi Stephan
Naomi Stephan6 years ago

Congratulations on your tenth anniversary!
"A heterosexual person never needs to think about whether HE is allowed to marry or not."

(What is the "he" bit with heterosexuals especially coming form a woman?) What century are we living in???

Marilyn L.
Marilyn L6 years ago

Happy Anniversary! Wonderful news.

Carole F.
Carole f6 years ago

happy anniversary. we are all truly the same. aren't we!?

Sharon Balloch
Sharon Balloch6 years ago

Nice to see marriage is working for this couple.. must be love!

William Y.
William Y6 years ago

Is lasting longer than most "traditional marriages."