Death is an Essential Part of Life

Here are some suggestions for ways to grasp that death is not a dreaded enemy but an essential part of life:

Allow yourself to be near someone who is dying. Resist the fear that makes you shun them or stay away because you donít want to interfere.

Try to imagine your own death and then try to imagine your own birth. No matter how hard you try, both are impossible in any corner of your consciousness. There is no hint of a beginning or an ending. Consider, then that your parents were not telling you the whole truth when they said you were born on a certain day. Inside we all feel ourselves as always having lived, which is true.

Go out into nature and stand by an old tree. Look up at it and realize that nothing you are seeing is stable or permanent. That solid trunk is a cloud of subatomic particles whirling in space, each one more than 99.9999 percent empty.

Oxygen and hydrogen, for example, exist as invisible gases, yet when they bind into water, those properties cease to exist. There was extinction of old forms to bring about the emergence of new ones never seen before. All creativity works this way. New and secret qualities are waiting to be born. It is the joy of life to be part of their birth.

Death is your greatest friend, because when you shed this body and personality, you are giving back to the source old outworn materials to be reshaped. You are not giving rise to a repeat of you, but to a new being that shoots forth with newly emergent qualities, qualities you in your current state cannot imagine.

Adapted from The Deeper Wound: Recovering the Soul from Fear and Suffering, by Deepak Chopra (Harmony Books, 2001).


Nils Lunde
PlsNoMessage se5 years ago

True :-)

Thomas P.
Thomas P5 years ago


Milkah Savage
Past Member 5 years ago

Death..I must say know matter how much I try to convine myself that when I die my journey just continues, I still have an element of fear. Even though my native cultural teaches us the continuous of lifes circle.

Emma S.
Emma S6 years ago

Sometimes I can feel this way - but sometimes the idea of 'not being' still terrifies me!

Bon L.
Bon L6 years ago

Thanks for the info.

Karen B.
Past Member 7 years ago

Andrea M.
I know what you're saying, I've feared death since I was a little girl and have spent much of my time dwelling on this complex, incomprehensible subject. Death makes me feel truly ill. I've lost a lot of loved ones including a 22 year old son, killed in a car accident. Still have no answers . . . . .

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Andrea M.
Andrea M7 years ago

Death is at the top of my most feared things. I am always finding myself worrying about my own death or a friend or family member. I don't do it constantly, but it disturbs me when I start thinking about it.

Janice L.
Janice Lawrence7 years ago

I wasn't with my father but he's with me now. He's really happy now. He's with his mother and all our relatives who've gone on before and everyone actually gets along now!

Laurie H.
Laurie H7 years ago

Thank you for this interesting article. I was with my dad when he passed and a friend when he passed. I know all of us will end some day and this is certainly another way to think about what will possibly happen.