10 Self-Love Tips to Overcome Insecurity and Beat Impostor Syndrome

I was born with a club foot. Doctors warned my parents that I’d never run or ride a bicycle. I did both with ease, but as a kid, I didn’t appreciate how lucky I was. All I could see was that I was different.

I got teased at school, but not that much. My issues were largely my own. I hated my skinny right leg and the thick scar that ran down the back of it. I’d spend hours lying on my bed just staring at it, wishing it was normal.

Loving yourself when you feel unbeautiful isn’t easy. Our hang-ups have a nasty habit of draining our self-confidence, leaving behind fertile ground for insecurities to take root.

Rather than wish things were different (like I did as a young child), we need to learn how to embrace every aspect of ourselves. Even our so-called imperfections.

Recently, researchers surveyed 1,000 men and women to find out what self-love tips they used to overcome their self-doubt and uncertainties and accept themselves as they are.

10 Self-Love Tips to Overcome Insecurity and Beat Impostor Syndrome

Self-Love Takes Time (and Patience)

According to the study’s findings, the number one thing it takes to find true self-acceptance is to let it happen naturally over time. I agree completely. My club foot is as much a part of me as, say, my pinkie finger or elbow, and I give it about as much thought.

Accepting that a part of me wasn’t perfect didn’t happen overnight. These things never do. Rather, it happened incrementally over many years. Looking back, I can’t even say when the shift occurred. I only know that it did.

Mood Follows Action

10 Self-Love Tips to Overcome Insecurity and Beat Impostor Syndrome

Brad Stulberg —author of Peak Performance— says, “It’s nearly impossible to control your thoughts and feelings but you can control your behaviors.” Put another way: mood follows action.

This may sound counter-intuitive, but it’s true. Drawing the curtains and holing up on the couch with the remote and a tub of Ben and Jerry’s when you’re feeling down is only going to make matters worse.

Forcing yourself to get outside, whether it’s to go for a walk, hit the gym or meet a friend for coffee, is far more likely to improve your mood. This isn’t just pop psychology. The fake it ‘till you make it approach is backed by science.

What Does Practicing Self-Love Look Like?

We’re all different, so it follows that what works for me won’t necessarily work for you. Identifying your #1 self-care habit will help when those insecurity gremlins pitch up.

Here’s what people who have learned to accept themselves as they are do to practice self-love. Give one of them a try the next time you’re in need of a little TLC. It could give you the confidence boost you’re looking for.

10 Self-Love Tips to Overcome Insecurity and Beat Impostor Syndrome

1. Exercise

Exercise improves your mood, increases your energy and done consistently, will help you shed excess weight and tone up. All of which will make you feel better about yourself.

2. Talk to Someone

A problem shared is a problem halved. Talking about your problems with someone will offer an objective perspective on what’s going on. Sometimes that’s all that’s needed.

3. Read Books

Reading has many benefits. It reduces stress and instills a sense of tranquility in you and it can also offer a temporary escape from the litany of negative thoughts plaguing your brain.

4. Meditate

A daily meditation practice brings with it an array of science-back benefits. Among other things, it reduces stress, controls anxiety and promotes emotional health.

5. Visit a Place of Worship

Nurturing your religious or spiritual side is one of 20 habits that can can lead to a happier, healthier life. This is what Dan Buettner discovered after researching the world’s longevity hotspots.

6. Take Regular Breaks from Social Media

If you allow it, social media can wreak havoc on your self-confidence. Taking regular breaks can only benefit you. Personally, I’ve found hanging out on wellness platforms a far better alternative.

7. Research Self-Acceptance Online

If you’re someone who enjoys researching and learning you could ask Google for help. The trick is to find a few reputable websites and stick with those. Otherwise you run the risk of finding bad advice or plain old information overwhelm.

8. Go to Therapy

Therapy doesn’t have the same social stigma it once did. If you need professional help, get it. Get a word-of-mouth recommendation from someone you trust or use a reputable website and check the reviews.

9. Visit Self-Acceptance Forums Online

Talking to a loved one is great, as is talking to a healthcare professional. But sometimes all you might need (or want) is to hang out with people who understand what you’re going through.

10. Use Mental Health Apps

Mental health apps can help you remain calm, practice resilience and offering support when things get rough. They’re a great way to maintain a positive and proactive outlook, but don’t make them your only tool. You still need human interaction.

These self-love tips are nothing new. We all know them. The trick lies in actually applying the knowledge you acquire. Only then can it work its magic.

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danii p
danii p20 hours ago

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danii p20 hours ago

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Olivia M
Olivia M25 days ago

Thank you

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danii p
danii pabout a month ago

thanks for sharing

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danii p
danii pabout a month ago

thanks for sharing

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danii p
danii pabout a month ago

thanks for sharing

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Lesa D
Lesa Dabout a month ago

thank you Angela...

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heather g
heather gabout a month ago

Meditation and regular exercise help me. I'm fortunate to be able to share and listen to friends' problems as well.

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Karen K
Karen Kabout a month ago

complicated topic

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Danuta W
Danuta Wabout a month ago

thank you for sharing

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