Dying Consciously

In the West, we donít have a tradition of conscious death. What you can do personally at this moment is to bring your awareness to the dying process, ridding it of excessive fear and anxiety.

Think of someone close to you who is elderly and close to dying. Put yourself inside the mind and body of the person. Now begin to assist the person in the shift from passively facing death to actively creating the experience. Be comforting and reassuring, but focus primarily on shifting the personís awareness from ďthis is happening to meĒ to ďI am doing this.Ē

Here are the main themes to talk about: I think youíve had a beautiful life. Letís talk about the best things you remember. You can be proud of having turned out to be a good person. You have created a lot of love and respect. Where would you like to go from here? Tell me how you feel about what is happening. How would you change it if you could? If you have any regrets, tell me about them. Iíll help you let go of them. You have no more need for sorrow. Iíll help you let go of any that you still feel. You deserve to be at peace. You have run your race well, and now that itís finished, Iíll help you home.

Having an imaginary conversation is a good way to reach down into yourself. This exercise should bring up very mixed feelings, since we all harbor fear and sorrow at the prospect of death.

The domain where life and death merge is always here with us, and by paying attention to it you connect yourself to a precious aspect of awareness.

Adapted from The Book of Secrets, by Deepak Chopra (Harmony Books, 2004).


Beth M.
Beth M5 years ago

..some souls r just not ready to face up to their moment of death in fear free faithfull way...Do they have a right to their denial?..Is their denial needed to see them thru the transition?...To offer such a change at such a personal moment should not be taken lightly...Is it your need to be of help that takes precidence?...Is their dying in denial maybe ur lesson rather than theirs?..x

Atocha B.
Mary F5 years ago

Different view.

Sally Allen
Sally A5 years ago

It brings light to the very fear and sorrow that I have a hard time accepting, death. Instead I need to live life and not dwell on death, to not be in fear of it. Thanks for the information.

Brenda Towers
Brenda Towers5 years ago

Once you have accepted your own death is inevitable, it is much easier to live life to the full each day, with joy.

Teresa Wlosowicz
Teresa W5 years ago


heather g.
heather g5 years ago

The "main themes" mentioned when speaking to a person who has little time left are very helpful. For someone who is ready to say goodbye and pass away, it is upsetting to them when their family or friends still hold onto the hope that they will recover.

Sheri P.
Sheri P5 years ago

while i realize it is a part of life, it still brings me much fear and anxiety!

Andy O.
Past Member 5 years ago

The Western tradition of death, is to avoid talking about it, or thinking about it at all costs.

Freya H.
Freya H5 years ago

We need to accept that death is a part of life. Many a story about immortals points out that immortality is more of a curse than a blessing. As David Gerrold put it, maybe death is the best part of life, which is why it's saved for last.

Linda Jarsky
Linda Jarsky5 years ago

i'm speechless