Are You A Doer Or A Dawdler?

Welcome back to Part 2 in the Overcoming Underearning series inspired by my friend Barbara Stanny, author of Overcoming Underearning and a leading authority in women and money. I didn’t tell you last time in Part 1, which was about determining whether you’re an underearner, but Barbara’s story is killer. Her dad was the R of H&R Block. So she inherited a boatload of money. You know — trust fund baby and all that goes with it.

But then she married the wrong guy, trusted him with her money, and POOF. It was gone quicker than the pumpkin carriage in Cinderella.

After a lifetime of having guys take care of her finances, Barbara had to figure it all out herself — lickety split. What she learned launched her into her current career, in which she is committed to helping women avoid the mistakes she made and claim their place as high earners getting paid what they’re worth.

Amen, sister!

So…today’s post is about what to do once you’ve determined that you’re an underearner. Are you a Doer — someone who overcomes underearning and starts raking in the big bucks? Or are you a Dawdler — an underearner who stays an underearner? Here are some of Barbara’s tips for being a Doer, not a Dawdler.

8 Rules for Achieving Remarkable Results

(from Barbara’s Overcoming Underearning program and book, that is)

  1. Make a vow to yourself: underearning is no longer an option.
  2. Keep your commitments. Do what you say you’re going to do.
  3. Instead of letting disruptions derail you, use disruptions (like moving or getting married) to practice the 5 steps (which we’ll cover here in Part 3 of this blog series).
  4. Enroll your spouse or significant other in this process.
  5. Put yourself first. Remember the oxygen mask! Dawdlers take care of everybody else first. Doers know better.
  6. Keep passages from Barbara’s book, snippets from this blog post, or other inspiring quotes where you can easily see them.
  7. Rigorously observe your actions and thoughts. Don’t engage in limiting beliefs or self-sabotaging behaviors!
  8. Do what you dread. Face it. Suck it up. Do it.

Are you on board? Have you gotten off the fence and out of your own way enough to do this? If not, sign up for the free Get Out of Your Own Way mini e-course here and then check back!


Camila K.
Kamila A6 years ago

thank you

Silvija Vlahovec
Silvija Vlahovec6 years ago

I'll do that, after I lobotomize myself.

carlee trent
carlee trent6 years ago

noted thx

Eternal Gardener
Eternal Gardener6 years ago

A doing dawdler/dwadling doer for sure!

Robert O.
Robert O6 years ago

Good tips. Sometimes I do, sometimes I dawdle. It depends on my moods and the situation and circumsnatces I'm facing and also to a lesser extent the people involved. Thanks.

K s Goh
KS Goh6 years ago

Thanks for the article.

Julia Perry
Julia Perry6 years ago

Thank you

Kath R.
Kath P6 years ago

Being interested in more than just "in the moment" makes someone a great doer.

Shirley E.
Shirley E6 years ago

To your comment: "Suck it up," I'd say: "Slurp". Except for another, older saying that seems all too true. "There's many a slip 'twixt cup and lip'.

Barbara Erdman
Barbara Erdman6 years ago