Have You Resolved Struggle Vs Surrender?

Spirit never acts in a fixed way. In general, to hear that someone you love needs you does result in fulfilling the need. There are certain loving instincts that come naturally when you are in touch with spirit:

You don’t oppose. You put feelings over results. You want to help. Service gives rise to feelings of joy. You put another’s wishes on the same plane as your own.

These instincts develop and mature through surrender over the years. But if you go back again to the experience of falling in love, you will see that these aren’t learned responses. Love already contains them. Love automatically means release from ego conflict and struggle.

A single experience of falling in love isn’t a complete release, since struggle inevitably returns, but lovers get at least a glimpse of the Way. Whether they can articulate it or not, this is what they discover:

It takes no effort to love. The state of being has its own innate joy. Questions answer themselves if you are aware enough. Life is safe. Flowing with the current of being is the simplest way to live. Resistance never really succeeds. Controlling the flow of life is impossible.

These are the realizations that bring a person out of struggle. Struggle is born of the ego’s isolation; it ends when you can find the Way and surrender to its guiding force.

Since one of man’s most prized qualities is his ability to struggle against diversity, a life of nonstruggle falls far outside our current worldview. Yet to come from love obviously cannot be a struggle. How are the two reconciled?

The answer lies in free will. Humans can choose to end the struggle and come from love–every day this possibility is precisely what you face in your relationships.

Adapted from The Path to Love, by Deepak Chopra (Three Rivers Press, 1997).
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Aud Nordby
Aud n5 years ago


Nikolas Karman
Nikolas K5 years ago

The problem with human relationships is that the majority are based on conditional love such as I love you because your got red hair or you do what i tell you and so on. If people practiced unconditional love towards each other they would accept things as just is and not be attached to outcomes in others but accept them for who they are and just learn from the experiences, what they have to fix/forgive in themselves. Its simple but i see many people have difficulties with the basics that require them to love themselves unconditionally and think for themselves.

rene davis
irene davis5 years ago


J.L. A.
JL A5 years ago

worth pondering

Billy B.
Billy B5 years ago

Love is known best by the blind, for it is meant to be known by the heart, not by the eyes.

Heidi Aubrey
Heidi Aubrey5 years ago

...............surrender.................vs. surrener.

Heidi Aubrey
Heidi Aubrey5 years ago

I believe people "surrener" far too easily and too often. It is the simplest path of least resistance. You can put whatever spiritual spin on it you want. I see "quitter", when its not going well like you would like it to be. The real talent is to know when and what to quit and what is worth sticking it out. Your education should never be "surrendered".

Sarah Zemke
Sarah Z5 years ago

Thank you

Stanley R.
Stanley R5 years ago

thank you

Elaine A.
Elaine Al Meqdad5 years ago

I'm currently learning this gift from a beautiful man that has entered my life!