5 Signs You’re Dating A Womanizer

By Jane Garapick for YourTango.com.

Is he your Prince Charming or a smooth Casanova in disguise?

You’ve just met a man who, at least on the surface, seems to be your dream guy. He’s attractive, funny, charming, successful and his smile (let alone the thought of his caress) makes you weak in the knees. You go out on a date or two, and he’s nothing short of perfect. He treats you like a queen, compliments your sense of style and tells you all of the things that you’ve been longing to hear from a guy.

So how do you know this guy’s the real thing and not just some womanizer who’s going to disappear after your first slumber party? While the only way to know for sure is to pass the test of time, here are a few red flags that would definitely indicate a potential for womanizer status.

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1. He has a reputation. If your girlfriends have warned you that he uses women and throws them away, you need to listen to them and know he’s most likely a womanizer. Granted, there’s a small chance that you are the woman that can change him, but even if you do, you’ll just wind up spending the rest of your relationship worrying he’s going to revert back to his old womanizing ways. It’s very likely a guy like this will.

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2. He moves fast. Before you’ve even had a chance to meet his friends and family, he’s telling you that you’re the woman of his dreams and he’s been waiting his whole life just to find you. While this is certainly exciting and thrilling, how could he possibly know that this quickly? It’s much more likely that he’s just in love with love (best case), or he’s just trying to get one thing from you (you know what it is). And this womanizer wants to reach his goal as soon as possible.

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3. He’s over the top with the romance. We all love romantic gestures, whether it be a hand-written poem or a bouquet of flowers delivered to our desks at work, but if your guy constantly wants to jet you off to the islands for a romantic weekend or often surprises you with lavish jewelry, then he’s most likely had plenty of practice. While you might be thinking that you’re just graciously accepting his gifts, to him, these come with surprise expectations on your part.

4. He only has eyes for you … and anything else in a skirt. If you notice that your guy is checking out other women, or worse, flirting with the waitress, hostess, barista, etc., then he’s most likely a womanizer. As he’s telling you how beautiful you are and that you’re exactly the type of woman for him, he’s already thinking about how the woman that just walked by fits the same description. He’s not lying — the womanizer feels this way about every woman that strikes his fancy — you just happen to be part of the (very populated) crowd.

5. He seems too good to be true. He’s just a little too smooth, a little too charming, a little too perfect and that little voice in your head is telling you he’s done this before, probably many times over. While you may be tempted to ignore that nagging little voice and head upstairs to his apartment, just know that your instincts are more attuned to the situation than you think. It’s likely that as he’s telling you over coffee that he has a busy day ahead and can’t spend more time with you, you’ll be hitting yourself wishing you had listened to your gut last night.

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Of course, this isn’t an all-inclusive list, nor should any of these traits be considered an immediate deal breaker. However, if any of the above are hitting close to home, your best bet is to take things slow and see if your guy survives the test of time. True womanizers rarely can.

Jane Garapick knows firsthand what it’s like to have a broken heart, a broken dream and a broken you. She writes about adventures on the rocky road to finding Mr. Right at www.gettingtotruelove.com.

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This article originally appeared on YourTango.com: 5 Warning Signs You’re Dating A Womanizer.


Angela P.
Angie P3 years ago

Dated this type over and over again. Now have a dog and a cat. Much happier. I get unconditional love and don't have to deal with someone who brings me down.

Mickey J.
Past Member 3 years ago

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Genoveva M.
Genoveva M M4 years ago

Thanks for posting this article.

Elizabeth Pugliese

Oh yeah, if he treated the last one badly, he will treat you badly. Twu wuv won't change that.

Natasha Salgado
Past Member 4 years ago

This was too funny! Thanks 4 posting

Cathleen K.
Cathleen K4 years ago

Luckily for me, I've never found the charming, handsome, facile type attractive. At best, they make me nervous; at worst, they produce a strong feeling of distrust, so I'm just not susceptible.

Sheila D.
GGmaSAway D4 years ago

Dated a few of these guys over the years. Always enjoyed myself because I knew them for what they were. They could show me a good time, make me feel special - for 5 minutes. The problem was that it would old very quickly. Still, I did have a good, if short, time.

Ernie Miller
william Miller4 years ago

I think my wife is safe with me been there for 25 years and plan on staying a while longer.

Heidi Aubrey
Heidi Aubrey4 years ago

I am always somewhat dismayed by gullible women who think they are "that special someone" to change a bad man's behavior.

News flash, you can't change anyone other than yourself-ever-your whole life.

If they(men) have a reputation and sling that "your special", "your different than the others", run away. Better yet, don't get yourself involved/suckered in, in the first place.

Norma V.
Norma Villarreal4 years ago

Love is blind, but you have friends to tell you what's so!