3 Ways to Never Let Self-Doubt Kill Your Dreams

Years ago, I gave up my “improbable desire” to write to pursue traditional success instead. I graduated Harvard Law School with honors. I made partnership track in a corporate law firm. Yet the higher I climbed, the more desperate I felt. Ambition doesn’t replace inspiration. You really don’t get to choose your wildest dreams, your assignment, and the life that calls you. You only get to choose whether or not you will listen. And that choice makes all the difference in your life and in your true success.

One day I walked out of “everything” to discover everything and create the work I loved.

For the past 20 years, I’ve worked with tens of thousands of retreat participants, workshop attendees, and private clients and helped them choose from inspiration instead of limitation or love instead of fear. I’d like to share some of the strategies that have helped my clients and me the most.

The thing that kills dreams, necessary steps, and wild success is self-doubt.

It’s not about money or how savvy you are. It’s about how much you are willing to trust yourself. Will you listen to your own gritty, quirky, or organic brilliance? Will you allow yourself and your true expression the time it takes?

It’s time to become more intentional about how you focus your mind and your life. Everyone rushes to take actions. But I want you to take inspired actions.

1. Give Yourself a Thousand Chances.

Your true work is worth all the time it takes. Haven’t hit the recognition or results you desire yet? Take the conscious mindset of “I choose to begin again.” Wipe the past clean. You can’t have a new future if you insist on seeing the present with eyes that only see the past. Can you dare again? Can you give yourself permission to have a new experience? Get 500 rejections. And try again. Learn as you go, but keep listening to the unparalleled love inside you more than the temporary facts. The facts will never change your calling. But your calling can change the facts.

2. Chase Your Grace Not Your Guilt.

Pay attention to how something feels to you. Does it drain you or give you energy? It doesn’t matter if everyone else who has used a certain technique or service has raced to the NY Times Bestseller list, got massive funding for their non-profit, kicked depression, or made an 8 figure income in 3 nanoseconds…none of it matters a fig – if it doesn’t move you. If you don’t really want to go that way, you won’t sustain it. You won’t infuse it. Your efforts will be hollow, and even the “right” actions won’t lead to results for you. Chase your grace. Follow your heat, your curiosity, your inspired direction. You will move mountains when you’re moved. There’s a reason some things feel extraordinary to you, and some don’t. You have your own way to succeed.

3. Focus on What’s Working Right.

Achievers and creators tend to always feel as though they’re not doing enough. Want to have sparks flying all around you, and synchronicity sweep through your days? Focus on your success, not on your lack of success. Are you looking at all that’s stuck or failing or are you looking at all that’s moving in the right direction? What you focus on grows. Focus on the excitement of momentum, shifts, personal growth, and wins, the whoppers and the fragile ones that no one else can even see. You are doing so much right. Progress is happening on so many levels. This path is not about cracking the whip. It’s about crackling with excitement.


Tama Kieves is the bestselling author of This Time I Dance! Creating the Work You Love and her new book Inspired & Unstoppable: Wildly Succeeding in Your Life’s Work!.


Tama K.
Tama K.4 years ago

I'm so glad you liked my post. Please join me at www.TamaKieves.com for more support on living your dreams. Everything you want is worth everything you have! Love to all of you! Tama Kieves.

Valerie R.
Valerie R4 years ago

I love this post! I'm a big believer in sticking with your dreams no matter how "improbable" they may seem. Your desires are worth chasing, and the path you take to them is your own.

"This path is not about cracking the whip. It’s about crackling with excitement." That's exactly how I want to feel!

Dimitris Dallis
Past Member 4 years ago

But the guidance it's ok :)

Dimitris Dallis
Past Member 4 years ago

Find me a job first and then we'll talk again about self-doubt.

Marian A.
Marian Austin4 years ago

Move forward. Don't stagnate.

Bill and Katie Dresbach
Katie & Bill D4 years ago

Thank You

Sarah Ellissa Markey
Sarah Markey4 years ago

Excellent! Stay inspired everyone.

Franck R.
Past Member 4 years ago


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Rhonda B.
Rhonda B4 years ago

Thank you.