5 Ways to Make the Holidays Merry


The holidays can cause large amounts of stress for people caring for elderly parents. In addition to caregiving duties, during the holdiays, you can now add shopping, holiday parties and family gatherings to a never-ending to-do list.

The AgingCare.com community has seen an increase in stress-related issues on our discussion boards. One AgingCare.com member said, “I feel more stressed every year…It starts before Thanksgiving and lasts through the New Year. Holiday planning always falls on my shoulders. Last year, Mom was in the hospital, which added to the stress. I keep promising myself to get more involved in something other than caregiving…to recharge myself.”

Here is some advice for weary caregivers.

1. Take a Break

Reducing stress is vital to your health. Family caregivers have higher illness rates than non-caregiving peers. Respite care offers short-term care for dependent adults and provides you some relief – even more important during the holidays. Types of respite include adult day care, in-home help, and assistance from family and friends.

2. Ask for Help

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5 Ways to Make the Holidays Merry

5 Ways to Make the Holidays Merry originally appeared on AgingCare.com.

3. Make a “To-Do List”

Making daily lists helps you stay organized during this busy season.

4. Simplify

Pare down the cookies, leave the bookcase full of Santa figures for another year – but keep the Christmas tree. You can “decorate lite.” Let family and friends know that the holidays are being simplified this year.

5. Accept Imperfection

You might not feel you’re not doing enough, that someone else would do better. But no one is perfect. There is no such thing as a perfect caregiver. Do your best, then accept and forgive yourself for imperfections.

These tips ensure you will have time to enjoy the holidays, while also taking care of yourself. This is vital for your health and well-being. And it can help you to be a better caregiver who is more rested, healthier — both physically and mentally — and less apt to feel resentful. It might even make caregiving a little easier.

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5 Ways to Make the Holidays Merry originally appeared on AgingCare.com.



Roger M.
Past Member 5 years ago


Elaine A.
Elaine Al Meqdad5 years ago

Far to many people get caught up in the commercialization of a Holiday that has NOTHING to do with such and if they would just concentrate on the reason for the season, they would be OK!

a             y m.
g d c5 years ago


Karen Martinez
Karen Martinez5 years ago

It's the idea, not the stuff. Hard to get that concept into people's brains tho! thanks for the article.

Angela N.
Angela N5 years ago


Kath R.
Kath P6 years ago

I agree..."Asking for Help" is a great idea.

Michele Wilkinson

Thank you

Joe R.
Joe R6 years ago


Ellie Damann
.6 years ago


Carol Y.
Carol Y6 years ago

Good advice!