Is Your Parent Ready for Assisted Living?

By Marlo Sollitto, contributing editor

No one wants to move from their home into assisted living. However, in some cases, it is the best option to keep elderly or aging parents safe and healthy.

To determine if an elderly person should move to assisted living, or can safely remain at home, take a good look at the present housing situation, health status and medical needs. Ask yourself these questions:

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Is your parent telling you that he is eating, but you’re seeing food go bad in the refrigerator?

Is your parent falling? To determine the answer, is your parent covering up bruises he or she doesn’t want you to see?

Is your parent wearing the same clothes when you go to visit? Can they bathe themselves, groom adequately and launder clothes?

When you look around the house or yard, is it as neat and clean as it used to be?

Is your aging parent remembering to take medications correctly, with the right dosages and at the right time? Are medications expired?

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Are they able to operate appliances safely? Do they remember to turn appliances off when they are finished cooking?

Is the home equipped with safety features such as grab bars and emergency response systems?

Do they have a plan in place to contact help in case of an emergency?

Are they driving? Should they be driving? Do they have alternate means of transportation?

Are there stacks of papers and unpaid bills lying around?

Do they have friends, or are they isolated from others most of the time?

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When you really look at your parent, do you see the bright and vibrant person from years ago, or do you see a more limited person who needs some help one hour a day, or even around the clock?

Making the decision to move a parent into assisted living is one of the hardest and most heart-wrenching decisions of your life. But if it keeps your parent healthy and safe and perhaps even happy, then it is probably for the best for the parent, the caregiver and the family.

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Shirley E.
Shirley E6 years ago

My mum's living is assisted alright, by ME, and the only reason that's possible is my family and I persuaded her to move house so she was close by instead of a four hour car journey away. We got her to do that when she was getting on a bit but not too disabled to move and it means there are several family members who can lend a hand every day.

Jennifer C.
Past Member 6 years ago

Interesting! Thanks.

Bridget M.
Past Member 6 years ago

Something to think about.

Sue Matheson
Sue Matheson6 years ago

if you can take care of your parent, it's best for everyone.

Honza S.
Sarka M6 years ago


Juliet D.
judith sanders6 years ago

My Dad's in assisted living, and it's awful. Bottom line- it's a for-profit business. The food is very unhealthy, full of salt and sugar. It's like the worst quality institutional food you may recall from school. The staff is lackadaisical at best, but at their wages, that's what you'd expect. One of the big profit makers is getting the residents signed up for prescription meds that come in bubble packs. If a resident breaks a hip, their room will not be held while they are in recovery because so many seniors die within a few months after a hip break.
About $4,000 a month, and goes up each year, while my Dad's retirement and government entitlements are not adjusted for cost of living increases.

Sue Ritchie
Sue Ritchie6 years ago

something to consider

Zee Kallah
Past Member 6 years ago

Don't you look at me!

But if you'd like to come in and scrub my floors, I might let you. I could get more petitions signed.

Duane B.
.6 years ago

The transition to assisted living for aging seniors can be difficult, and the decision to make the transition is one that is hard for anyone to make. I admire aging seniors who have the courage to make lifestyle transition voluntarily. Both my father-in-law and my mother have recently made this transition, and I know it was a significant change for both to do so.

Nick Scales
Nicholas Scales6 years ago

I keep reminding my parents that I get to choose their care home