Feel Stuck? 7 Home Changes to ‘Unstick’ Your Life

There are many times we feel stuck in our lives. Often it is because we are at an in-between stage and we don’t know what direction our life is going or what we really want.

It might be that we are in-between careers, ended a relationship, lost a loved one, have moved to a new area, or the kids have left the nest.

Moving things around in our living space is a powerful way to get our lives moving when we are in that vulnerablein-between things place.

Feng Shui teaches that our living space is intimately connected to our lives and that by changing the physical spaces we inhabit, we shift things in our lives as well.

Here are 7 things you can do now to help you move from feeling stuck to getting unstuck. You can do most of these easily with little or no money.

1. First,clutter clear and clean the room you are starting with: I know we all talk about this, but it still is the most powerful way to get the energy moving in your life and make room for new possibilities!

2. Change up the Accessories: TJ Maxx Goods, Ross and Marshalls are wonderful resources for very inexpensive pillows, art, throws and other accessories. Change out the pillows to reflect the seasons and add a new throw with complimentary accents. Add new candles, frame your nature photos or art work for new inspiring pieces to look at, add a silk-flower arrangement or rearrange an existing one. Better yet, add live flowers and plants. Each new addition will add a fresh new look and energize the space.

3. Rehang and rearrange art and pictures: Group artwork in relationship to furniture and other objects according to things such as similar frames, subject matter or themes, texture, pattern and complementary color. You will be creating an interesting focal point and every object that was solo before will come more alive as a part of an interesting grouping. Hang your pictures at the right height…most people hang pictures much too high. A good average is to have the top of a large picture at about 5 1/2 feet.

4. Oil, polish and clean up furniture: Get a good furniture polish or wood oil and clean and polish all wood furniture. Wash and clean up the rest. If a piece is scratched or the finish is bad, find a scarf, mat or runner from your treasure trove and cover it up, arranging the decorative items on top. (I use Old English Scratch Cover for Dark Woods for fixing up really scuffed pieces.)

5. Arrange the key pieces of furniture that you spend the most time on (i.e. sofa or bed) in the empowered position: This is where you can see the entrance of a room but are not in direct alignment with any door. It will never feel comfortable to sit or sleep in front of a doorway for any length of time. As creatures of comfort, we want to feel protected yet still be able to see what is going on. Feeling ‘empowered’ will make a big difference in how you feel in your living space. For more on this see my article: Feng Shui for Living Rooms.

6. Change the paint color: This is one of the most powerful ways to change the energy in a space. See my Feng Shui room color guide.

7. Add one or two new pieces: If you have a little money to spare, invest in that one piece that you really love. Whether it is a piece of furniture, a piece of art or a beautiful vase. Surrounding ourselves with things that inspire us lifts our personal energy level or chi. I am not promoting consumerism here, as we all most likely buy way too much of what we don’t need. What I am promoting is having fewer things all of which we truly love. So weed out the mediocre and replace them with one thing that really makes your heart sing.

Erica Sofrina is an Internationally recognized speaker, educator, author and the founder of the Academy of Feng Shui. She is the author of the book Small Changes, Dynamic Results! Feng Shui for the Western World.

Photo courtesy of my dear friend Sylvia from her home – a natural Feng Shui ‘ Master




Jake B.
Past Member 2 years ago

I have got the good information through your blog; I will share this to my friends as well.

Latoya Brookins
Latoya Brookins4 years ago

My mom doesn't follow feng shui and yet every couple of months she and my stepdad are rearranging the furniture in their living room. They do believe that the energy in a room can get stale and you have to fix the flow.

Kate S.
Kate S4 years ago


Colleen Prinssen
Colleen Prinssen4 years ago

to many of our rooms do not allow for this. the living room has to many windows and we have a fireplace that we would like to look at in the cold months.

Dot A.
Dot A4 years ago

Esthetics -> yes!!!

andrew h., reminds us that beauty is also taken in with our ears, so a nice sound system - to BOOT the environment,... I like it!

andrew h.
- -4 years ago

thanks Erica

the energy of positive music can help other ways to too:

Love Peace Harmony song each time played you can ask for a blessing


its free to download no copyright

you can play it very quietly repeatedly (on repeat 24/7) if you like

not the only way to help, no guarantees of results, not a replacement for other modalities to help

Maggie Kearns
Maggie Kearns4 years ago


Tammy Taylor
Tammy Taylor4 years ago

some good ideas ... thanks, makes me want to do some changing around ...

Roger M.
Past Member 4 years ago

Good ideas. Thanks.

Roger M.
Past Member 4 years ago

Good ideas. Thanks.