10 Tips for Moving On: A Wildfire Survival Story

There is no question that our attitudes and perceptions of life events have impact upon our health and well-being. There are times in life, from which there is no escape from stress. How we heal from stress is paramount to our immune system, cardiovascular system, as well as our mental health. So here’s our story:

For the past 18 years we have greatly enjoyed living in our home in beautiful Sunshine Canyon, in the foothills above Boulder, Colorado. It has been our quiet haven and sanctuary surrounded by hundreds of majestic pine trees. The start of Labor Day of 2010 found us in our pajamas, talking with friends on the phone, reading the paper, lounging into a lazy Monday, which held no commitments or obligations. Feeling like a couple of kids playing hooky, the day stretched out before us with the goal of mastering the art of doing nothing. And then everything changed, and very quickly.

About noon, we spoke with our neighbor Betty, who had heard from the fire marshal’s wife that there was a huge wild fire raging up the backside of Bald Mountain and headed right for our home. We had to get out now! We had about twenty minutes to grab what seemed to be the most important: each other, dog, cat, computers, a few old family photos, a suit case into which was thrown a couple of t-shirts, sweat pants and some toiletries. By the time we got into our cars, the smell of fire was thick, ash was falling from the sky, and a dark haze of smoke blocked the sun.

Our hearts raced as we drove down Sunshine Canyon to a checkpoint that had already been set up by the county. They were counting residents, making sure that everyone was out, that there were no animals left in homes that would need rescuing. By the time we got through the check point our friend, Jennifer called the cell phone telling us that she was watching the fire on the news and to please come to her home to stay as long as needed, dog, cat and all.

Honestly it’s difficult to tell now why we felt relaxed. Maybe we assumed we would be going home in a few hours or at the worst, the next day. Were we slightly in shock? Perhaps Colorado’s worst wildfire in history that was burning in the canyon we called home was lulling us into an easy state of denial. We know every home, meadow and park in our canyon as we have walked through and passed them hundreds of times. We glued ourselves to the news for the next 72 hours not knowing if our house was still standing or not.

The level of destruction was horrific. Over 7000 acres of forest destroyed and 150 homes and counting completely burned to the ground. Friends emailed and called, wrote words of empathy and encouragement to us on Facebook and offered their help. The offering of help is what is so amazing to us now. It was as though this terrible fire brought out the very best in everyone that we knew; it brought out their truest nature: to give, to help. As the hours turned to days, our sleep wasn’t great. We talked about all of the “what ifs” and how we would deal with them. And then the list of burned houses became public. 169 homes were totally destroyed. For two days we checked for our address, and though extremely close to our house, our home was, for the time being, safe.

It was another week before we were allowed into our area and then we had to have a special pass issued at the Justice Center. The afternoon that we went to get our pass to get back into the canyon, we ran into neighbors who had lost everything. There really aren’t words to console someone who has suffered so much loss in one fell swoop, so open arms, hugs and tears were the mode of communication.

The day that we drove up Sunshine Canyon to see our home, we didn’t know what to expect. Would we be living with a burned forest around us? Driving up the canyon we saw a blackened mountain on the south side of the road and green forest on the north side. Pulling into our driveway, it was as though nothing had ever happened. The land and our home looked exactly the same. The house smelled of smoke though and a fine film of soot was present in many of the rooms. Leaving our house in such a rush on Labor Day, we broke a cardinal rule of fire safety: Close all of your windows and doors.

The next day we met with an insurance adjuster from American Family Insurance. We want to name their name here because so often you hear stories about unreasonable insurance companies that add to the suffering instead of helping. But American Family took care of us. They helped us get a smoke and mitigation cleaning crew up to the house. They replaced our mattress and bedding, washed and dry-cleaned all of our clothes, wiped soot off our every possession and after a week of cleaning, our house was ready for us.

We moved back in after being displaced for three and a half weeks. During that time we experienced all of the symptoms of heightened stress: fear, anxiety, denial, sorrow, grief, tension, disorientation and sleeplessness. The Zen saying goes like this: “now this being so, how shall I proceed?”

The “how shall I proceed” is the part that is about health care/ self-care. It’s what we have tried to practice and what we have learned.

