7 Strange Things That Control Who We’re Attracted To

You do a million little things every day from the moment you wake up to the second you go to bed. Even though you don’t realize it, everything you do (or don’t do) isn’t just having an impact on who you are and what you will be, but also who you might find attractive. You might think the teeny tiny things that make up your life are insignificant, but you’re wrong.

Of those things, did you ever really think that your Internet consumption could have anything to do with what men or women you think are hot? It may sound a little suspect, but it’s true.

Here are some other run of the mill things that would never cross your mind that can either make or break your attraction to someone else.

1. Going Online.
We already know the media has a major say in how we view the world, so once we get online, with all that media jumping in our face, there’s no place like the Internet when it comes to manipulating what we find attractive. A study done at St. Andrews University found that women who spend a lot of time on the Internet find masculine men more attractive and men find feminine and skinny ladies to be the best looking. In contrast, those who don’t have Internet access found the exact opposite to be attractive: women preferred feminine looking dudes and guys we’re all about women who we were more masculine in appearance. According to the study, Internet “surfing” women found Russell Crowe, in all his masculinity, to be an “ideal.”

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2. Skipping Lunch.
It’s going to sound weird, but a 2006 study found that when men were hungry their taste (no pun intended) in women changed. It’s with those empty bellies that guys found heavier women to be more attractive. Researchers think this has to do with “resource scarcity,” which means that women who weigh more are basically advertising that they know where to go to get that stomach full and happy again.

3. Taking The Pill.
Ladies, we’re naturally attracted to men whose MHC genes are very different from our own, but when we take the Pill, those hormones mess up our perspective and smelling efficiency (how we sniff out our match). Studies have even found that some women are so affected by the Pill that when they go off of it, they’re attraction to their current mate could come to an end, causing the relationship to fizzle. Women are also attracted to different men than usual when they’re ovulating.

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4. Considering Relationships.
A study found that when men are looking for just a fling or a short-term relationship, they’re more attracted to women with feminine faces. Although what’s considered “feminine” can be subjective, it does go to show that men’s attraction hinders on what they want out of a relationship. We knew that looks have a lot to do with attraction, but leave it to dudes to have their attraction to women altered by, well, their libido’s needs.

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5. Lowering Our Standards.
People are just so scared to be alone! A study done by the University of Toronto found that when push comes to shove and it looks like we just might be lonely forever, we lower our standards of whom we find attractive. While back in our hay day, we might have gone for the best looking one in the crowd, if things start looking sparse, our attraction to less than par individuals kick into gear.

6. Smelling Lavender And Pumpkin Pie At The Same Time.
Although foods that produce pheromones have yet to be discovered, one study done at the Smell and Taste Research Foundation in Chicago found a 40 percent “increase in penile blood flow when lavender and pumpkin pie were smelled together.” What this means for men is that if they didn’t think you were attractive before, one whiff of that combo and they’re going to be second guessing their initial lack of sexual response to you.

7. Keeping The Same Circle Of People.
Not to get all Silence of the Lambs on you, but “we begin by coveting what we see every day,” and studies agree. Keeping the same people within our proximity, ie. sitting next to same person in class every day, forces us into being attracted to people whom we wouldn’t fall for normally. Honestly, it’s kinda easy to get yourself all hot and bothered about someone we can never quite shake out of our daily lives.

by Amanda Chatel, from YourTango.com

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Denise D.
Denise D3 years ago

Hmm, some of the things are kind of "out there", but what do I know! about #7: this most likely explains office flings, But my mom always told me "never fish in the company pond". I've not seen many of these relationships last a very long time.

Dale O.

Agreed, Teresa B.

Some of these things are truly bizarre!

Lavender and pumpkin pie smelled together?

So very true, Carol P, however, it should be 50 points, lol.

JD She
JD She3 years ago

Lavender and pumpkin pie? Okay then!
Hmm, when he starts getting hungry he starts wanting the big ladies... good to remember. Because we know where all the food is hidden!

Tonya Freeman
Tonya Freeman3 years ago

I chuckled as I read this. My word! Studies, studies, studies...with how many folks? Oh well, I do understand, the discovery of what makes folk tick is interesting.

A couple of years ago, I heard a seminar in which the speaker brought the sense of smell to our attention. She stated that without using any scented products, we are attracted to a certain scent that another's body gives off. If that person makes you laugh, then you are even more attracted. I found that just as interesting as the above article.

Good research. Thank you.

DrJeanette R.
DrJeanette R.3 years ago

Selecting a good stable and loving partner may mean you having to let go of that heart racing excitement when you see someone who makes the world disappear. You are often attracted to the 'wrong' person because the unpredictability of their personality makes you want to tame them, feel powerful and be in control. You can learn more on my YouTube Channel - on why you pick the wrong partner, and how to pick the right one. https://www.youtube.com/user/doctorjeanette

You can also learn more about why you get disappointed after the honeymoon period at http://losangeleswestsidetherapy.com/2012/02/28/why-your-partner-falls-short-of-your-ideal-partner-characteristics/#.UDAXGaNdC7s

Here is the recipe for finding and staying with the right person: http://www.yourtango.com/experts/dr-jeanette-raymond/four-steps-receptivity-when-right-partner-comes-along

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Sarah M.
Sarah M3 years ago

i will try lavender and pumkpie pie from now on

Sarah Ellissa Markey
Sarah Markey3 years ago

thank you.

Katie S.
Katie S3 years ago