Are Limiting Beliefs Holding You Back?

Our thoughts are powerful. They have the capacity to truly change our realities. But for many of us, limiting beliefs can actually work against us and stand in the way of our success. That’s right: many of us are creating our own obstacles.

It doesn’t have to be that way. Newsflash: you deserve to thrive and be your best self. By cultivating thoughts that are encouraging and self-loving, you can change your reality for the better. To get you started, here are limiting beliefs that it is time to acknowledge and let go of.

Are Limiting Beliefs Holding You Back?

“I don’t have time.”

Sorry to burst your bubble, but you do have time. Often people claim they don’t have the time to do the self-care things that feel hard and uncomfortable—like starting a side hustle passion project, meditating, exercising, or cooking healthy meals.

That’s just fear talking.

When it comes to helping other people, we make time to hit deadlines, take meetings, go out for dinner and run errands. But most of us are unwilling to find a way to allow ourselves the time and space we need to feel our best.

The truth is, you can find 10 minutes a day to dedicate to yourself, and that time really adds up. Over the course of three months, that’s 15 hours you’ll have been able to spend on your needs, dreams and goals. You can accomplish A LOT in that amount of time.

Claiming you don’t have time is a sorry excuse. Cancel Netflix or wake up 15 minutes earlier. Don’t let fear win out! You can find the time for yourself—and you deserve it.

Frustrated woman worried about problem sitting on sofa with laptop

“I’m not worthy of better.”

If you feel stuck and unhappy in your current situation, know that you are worthy of happiness. You deserve to follow your dreams. You deserve to achieve your goals. Sometimes the only thing that’s standing in the way of a better life for ourselves is our thinking.

Know that you are worthy of living your best life, and you’ll begin to notice wonderful, happiness-boosting opportunities starting to present themselves to you.

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“This is too difficult.”

Difficulty isn’t a fact, it’s a perception. For instance, some people perceive public speaking as difficult but others have an easy time with it. The things that are easy for some of us are challenging for others.

Labeling something as ‘difficult’ can really get in your head. If you listen to the people who say that starting a business, losing 50 pounds, learning to code or training for a bike race is difficult, you can get really bogged down without ever actually trying.

Most things in life are challenging at first—it’s called being a beginner. That doesn’t mean they’re too difficult for you. You never know until you try, so stop listening to what others’ think is difficult or easy. They’re just meaningless labels. New challenges are opportunities, not things to avoid due to a fear of failure.

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“I should _______.”

Any time you begin a thought with “I should…”, you need to be wary. The word ‘should’ can subconsciously imply that there is some societal standard you’re attempting to adhere to.

Perhaps it was something ingrained into your thinking by your parents, friends, school, your workplace or even a complete stranger. If you’re thinking, “I should take that job offer,” ask yourself why you should. There’s no right or wrong. There’s only the journey towards greater happiness.

Every time you think the word “should”, see if you can replace it with “will”, “must” or “want to”. Your choices can feel like your decisions. Don’t let deeply-held limiting beliefs guide them.

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“People will judge me if I admit my imperfections.”

Here’s the deal—no one’s perfect. Yet, a lot of us go around (on social media and in real life) pretending like we’re confident and we’ve got it all figured out. But it’s time to forget the schtick and be true to yourself.

I was recently part of a large group where we went around the table and shared what we want to improve on. I have lots of self-improvement goals, but I couldn’t think of any of them, because my mind literally shut down with anxiety. Right before my turn to speak, I actually started sweating profusely. So, I shared that I was incredibly nervous and would love to get better at managing my social anxiety and speaking in front of people (and that I definitely needed to go put on some more deodorant after the exercise was over). I was very open and honest and vulnerable, and suddenly, half the people started thanking me for speaking out—saying that they felt the exact same way but were too scared to let on.

The point is, we’re all in the same boat. Let’s be authentic and honest with each other, and that means admitting that we aren’t perfect. If people judge you for that, it’s clear that they have a lot of their own problems and limiting beliefs to deal with. You be you.

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58 comments

Mike R
Mike R2 days ago

Thanks

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Greta L
Greta L5 days ago

thank you

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Coo R
Coo R9 days ago

TY

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Anna R
Anna R11 days ago

Thank you for sharing

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Emma L
Emma L14 days ago

tyfs

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Lesa D
Lesa D14 days ago

thank you Jordyn...

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Vincent T
Vincent T18 days ago

thanks for this

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Leo C
Leo Custer19 days ago

Thank you for sharing!

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Dr. Jan Hill
Dr. Jan Hill21 days ago

thanks

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Danny Chan
Danny C24 days ago

It all starts with confidence, self-esteem and believing in yourself. Thank you for sharing. :-)

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