Next: 10 Tips for Moving On

  • Honor the fact that your body and emotions have been under siege. Give yourself time to recuperate and don’t diminish your experience because it seems less harsh than someone else’s. Chances are you probably need to rest and recuperate from the experience too. Naps cannot be over estimated.
  • Plug into whatever your Spiritual practice is. Meditate, pray, spend time in nature, do yoga, listen to your favorite music, dance–whatever it takes to deliberately create relaxation and peace in your life.
  • Eat and drink well. This is not the time to wash away the suffering with martinis. This is a time to nurture your body with healthy food and drink. It’s a way of being gentle with your self.
  • Don’t minimize the experience. We have had to watch ourselves in terms of “survivor guilt.” Though many of our neighbors had it much worse than we did, we still needed to honor that the stress from being evacuated from our home is real stress.
  • Be with your community. The Sunshine Canyon community has created many ways for neighbors to be together. There is great power in bearing witness to your neighbor’s story and to having your own story be heard.
  • Count your blessings. This one can seem difficult in the face of so much sorrow, but knowing the Grace of things is just as healing as knowing the grief of things. You need both to be able to move on.
  • Cry. Crying is an emotion that cleanses the heart and helps discharge emotional and physical tension.
  • Sleep. Extra sleep when you have been under stress helps the mind to process and integrate the events that have taken place and it helps the body to recoup the output of energy that was necessary to cope with the events.
  • Forgive. The person who inadvertently started the fire has been a member of our community for over 40 years. Seeing all the 1000s of acres of burned forest and all the familiar home sites where now only chimneys stand is very difficult. Talking to friends who have lost their homes and all their possessions has been heartbreaking. Nonetheless, forgiveness is crucial to healing. It allows us to drop the 100 lb. sack of resentment and move on. For some forgiveness will come more slowly than for others. Forgiveness unburdens us and frees the heart to live and love again.
  • Put yourself on a nurturing schedule. This is not the type of schedule where you fill up every moment with a “to do” and then check it off. This is a schedule where you commit to getting yourself into bed at 10:00 and doing 5 minutes of deep breathing with the intent of getting 8 hours of rest. This is a schedule where you commit to exercise in the morning; a 10 minute meditation break at lunch time and a few minutes of inspirational reading when you get home from work. This is a nurturing schedule into which you fit the rest of your life, rather than the other way around.
  • All of these suggestions deal with ways to begin healing. We relate them to the experience we just had, but they can be implemented into any kind of “loss” situation. No one in this world is exempt from suffering. Personal suffering can help build deeper compassion in our being. Practicing self-care skills is an important part of the healing process, and we are sharing with you what we have put into motion to deal with our stress, in hopes that somewhere down the line our experience and sharing may help someone else.

    Sunshine Canyon does not look the same right now. It will not fully recover within the time we have left on this earth. One of the great truths of life is that everything changes and ends, and sometimes rather quickly. We allow ourselves to cry when we hike up the road to a forest that is now blackened and charred. We will allow ourselves to celebrate when we see the green that begins to come back in the spring. We are grateful to our neighbors and our friends; grateful to the beauty that this canyon has given us over the years. There is still work to be done; grief and sadness that will become integrated, and grace and gratitude that will underscore our faith in God and nature.


    Emma S.
    Emma S4 years ago

    I've come to this belatedly, but thanks so much for taking the time to pass these reflections on.

    jane richmond
    jane richmond8 years ago


    Nuke P.
    Nuke P8 years ago

    great article, thanks for sharing :)

    Kay L.
    KayL NOFORWARDS8 years ago

    How sad that sometimes it is only disasters that bring out the best in people. This is an attitude towards life that we should strive to live daily even without a disaster prompting the change.

    Shalvah L.
    Past Member 8 years ago

    Thank you for your insight.

    Krasimira B.
    Krasimira B8 years ago

    Thank you for sharing your wisdom.

    Gaby Velazquez-vinay

    thanks for the article.

    Pat Tyler
    Pat Tyler8 years ago

    Healing takes many paths and each of us chooses our own,

    ana p.
    ana p8 years ago


    Mark S.
    Mark S8 years ago

    Very good advice. Thank for sharing.