6 Things You Should Never Say to a Woman

Women — they are everywhere. From our mothers, sisters and daughters to gal pals and love interests, thereís no escaping them. You may love them, canít live without them, but ever feel like you are walking on eggshells around the leading ladies in your life?

The words you choose may have something to do with it. That’s right Ė certain terms and expressions have negative connotations that trigger emotional reactions from women for reasons men may not even think of. We decided to give you guys out there a break so you donít have to keep playing guessing games. As the saying goes, when the words are in your mouth they are gold, we hope these insights will help you choose them more wisely!

You’re Crazy: Letís stop beating around the bush now and call a spade a spade. Men have been calling women insane since ancient Greek times. In fact, hysteria was a once a malady, exclusive to women, fabricated by men and later disproved by Freud. What you may not realize is that saying things to a woman like “you’re insane,” “you must be dreaming” or “that never happened,” even if it’s in jest, is invalidating on so many levels. Because essentially, what you are suggesting is that she is a less intelligent, less rational and less well-grounded individual than you, which will automatically put many woman on the defensive.

Why Do You have to Be So Dramatic?: Seriously folks, when was the last time you saw a topless grown-up woman painted purple and wearing a Viking hat while cheering for her team in the bleachers? And you call us dramatic!? We are all guilty of ASB (attention seeking behavior) so don’t blame women for all the histrionics when many guys are very likely to wail at the first sign of a paper cut, gush over gadgets and lose your cool every time a hat trick happens on ice.

You Must be Getting Your Period: The average menstrual cycle lasts between 3-5 days, so shame any one of you who pull the hormonal card the whole month through. Yes women’s emotions may be heightened during certain key times, but there is no such thing as being too sensitive. If you don’t believe us, just take one look at corporate America in the past two years.† The recent financial crisis has proven that those allegedly female qualities, like being intuitive, insightful and compassionate, are more valuable in business than ever before. Now there’s one to grow on.

You Look Fine: There is nothing worse than being told you are mediocre and that’s what this four letter word insinuates. If you really want to compliment a woman, raise the bar a little and be specific about what it is that you love about her. “That dress makes your back look perfect,” “the color highlights your eyes,” or “those boots show off your incredible legs.” Of course, if that is not the case, be honest (gently) with us and not fearful of our reaction. Good or bad, both are better to us women than being plain, old and average.

You Analyze Everything to Death: Yup, itís how we deal with things, which is a heck of a lot better than living in a constant denial bubble.† All kidding aside, many women process things differently than men and our way of dealing with difficult situations is through careful analysis, communication and lots of input from those around us whose opinions we trust and respect.† Go ahead, give it a try. You might just like it.

Finally, unless you are given the green light in advance, never refer to any woman in your life as Baby or Buddy. We are not your toys!

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Natasha Salgado
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Fred Hoekstra
Fred H4 years ago

Thank you Healthy Living Editors, for Sharing this!

Val M.
Val M4 years ago


Fi T.
Past Member 4 years ago

Word power

Alice Maldonado
Alice Maldonado4 years ago


Alan Lambert
Alan Lambert4 years ago

Hell, I figured these out before I hit puberty.

Will Rogers
Will Rogers4 years ago

Whew! I'm tempted to shout; 'What a bitch!' What man knows about 1. the historical reasons for calling women mad? Anyway some women are mad! This article is telling men to lie to about what they feel at the time! The opposite of what you said yesterday! Are you crazy! (Those 3 words I also say to my insane male friends) its a bit censorious innit? Like this article, 2. a bit dramatic. As for 3. 'You must be having your period'. You want us to be sensitive to your moods even your PMS, but when we try, you shoot us down! 4. 'You look fine'. Now deemed to be an insult because you need details for gods sake! 5. 'Analyzing things to death'. Yeah! Everything except men. A lot of women think we fit in the same 'box/mould. 6. I never call women 'baby' but they call me babes and honey, even though I have stubble. Why? Maybe they don't know the rules that I just made up this second. Pah! The common ground here with men and women is that we are not good at taking criticism.

Alichia Rose
Alichia Rose5 years ago

Thanks. I think it's good to remember that even if you say these things in a joking way and don't really mean then they can hurt a loved ones feelings. A good reminder to be mindful of what you say and how you say it to someone.

Mary Donnelly
Mary Donnelly5 years ago

Useful list--thanks.

Debbie Crowe
Debbie Crowe5 years ago

When I say something my husband disagrees with, he calls me "Blondie" (my hair is light brown) and that really sets me off.