7 Ways to Stop Panicking

By Tina Tessina, DivineCaroline

There is always something in the news or on TV to scare us. Hysterical articles in the media sell papers and attract eyeballs to websites, but are usually exaggerating the facts. If you listen without evaluating what you’re being told, it’s easy to become frightened. There’s a reason why I don’t usually waste time and energy on panic and drama.

In my office, I see the negative results of panic every day. People get upset, they’re afraid of emotional consequences, and they overreact, which can actually create the consequences they fear. Panic is an overreaction to a real (or even imagined) problem. Frightening yourself beyond the real need to deal with a problem puts your body into “fight or flight” mode—as though your life were immediately threatened. Emotional panic can create a shutdown of feelings—so you’re in a state of shock. In this state , you cannot think clearly, or make good responses, choices and decisions. In panic, we do not retain information, absorb what we hear, or accurately assess the situation. Panic is the worst thing you can do in a real emergency, and if the situation is not dire, panic will make it worse.

Panic is a natural startle reaction that gets exaggerated and becomes prolonged. People often learn to panic because, in early childhood, panic can get us out of responsibilities. Freaking out, crying, throwing temper tantrums, or shutting down are all panic responses small children use which cause some competent adult to take over and become the hero. This can be okay once in a while, but as this pattern repeats, it becomes rescuing and codependency. Panic creates drama – unnecessary and damaging exaggeration of the problem—which leads to dysfunctional responses and overblown family drama.

We admire people who don’t panic. Our President is admired for being “no drama Obama” because he retains his ability to think clearly, take his time, and make effective decisions even when the people around him are panicking. People who can stay calm usually come out OK, because they think clearly.

So, what do you do in a scary or upsetting situation? Teach yourself how not to panic, so you can think clearly and handle the problem effectively. Practice these techniques to teach yourself to stay calm when the situation is threatening or the people around you are obviously in a panic.

To learn to let go, follow these simple steps for resolving your fear and anxiety:

1. Learn to recognize the signs of your own panic. If you feel the telltale signs of panic—a racing or pounding heartbeat, flushing of the face or body, and mental confusion—you are in a state of panic. If you are shouting, saying unreasonable things, or just saying whatever comes out of your mouth, without thinking about consequences, you are in a state of panic. Stop what you’re doing, and follow the rest of the steps here.

2. Take some deep breaths. Deep breathing will calm your body, and burn off the adrenaline that’s been released in the panic. Slow down, count to ten, focus on thinking clearly and factually rather than reacting emotionally.

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3. Take responsibility to figure out what you’re afraid of. Unless you’re in immediate, direct danger, what’s scaring or upsetting you is probably not as urgent as you think. Make a list of what you’re afraid of. This will help you move beyond free-floating anxiety, and begin to think more clearly.

4. Check the facts. Is what’s on the news really true? Do we have an epidemic, or only 11 confirmed cases in California? Does the source you’re listening to have something to gain by putting you in a panic? Are they trying to sell you something, get federal funding, or get elected? Are you reacting to someone else’s panic? Get some facts about whatever is frightening you. Is there a real, immediate threat, or is it just wise to be cautious? Is your partner actually going to abandon you, or is he or she just angry about something?

5. Make a decision about what to do about each fear. If it’s a health fear, perhaps better hygiene or a talk with your doctor will resolve it. If it’s a relationship fear, finding out what your partner is really thinking (instead of guessing) will probably make more sense.

6. Take some action to resolve the problems or threats you’re facing. Get a flu shot, go for relationship therapy, or have a good talk with your partner or family member.

7. Sell yourself on a positive outcome. Think of all the possible great outcomes of the changes you’re making. Consider what you will learn, and how much better your life and relationships will be without the panic.

With a calmer outlook, you’ll be able to make better decisions, and create a more successful outcome. I wish you peace, within yourself, within your family, within the world.


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michele may
michele may5 years ago

great info

Abbe A.
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Irene S.
Irene S5 years ago

Great article!!

Anna Undebeck
Anna Undebeck5 years ago

thank you!!!

Sheri P.
Sheri P5 years ago

good advice! thing is, sometimes when i'm in panic mode, i'm not rational enough to slow down and take deep breaths! sometimes i need someone to remind me and often that isn't the case...

Jeni G.
Jennifer G5 years ago

Good stuff, thanks!

Dale Overall

Fascinating and insightful. Often difficult to do during alarming situations but panicking often is even worse especially if there is a fire in a crowded building and people instinctively run for the exit trapping each other when a more calm demeanour means getting out safely. In some situations quelling panic is not easy.

Stathi Stathi
Stathi Stathi5 years ago

This is so true, and your advices so beneficial for all of us!