6 Blocks to Self-Care (& How to Overcome Them)

Are your†preconceived notions†about self-care limiting your ability to practice it?†Shine the light of awareness on these blocks to self-care†to unleash your capacity for greater action and great self-care.

When you†think of self-care, you may†picture wealthy people getting massages on the beach, but self-care goes beyond luxury. Itís an essential practice for anyone desiring to live a long and healthy life. Itís a way of managing the accumulation of stress in your body.

Self-care†might seem self-explanatory, but there are so many ways to†take time out of your day to nurture your body, mind, and heart.

The better self-care practice you have, the better you can respond to the stresses of life with ease and flow. While you may know this intellectually, knowing and acting are two different things. Sometimes, life throws a barrier between you and your self-care practice.

If you desire to incorporate more self-care into your life, then take a look at these six blocks that could be derailing your routine.

6 Blocks to Self-Care

Self-care can be luxurious or simple. The only thing standing in your way are your thoughts. Learn these blocks so you can be on your way to better self-care.

1. It Takes too Much Time

You may think that it takes time – time you donít have – to provide that extra level of care for yourself. And youíre right, it does take time. But how much time is up to you.

First examine and question the thought, ďThereís not enough time.Ē If this thought is crowding out time for yourself, then itís also crowding out time for other things in your life. Thereís enough time for all that you desire. Affirm this.

You can find 30 seconds for an extra breath of fresh air. You can steal five minutes to soak up some sunshine. Thereís time. You just have to believe thereís time.

2. You Donít Know What to Do

Okay, so you might not know what to do. You spend most of your days caring for other people. You hardly have time to contemplate what you want for yourself. Then thatís the first step in your self-care practice. Give yourself five minutes one morning or evening to contemplate what would feel good for you.

Here are some ideas: a bubble bath with essential oils, a walk in nature alone, a ten-minute sunrise meditation, enjoying a piece of dark chocolate from that fancy chocolate shop, or a 20-minute foot massage. You know what you need. You just need to give yourself time to think about it.

3. It Costs Too Much Money

Do you fall into the camp of people who associate self-care with luxury? Then maybe you think self-care has to be expensive. Yes, it can be. And if you live an abundant life, then you will have no issue spending money on yourself. No matter how much money you have there are always inexpensive (even free) ways to lather yourself in love.

Take a look at the thought, ďSelf-care is expensive.Ē Whatís so expensive about a bubble bath or meditating? Unpack that belief. Disentangle yourself and release it. Itís not needed. You donít need to let money get between you and time with yourself ever again.

4. Self-care is Selfish

Ooh, isnít this one good. If you cling to the martyr archetype, then youíre probably thinking to yourself that self-care is selfish. You may think, ďThereís too much bad stuff going on in the world for me to sink into bliss.Ē Or, ďHow can I focus on myself when Iíve got kids and a partner that need me.Ē

These thoughts point to an unhealthy relationship between yourself and those around you.

Self-care can now become your practice of regaining your sovereignty and independence. You may have children, a partner, or even aging parents or family members that depend on you. But what good are you to them if you arenít healthy and well?

Self-care is your healing. Use it to your advantage.

5.†You’re Lacking the Energy

Itís ironic, isnít it? The one signal that you need self-care the most is the one you use as a reason for not giving it to yourself.

ďIím too tired toÖ take a bath, meditate, walk in nature, journal, or give myself love and attention.Ē Ridiculous, isnít it?

TV isnít self-care, so turn off the TV, get off the couch, and luxuriate in lavish loving of some kind. Naps are good too. Whatever turns you on. Youíll have far more energy than if you just sit and watch TV.

6. Self-care is for Women Only

Men, this†one’s†for you. Self-care, that is.

Nowhere ever did someone write out: Self-care – Women Only. Answer this: Do you have a self? Do you have a body, mind, and heart? The answer is yes. Yes you do. Therefore, you qualify for self-care.

You have a nervous system, just like women do,†and it needs time to heal and rest. It canít do that if you donít give it to yourself.

Believing that self-care is for women alone only hurts you. You are equally deserving of your love and attention. Take a bath, get a pedicure, go for a massage. Whatever feels good and healthy.

Final Thoughts

Self-care is for everyone, no matter how busy or full your life is. The only thing standing between you and self-care are your beliefs about it.

You have the time, it doesnít have to cost anything, and men can do it, too. Youíll have more energy afterwards, and thereís so much to choose from! Beautiful soul, you are worth it.

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Nicole Heindryckx10 months ago

Sorry for having this message twice. It had disappeared. Therefore I started re-writing it again. Just now I find out it just re-appeared....

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Nicole Heindryckx10 months ago

I learned "self-care" when my husband was at an early stage of Alzheimer. He went to an overday care center, and came home approx. 10 mins. after I returned home from my job. I immy started cooking, take care of him upon arrival, then eating, cleaning up, etc.. Then there was always something in the household to do : making a shopping list, sort out the washing and putting on a 1st machine, or folding up after it had dried, pay the bills, etc. Then I had to help my husband to get to bed. And when all that was done, it was 10 PM. I was exhausted. Could not go to sleep, because of my state of mind. When I told my doctor, he instructed me not to forget my 'self-care. He shortly explained what it was, because I had not heard about it, an since that day, after dinner I put my husband in the couch to watch the the tele, and made a good cup of tea for myself. I did not think abt all the things I still had to do. No, I just turned the button and enjoyed myself.

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Nicole Heindryckx10 months ago

@ Amanda M : I just read yr first comment. Really ?? Can nobody miss you ? No even for 15 mins ?? Don't exaggerate please !! I have been a mom of 3 children, 2 of which were adopted at a later age from Chili. I had to learn them the 1st word of Dutch, our language. Their school skills were at least 2 years behind ours here. And I have taken care of my husband as long as possible when having Alzheimer when the kids were ALL still at home. NO, I AGREE IT'S NOT EASY TO PICK OUT 15 mins. for yourself. But you always can do that. Either yr children are still very young and taking a nap in the afternoon, or they are older, and go sleeping at 7.00/8.00 pm. Those are the moments you can take care of yourself. Nobody says you need to take ONE hour a day. I could allow myself just 15/20 mins. That was ALL ! But it was enough to free my head, take good breaths, pet the dog, or just watch the birds outside, or do some mindfulness or meditation. When you continue this way of living, you will fall on your knees. And what will happen then ?????

Nicole Heindryckx
Nicole Heindryckx10 months ago

@ Amanda M : I am 67 now, and have done exactly the same as you do right now. A walk to school with a toddler is NOT self-care. You have to take care of yr toddler and answer to all his/her answers
Typing & eating at the same time : NO, stop doing this. When you want to enjoy yr meals properly you have to take time to eat, or NOT eat. Either the blood goes to your head for typing, or to your stomach for digesting. Doing both together is NOT good. Leave your station, sit somewhere else and enjoy your meal. Each boss needs his employees to have at least 20/30 minutes to have lunch.
If you don't change all this, rest assured that you will pay the bill afterwards. I know what I am talking about, being 67 now.