From Suicidal To Sparkling: How Michelle Got Her Mojo Back

In honor of the beta-launch of my first ever Owning Pink e-course Get Out Of Your Own Way: Free Yourself From Fear And Worry And Leap Into Your Dreams, I’ll be posting a series of posts based on Get Out Of Your Own Way superstars who have implemented the principles of the e-course. These beauties have gotten out of their own way and started ROCKING this life by tapping into their authentic selves (aka the Inner Pilot Light), letting their freak flags fly, finding their callings, identifying and overcoming limiting beliefs, eliminating false obstacles, getting jiggy with raking in the moolah, and starting to live the joyful, powerful, fulfilling lives they’re destined to live.

Let’s start with Michelle Medina.

When I first met Michelle almost two years ago, she was suicidal. In fact, she posted a suicide note on Owning Pink’s forum and the community pretty much freaked out because we love her and didn’t know how to help. All I knew about Michelle (who goes by Chelle) was her name and that she lived somewhere in Michigan. I spent hours on the phone with a suicide hotline, trying to track her down so I could send a cop to her home to try to save her. I spent all night waking up unexpected Michiganites who shared her name.

But I couldn’t find her.

All I could do was send her a message, tell her we loved her, and beg her not to do it. I couldn’t sleep until hours later, when I finally got a message from Chelle. She survived the night and agreed to talk to a professional.

But Chelle’s Inner Pilot Light Knew Better

Chelle has had a hard life, and it’s easy to understand why she might want to end it all. But even though the odds were against her, Chelle wasn’t ready to give up. Instead of committing suicide, she decided to get out of her own way and leap into her dreams, so she spent the next year implementing the Get Out Of Your Own Way principles into her life. Chelle did a Pink Medicine Woman coaching session with me and revealed that she dreams of leaving her family’s home to live an independent life in San Antonio, Texas, where she longs to snuggle with animals, find her soul mate, and live a life of service, loving on babies who have suffered from birth defects. With her permission, I wrote this post to enlist the aid of the Owning Pink community. Together, we raised thousands of dollars to help Chelle fund a trip to San Antonio so she could start the process of changing her life.

How Chelle Got Out Of Her Own Way & How You Can Too: A 16-Step Program

  1. Ditch the masks, meet your Inner Pilot Light, and be unapologetically YOU.
  2. Dream big, find your calling, discover your life purpose, and get clear on the life you wish to create.
  3. Consult your body to make sure your dreams are in line with your Inner Pilot Light.
  4. Eliminate limiting beliefs and false obstacles and release what no longer serves you.
  5. Employ radical self care.
  6. Stand up for what you’re worth.
  7. Call upon your feminine power.
  8. Let go of what everybody thinks and seek mentors and wing women who will lift you up and help you make your dreams come true.
  9. Overcome fear and find your peace with risk.
  10. State your desires and ask the Universe for what you need.
  11. Set goals but release attachment to outcomes.
  12. Don’t forget to DO something!
  13. Be patient with the process.
  14. Be willing to receive.
  15. Believe in yourself and have faith.
  16. Have fun and get juiced up. When you feel good, you’re friggin’ powerful.

Chelle Does Texas!

I just finished my 20 city book tour for What’s Up Down There, and while I was in Texas, I was blessed to meet Chelle in person. While she was in Texas, Chelle explored housing options in San Antonio, felt the “plunk” of coming home, and planted seeds to try to build a new life. And the best part about the whole thing is that Chelle is GLOWING. Literally radiant. Her Inner Pilot Light is effervescing big time.

When Pain Is That Great

It’s easy to understand why Chelle was suicidally depressed. Born with a severe congenital defect called a Tessier Cleft, Chelle has had 66 surgeries in her short 25 year life. Born without eyes and marked by a large cleft down the front of her face, she has endured a lifetime of stares and the physical and psychological pain that accompanies such a severe birth defect.

