5 Thoughts That Stop You From Being Happy

Some crave for riches and others seek creative energy. Some lust after big cars and others dream of being big stars. But everyone, without exception, wants to be happy.

And yet, as we know only too well, happiness is an elusive thing. No one has been able to pin down what it is and how to find it, but I can certainly think of certain thought patterns that stop us from being happy. Here are some of them: reverse these thoughts into positive ones, and feel the magic!

‘I am bored…” It’s rather easy to sit in a room and rue that you have ‘nothing to do.’ Get up, open the window, and open up your mind. Life is so vast, beautiful and infinite! Where’s the time to get bored? Sign up for a fun class. Try a new recipe. Meet someone new. Lose yourself in a lovely book. Find yourself in a wonderful place. Boredom—what’s that?!

“I hate…” The word ‘hate’ is too strong. Yes, we sometimes strongly dislike a situation, an idea or a person, but let’s resist from using so strong a word—it only intensifies the negative energy of the emotion.  ’Hate’ is dark, love is light. As a writer once said, “A lot of darkness cannot overpower a little light. But a little light can wipe away a lot of darkness.”

“I can’t…” How many times have you said, “I can’t dance/concentrate/resist binge eating.” Over time, I have realized that the word ‘can’t’ reinforces itself into our consciousness, stopping us from even trying to attempt something good or give up something not-so-good. Each time I say ‘I can,’ I find I am able to. And being able to overcome your inhibitions and push your limits feels very freeing, very nice. Yes, you can, too!

“I don’t have the time to…” This is a commonly used excuse to take the easy way out, wriggle out of commitments, escape self-care. When people and things put undue demands on your time, it’s great to be able to say a firm ‘No, I don’t have the time. ” But  hey, if you find yourself saying ‘I don’t have the time to exercise/meet my friends/look after myself,” quite often, it’s time to stop and do a rethink. After all, the life well lived is a life that has its priorities right.

“It’s not my fault…” It is no doubt difficult to own up to a mistake. But try not to let fear or your ego overrule your conscience. Take responsibility for your actions, and you will feel lighter, more positive. You’ll earn more respect too—from others as well as yourself. You’ll sleep easy and wake up with fresh energy. That’s happiness!



Melania Padilla
Melania P4 years ago

So true... Thanks.

Marlene C.
Marlene C4 years ago

So true. Thanks.

Kathy Perez
Kathy Johnson4 years ago

I never have time to be bored!

Inge Linggo
Inge Linggo4 years ago

Interesting. I totally agree with what is written in the article. Thank you for reminding. Simple and yet very good recipe for happy life.

Kate S.
Kate S4 years ago


Sanja T.
Sanja T4 years ago


Gyan T.
Gyan T4 years ago

Just on the verge of retirement, so these reminders are very timely

Latanya Stevenson

I'm a work in progress.. I'm trying to be better at this because I always end up finding things to make me unhappy when I actually should be happy and grateful!!! Thank you guys for posting things like this it helps ALOT!!!!

heather g.
heather g4 years ago

Thanks, Shubhra........... We need to catch ourselves before negative remarks become a habit.

Winn Adams
Winn A4 years ago