Caretakers, Reward Yourself

Many of us spend a large percentage of time taking care of others: our children, grandchildren and elderly members of the family. We also have responsibilities to our partners, our pets and if we work, our bosses. AND if we are in our own business, we are responsible to the entire staff and the clients we serve. Sometimes as we wade through all our responsibilities we forget to be responsible for ourselves. In our exhaustion we eat and drink things that are not good for us, and do not find the time to exercise and relax.

As caretakers we must realize that we are just as important as those we care for. Here are some suggestions for successful care taking:

Resist the temptation to be a hero.

If you find yourself talking about how you are taking a problem on your shoulders with no one’s help, this is a clue that you are not managing the situation well. And some of us subconsciously like to be the hero so that people will think well of us or feel sorry for us. Do not play the role of the hero. Talk to members of the family and insist that everyone do their fair share of the work. And if you are in a situation where there is no family to help you, then inquire within your community to find out what public services may be available to you that you have not known about. Do not let pride keep you from asking for help when you need it. Divide the work. Get help. This is the more spiritual approach as you will be taking care of yourself.

Reward yourself each day.

It is amazing how far a little self respect can go. If you respect yourself, you will find a way to get some pleasure out of each day, even the toughest of days. Rewards do not always have to be expensive or fattening! For instance, on your way to take care of a chore that is not particularly pleasant, you might stop someplace for five minutes to gaze at a beautiful site such as a pond, a garden of flowers or a sunset. Or you might keep a favorite book of poetry in your car, and take three minutes to read one of your favorite poems. Taking several minutes to refresh yourself can make all the difference. As you reward yourself, you will be uplifted and ready to take on whatever tasks await you. If you do not reward yourself, you will be resentful, unhappy and exhausted.

It is not always easy for us to remember to reward ourselves. Perhaps when we are making out our lists of what we need to do each day, we can add “reward myself.”

Psychic Medium and Inspirational Author Carole Lynne provides content and community for who you aspire to be–personally, socially and globally.

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Nanette M.
Nanette M.7 years ago

Just reading these blogs and knowing that there are individuals that still CARE is a wonderful and healing process...bless you all for taking the time to care for your loved ones...and thank you for sharing your stories. You are all very special!

Nanette M.
Nanette M.7 years ago

Blessed John are a good man and you do what you do out of true love...and dedication and honour...what a nobel person you are! Carry on in the name of the spiritual are a special person!

Trish K.
Trish K7 years ago

Just remembering to breathe is good

Eliza D.
Past Member 8 years ago

Hi. I have a question about your article. I was looking for how to deal with people who act this way. My mom will deliberately say things to make me mad like "You're a slob," or "You're an idiot," and then when I call her something back, I am the bad person, because she is the one providing me with a place to live. When she says these things to me, what am I supposed to do?
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Johnston T.
Tammy J8 years ago

I have been a big help caring for a special needs person with angelman syndrome. I understand how easy it is to become burned out. It is so important to care for yourself first to be able to care for someone else.

John Allen
John Allen8 years ago

I am a Caregiver to my Dear Wife who has Severe Pulmonary Fibrosis, I do agree that we tend to forget about ourselves because we are trying to do so much by ourself.
I do get help from my Family and have a Sitter from the Local Council for 2 hours a week but I still am too Serious with myself in what I do for the Care of My Wife. I must take into consideration on what has been said in this article and what others are saying. My Wife and I have been Married for 47 years and I think that is the reason I take things so Seriously.

Ellen C.
Ellen C8 years ago

I am a caregiver for my disabled husband and very much appreciate your sentiments expressed here. However, I beg you to please use the term "caregiver" not "caretaker." We give care, not take it -- unless you mean that we're careful. "Caretaker" seems outdated. Thank you.

Laurie T.
Laurie T8 years ago

What a lesson learned on my part when I took on far too much in my business and didn't swallow my false pride and seek help. That little quote "you can't please all the people all the time" stood out, over Nike's slogan "just do it", when my inner self got fed up with my ignoring it and sent me crashing to the ground in pain. After wallowing over the inability to walk for years, I, one day, stepped outside. Well, sort of stepped... I hauled my paper mache out to a table next to my pond. I finally learned to listen to my insides and sculpted a "funky chicken", just for the sake of it. I was so arrogant with the belief that I could be a hero, that that little inner self had to go to extremes to make me notice what I was actually doing. Disregarding myself. How can one be of any help to others if we don't properly take care of ourselves first? I was pretty useless to others when I stopped thinking about my own health. Big lesson learned..the hard way. Now I listen to me. Now I no longer take chemical medications or ignore my own inner hints to a healthier life, that includes time for myself. My pain is hardly noticable any more, thanks to common sense that my inner self quietly teaches me. Eat clean, stop to notice what is around me, listen, and appreciate.

Peace Love Earth

I've been a caregive for over 25 years now, and continue to be. I thought the article was right-on, and she said what definitely pertained to the situation in quite a short amount of words. Spot-on!

I think reading it, and sharing it with other caregivers was to validate what I do on a daily basis.

Thanks, Carole Lynn. Thanks to you, too, Megan!