5 Simple Ways To Make Time For Yourself

As someone who has always enjoyed and needed time by myself, I find that when I donít get it, not only do I get grumpy, but I start to feel drained, lose my focus and find my productivity actually declines.

Solitude is important. It allows you to recharge, to gain a fresh perspective, to get in touch with your own feelings, and hear your own voice instead of the voices of those around you. It allows you to think deeply, or turn off your thoughts if thatís what you need most. It lets you be proactive rather than reactive, and it reduces the stress from busy schedules.

It is important to spend time alone to relax, create, meditate, focus or just be. But solitude has become a rare commodity in our ever connected world. I have written before about the need to disconnect and find oneself. But is it possible to find solitude when we have so many things going on around us?

Here are some ways to make it easier to find the alone time you need without adding more stress to your life.

Schedule an appointment with yourself. Make this appointment as important as a business meeting or doctor appointment. Put it on your calendar, set an alarm on your phone to remind you. Even if it’s only 15 minutes at a time. Make it a habit and honor this commitment to yourself just as you would honor a commitment to other people.

Unplug and disconnect. Turn off your cell phone, put away your iPad, stop searching the internet, turn off the TV. Limit how often you check email, Facebook, Twitter or other social media. Get rid of all of those distractions that are constantly interrupting your thoughts and making you feel that you have to always be on.

Go for a walk. I walk for exercise. But, I also sometimes take walks just to be by myself and connect with nature and to take the time to just think and breathe, without having to talk or interact with others.

Get help or delegate chores, errands or other tasks. Depending on what it is, hire someone if you can afford to, or simply ask for help with chores and errands and let go of the notion that they wonít be done right because you arenít doing them.

Get up earlier. Give yourself an extra hour or even a half-hour to focus on yourself. Use that time for solitude, quiet reflection, meditation, or whatever else helps you recharge.

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Amina Selmanovic
Amina Selmanovic4 years ago


Anne F.
Anne F4 years ago

Great reminder to honor our personal, quiet reflective time -- I find beach walking, sunset watching, star gazing to be fully enjoyable.

Kathy Perez
Kathy Johnson4 years ago

thanks. all good tips

Elena T.
Elena Poensgen4 years ago

Thank you :)

Val M.
Val M4 years ago


Amanda M.
Amanda M4 years ago

Ironically, this is the first time I've been able to even get ONLINE in the past two weeks due to my whole household (including myself) getting hit by the stomach virus that's currently sweeping our town! This time it didn't even slow the kids down, and it only knocked me down to half power, so this made isolation and germ-killing tough because we didn't FEEL sick. My husband, however, was another story. This one took him DOWN, and kept him that way for four days and nights! (I'll spare you the gory details-just think scenes from "The Exorcist.") Combine that with my normal SAHM nonstop life plus my taking classes for my EMT recertification (which is the closest I get to a VACATION, if you can believe it), and you wonder why I not only need time to myself-I need a real VACATION, and I need it NOW.

But I can't take one-I've got to make sure the house is clean for the Thanksgiving dinner we're hosting on Wednesday night for my husband's side of the family (weather permitting; we live in Maryland), and that includes bleach-bombing the place because of the recent viral onslaught. Time to myself will therefore be narrowed down to a well-deserved tot of sherry tonight.

Roxana Saez
Roxana Saez4 years ago


Debbie S.
Past Member 4 years ago

Easier said than done but good tips....I keep trying and it is very important.

Judy Apelis
Judy A4 years ago

Thank you