28 Ways To Move On From A Breakup

By Janet Ong Zimmerman for YourTango.com.

“Have faith that true love is meant to be and one day love will come shining through. No matter how sad your heart is, the love that you wish for will come true…if you believe.”

When a relationship is over, it’s time to let go. Holding on to a past love clutters up your heart and mind. Letting go opens up the space and possibilities to attract the partner of your dreams. Try these things to stop dwelling on the relationship you had with your ex.

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14 things to stop doing now:

  • Listening to love songs that remind you of them
  • Going to places where you spent time together
  • Thinking about the good times you had together
  • Communicating with them (erase their phone number, email address, texts, etc.)
  • Being friends with benefits or being the other woman
  • Wishing and hoping that they’ll come back to you
  • Being in denial that it’s over
  • Looking at their pictures, cards, love letters, and Facebook page
  • Staying in contact with their friends and family
  • Talking continually about them with your friends, family, and anyone who will listen
  • Trying to run into them in bars and nightclubs
  • Looking for them on online dating sites
  • Trying to make them jealous by flirting with or connecting with they’re friends
  • Letting yourself get rundown (i.e. over-eating, not exercising, etc.)

In addition to stopping the above things, the following practices will help you transition and move forward with more ease and grace.

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14 things to start doing now:

  • Find your happiness from within
  • Be grateful for the wonderful things in your life
  • Find your passions and focus on them
  • Get healthy from the inside out
  • Focus on the present moment and know that all is well
  • Connect and spend time with your family and friends
  • Enjoy hobbies and activities that you’ve been meaning to do
  • Do things to refresh, renew and soothe your soul
  • Exercise and workout
  • Listen to uplifting music
  • Keep a journal
  • Read positive books
  • Create a bucket list and start doing things on your list
  • Apply lessons (what you’ve learned) from your past relationships to create your ideal love life

Be patient and gentle with yourself during this time. It takes courage to move forward and becomes easier once you start. Try a few of the stops and starts. As you become comfortable with them, take on additional ones.

I’d love to learn what you’ve done to let go of a past relationship that was dear to your heart. What steps are you taking or have you taken to move forward in a positive manner?

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This article originally appeared on YourTango.com: 28 Ways To Move On From A Past Relationship.


Melania Padilla
Melania Padilla5 years ago

Good advice, I thinks this should work!

Angie V.
Angie V6 years ago


Moana Qtamo
Moana Qtamo6 years ago

I sent a link to a friend of mine. What I don't agree though, is the very first no-no about not to listen to the songs. Sometimes it can help you cry, so I think at some point it might be good for you. Also, if you actually have moved a lot in the same social circles, I don't find it fair having to avoid it.

Chad Anderson
Chad Anderson6 years ago

I could have used this advice a few years back...

Jilly D.
Gilly D6 years ago

Passed to a pal.

Manuela C.
Manuela C6 years ago

Plain and simple! thanks!

narinee keni
narinee keni6 years ago

I just replaced him with a cat. Hey I needed someone to keep we warm at night!

Arwen Woods
Arwen Woods6 years ago

Urgh. Sentimentalism is not something I do well. Kick them to the kerb and move on and up.

Teresa Wlosowicz
Teresa W6 years ago


Gloria picchetti
Gloria picchetti6 years ago

Be glad they are gone. If someone was a jerk with you they are probably serial jerks.