Asking and Receiving Are Connected

All fulfillment comes from within. This may seem to be one of Jesus’s most extravagant promises. We have all asked and not received. To find out what Jesus actually meant, then, we have to answer a few questions: Who is asking? Where is the request going? Whom does it reach?

For most people, the asking comes from the ego, with its unending stream of desires. The request is going out into empty space or to a vaguely remembered God from childhood. The receiver of the request is unknown.

What this means is that asking and receiving are disconnected. Indeed, they must be, because in everyday awareness the world is separate from us and fragmented into millions of isolated events. When you ask for anything, the One is asking the One, God is asking God. And there is always a response.

Learn to ask in a new way, by expecting every wish to bring a response. Take the attitude expressed by the Persian poet Rumi: “Ask all of yourself.” The mechanics of giving and receiving are inside you. Therefore, the next time you pray for something, or simply desire it, go through the following steps:

Expressed the desired outcome to yourself clearly. Detach yourself from the request after you make it. Take an undemanding attitude to the outcome. Be open to whatever response the universe gives back. Know that there is always a response.

In this case, “response” doesn’t mean a yes or a no from God. There is no judge deciding whether you are worthy or not. Those perceptions were born of separation.

When Jesus told his followers that God sees and knows everything, he was describing the complete intimacy between the self and the intelligence that pervades the universe. Since you could not exist without being part of that intelligence, praying to God is circular, a feedback loop.

Adapted from The Third Jesus: The Christ We Cannot Ignore, by Deepak Chopra (Harmony Books, 2008).


Sheri J.
Sheri J5 years ago

I believe that everyone gets what they deserve. If you ask and you don't get it, what effort did you put out before someone or something gives it to you?

irene fernandez
irene Fernandez6 years ago

The other day I was thinking that asking is like math, if you don't see the relation it's just that you don't have the tools to make the results happen yet.

Ji H.
Jean H6 years ago


Loo Samantha
Loo sam6 years ago

thanks for the article.

Kirsten B.
Past Member 6 years ago

If you don't get it, you aren't ready for it or your request was something you could not influence.
Sometimes you will get it, but a long time down the line when you might have forgotten all about your request. You just needed time to make it happen.
Another great article, thank you Deepak.

Uma Chernoff
Uma Chernoff6 years ago

Gaby Seth in"Nature of Personal Reality"says we all have one negative core belief that is responsible for"failing" attainment of desire and no matter the work and purity of invocation never succeed.Love, prosperity, popularity, confidence, seem to our experience unattainable no matter what. Understanding that the negative belief is blocking success we try to change and are constantly shown it doesn't work. These beliefs are clustered around irrational cores.The process is compared to peeling an onion; it not only makes you cry but when you think you've won it keeps coming back in another form, there seems to be no center.Stripping away that nastiness we find ourselves becoming increasingly irrational. That's a good sign, we are getting to the center.When face to face with the monster telling us we'll always be unworthy; we break down,defiant we do the two year 2 step,screaming "no No NO!I CAN ! " and that core disappears.Being utterly irrational it can only be challenged from that level;the old beliefs clustered around that core released and we have not only what they blocked us from but a total Renaissance in all aspects,only tackling 1 per life. Some times if that nasty blocking seems vital to our life's purpose("seems!") keeping us from what we consider distraction, we never do release it and success getting that desire never comes.That is me...sad to say I give up on it, it makes me tired to struggle with it, I'll NEVER (this incarnation) fulfill this desire.

heather g.
heather g6 years ago

You can enjoy something twice. First of all by imagining that you are enjoying it, how you'll feel when enjoying it and then, finally, the enjoyment and gratitude when you receive it.

Alicia N.
Alicia N6 years ago

noted with thanks

Giovanna M.
Giovanna M6 years ago


Asiatic Lion
Asiatic Lion6 years ago

I think therefore i am....