Feng Shui Tips for Romance & Better Sleep

In Feng Shui, the bedroom is considered one of the most important rooms in the home. We spend most of our time there and its chi, or energy, will affect us more powerfully. In this article I will address good color choices for bedrooms along with general Feng Shui principles that will help you create a bedroom that is a sanctuary of rest and rejuvenation.

Color in the Bedroom

A pastel sage green is also a good calming color for bedrooms. Add some fire along with earth tones in bedding, furniture and accessories


In Feng Shui we always take into consideration the Yin (calm) and Yang (active) components of a space. In doing so we can design a room that serves the purposes of both rest and activity more effectively. (See my article on Yin and Yang for the Home). The purpose of a bedroom is to be a place that supports replenishment, not activity, unlike the home office or kitchen. We want them to feel happy and lift our spirits; bold and bright colors will not serve the purpose of sleep. It can still feel happy but not active.

Flesh tones and earth tones and pastels are ideal colors for bedrooms. You can choose from an array of more muted yellows and golds, taupes (light coffee color), adobe, a more muted terracotta, creamy peach and apricot and flesh tones. Dark blue, green, black and grey are too cool and only recommended in small doses in bedrooms. They represent the water element and can make us feel too spacey and ungrounded. Bedrooms are places we need to be in our bodies to rejuvenate. They should evoke an “earthy” feeling. Use the darker watery colors as accent in small doses.

Bring in the fire element to add sensuality and sizzle, but don’t over do it. Use more muted fire colors such as plum, coral, terracotta, berry red or burgundy. Bright red walls or hot pink accessories for curtains bedspreads, sheets and rugs are too stimulating and will not be conducive to sleep. You can add romance to any color scheme by bringing in two red pillows, a red throw on the bed with red candles in pairs. They will add just enough sparkwithout making it too stimulating for sleep.

Attracting a Mate

To attract romance, bring in some red colors in accents. Fresh flowers and relationship pictures will set the stage to get things sizzling in the bedroom!

For those who would like to attract a mate, you may want to bring in objects in pairs and add realistic, romantic relationship pictures. An unrealistic picture might be that of a winged man rescuing a mortal woman. Last I checked men don’t come with wings!

Examples of pairs of things might be two red candles, two roses in a vase, pairs of doves, etc. To read more about attracting a mate see my article on Feng Shui for Romance. You also want to have two end tables and lamps of equal size on either side of the bed.

To give it more oomph, place it in the love corner of the bedroom, which will be the far right corner as you are standing in the doorway looking into the room.To find out how to find the relationship corner see my article Where is the Energy in Your Home?

Next: Safety, Clutter, and Inspiration


This bed has sharp unfriendly edges that either need to be padded or be replaced

Safety issues both subtle and obvious are an important part of Feng Shui. Here are some safety issues that would be importantto address in the bedroom for every age group.

  • Replace or pad any piece of furniture that can injure, especially unfriendly bed frames that you can bruise your shins or stub your toe on.
  • Move the bed away from heavy beams or ceiling fans. Your nervous system will always be on alert and you will not rest deeply. You can cover the beams with a piece of cloth or create a “faux” canopy by draping it on the ceiling. Ceiling fans can be removed or replaced with more friendly looking blades that look like palm leaves.
  • Cozy-up rooms with high vaulted ceilings with canopy beds if you can. As creatures of comfort we sleep better in more cozy spaces.

Bed Positioning

Ideally the bed should be positioned so that you see the entry door from your pillow but are not in direct alignment with the open doorway. If you cannot move the bed, always close the door when you sleep. The energy coming in through hallways is too strong and can have a huge effect on anyone who is energetically sensitive. If your bed is in direct alignment with a bathroom door, close this whenever you are in bed. We never want to be looking at the toilet.

If the bed has to be positioned in front of a window it should have a large headboard to provide a sense of protection. Use heavier window coverings to mute street noise. Always have window coverings on bedroom windows, preferably with blackout shades to allow for a sounder sleep for those who are light sensitive.

Clutter and Organization

All of the same principles of dealing with clutter apply to every room of the home. Closets are no exception and disguise much hidden clutter in bedrooms, so go throw away and deep six anything you haven’t used or worn in a year. You will be surprised what joy an organized closet can bring every time you open the door.

Ideally we should not have storage under the bed but for small spaces we need to utilize them. If you do store things there, make sure there are no weapons or sharp objects. Organize the storage and edit out anything that is not necessary. Store them in containers that are clearly marked and easy to pull out.

What Not to Have in Your Room

Remove televisions, home offices, exercise equipment and large mirrors from bedrooms. This is the key place for you to relax and rejuvenate.

Working, exercising and watching television are all “Yang” activities and should be done in the more active spaces of the home. If you are looking at work, you may feel guilty for either not working or working too much. If you live in a studio and need a workspace as well, separate the work with an attractive screen; put computers and televisions in a cabinet you can close up at night or disguise them with an attractive throw or shawl when you are finished working. If you do have exercise equipment make sure you are able to fold it up and store out of sight.

Mirrors are “chi activators” and are powerfully used in Feng Shui in the right places. (See my article on 11 Home Energy Enhancers) but will be counter productive in bedrooms where we want the energy to calm down. These are often the culprits for many of my clients who do not sleep well in their bedrooms.

Large Vanity mirrors can be covered with an attractive shawl at night or replaced with a picture. For mirrored closet doors treat them like a window and put curtains on them and close them up at night when you need to sleep. You can also paint over the glass. Three coats of paint will cover them. Paint is easy to scrape off when you need to restore them to their original state. Another idea would be to cover them with an attractive shelf paper with a sticky back that will adhere to the glass. Get something with an interesting texture like rice paper. If the closet doors span the entire wall you will want to be looking at something visually interesting.

Inspire Yourself!

Make sure the last thing you look at before you go to bed and the first thing you see when you wake up inspires you. This holds tremendous energy to move your life forward in the direction of your highest aspirations, so put your most inspiring artwork and affirmations in this most important piece of real estate!

Erica Sofrina in an Internationally recognized speaker, teacher and author of the book Small Changes Dynamic Results! Feng Shui for the Western World. She is the Founder of the West Coast Academy of Feng Shui which offers Feng Shui Practitioner Certification Training programs both on site in Northern California as well as in Home Study modules. Find out more at www.ericasofrina.com


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Debbie S.
Past Member 4 years ago

I have never liked our bedroom. I love the closets and our bed which has a large headboard which is good since the bed has to be on the wall that has a window. We have a ceiling fan above which we cannot do anything about because we live in a two story depression era house and need the air circulation. Actually we sleep better with the fan running. The room is serviceable but not appealing. Would love to redecorate but cannot at this time. Colors have always been a quandry. Neither my husband or I care for pinks, reds. I don't want the room to be too masculine nor too feminine. We both like the darker colors because of keeping the room dark enough for sleep because we are both light sensitive. I'm thinking greens, plums, or darker blues when I can make a change. Our spare room paint color is called 'gold leaf' which is a close match to turning autumn leaves with white trim. It works fine. The other room is called 'milkweed pod' and is a earthy darker brown with white trim-door, baseboards, trim round the windows so it is a combination or dark and light.

Siobhan James
Siobhan James4 years ago

I love peace and tranquillity in the bedroom.

Ganaisha Calvin
Ganaisha Calvin4 years ago

great info thanks