Much of her life, she has been isolated in her bedroom and glued to her computer, which is her lifeline to the outside world. Because she is blind and lives nowhere near public transportation, she was at the mercy of family members and felt powerless. She has only one real live friend, and her family didn’t support her desire to become independent. Whenever she started to dream, they knocked her down.

If someone like Chelle can get out of her own way and make huge strides towards leaping into her dreams, so can you.

Here’s what Chelle has to say about getting out of her own way:

Allow me to explain a bit about getting out of your own way. It doesn’t mean hardships don’t ever come back. It doesn’t mean life will magically become easy and crushing blows will disappear. The difference between the old me and the new me is that I come up swinging, with a positive attitude that says, “I’m worth this. I deserve this. I will express my desires, and I will get them, even if it takes me another 5 years!”

That’s my definition of getting out of my own way.

Are you inspired by Chelle like I am? Cheer her on here in the comments section! Blow pixie dust beneath her wings and be the hang-gliders who help her skyrocket to the stratosphere.

What about you? Are you ready to get out of your own way so you can leap into the life of your dreams? Sign up for the free mini e-course I developed, which has jump-started the lives of many people and can do the same for you.

Don’t waste another minute of this life waiting to live the life you deserve to live! As Mary Oliver asks, “Tell me, what is it you plan to do with this one wild and precious life?”

Lissa Rankin, MD: Founder of, Pink Medicine Woman coach, motivational speaker, and author of What’s Up Down There? Questions You’d Only Ask Your Gynecologist If She Was Your Best Friend and Encaustic Art: The Complete Guide To Creating Fine Art With Wax.


Jayasri Amma
Jayasri Amma3 years ago

Thank you!

Randi Felix
Randi Felix6 years ago

this is wonderful for you and the many others that you might have and or will help with your words....myself personally i find it soooo difficult to pull myself up when im depressed and suicidal because i just have seen sooo many doctors about it and been fed all the lines and pills that you could dream of and it didnt change the fact that deep inside i just felt like nothing more than a waste of space, i deal with this everyday still and hope for an organic cure for all that is killing me ie my diabetes type 1 which i cannot afford the meds for any of these things but i digress my depression anxiety ppstd add eating disorder as well as sirs...which mine is cutting ive done alot better with this over the last year but everything else my god i really hope that others are doing better and can be healed personally i find hope in what i do here on this site for the animals, my loves...i just do what i can to try to make this world a bit better.

Bridget Vaillancourt

Wow, your story brings tears to my eyes. Way to go.

linda m.
linda moore7 years ago

You keep on going, girlfriend. You are an inspiration to us all.

Joyce Squillante
Joyce S7 years ago

Why can't I be like that! =(

Deena P.
Deena P7 years ago

The words 'Inner Pilot Light' give me goosebumps!!

Myriam Garcon
Myriam G7 years ago

Women like Chelle are a great inspiration to me. They go where their heart takes them to!

Zoraida Colon-collado
Zoraida colon7 years ago

Chele, I don't believe Elton John would be offended if I offered these beautiful words to you;

"Your're eyes are blind, but you see more than I. Chele, you're a star in the face of the sky!"

Our physical bodies are only the tip of the iceberg, and those who see only that, and go no further, are destined to lives as empty as their souls, and as meaningless. It is the person who's inner eye has developed enough to see the beautiful and nurturing light that comes from within, that is truly the essence of who we are, that we long to meet, to know and to live in the presence of for all our days. Let us strive to become that person ourselves, that our light will illuminate the path of those still in darkness. Thank you both, Lissa and Chele, for sharing your lives today.

Caitlin O.

Chelle has shown a great deal of courage, but as anyone can see, courage has always been a "must have" embedded in her body armor. From the very beginning, she was faced with obstacles that most of us take for granted, myself included. But Chelle is just like the rest of us, in the centre. A human being searching for Love, and Acceptance; of self and from others. I think I understand where you are coming from Chelle, and may God bless your every step. You have much to be proud of.

Jane R.
Jane R7 years ago

So happy that she was able to overcome.