Honoring Gay Pride in San Francisco

Last weekend was Gay Pride in San Francisco. Now, I know that they have Gay Pride celebrations in other cities, but Pride was born here in my neck of the woods — and yet, I’ve never been there to celebrate. So this year, I lost my Gay Pride virginity. Matt, Siena and I showed up for the Gay Pride festival at the Civic Center, the Dyke March at Dolores Park, and the Gay Pride parade down Market Street.

I probably grew up like many of you when it comes to all things homosexual. I was raised to think that homosexuality was a sin and that gays could be reformed, if only they accepted Jesus Christ as their personal lord and savior. So when one of my dear friends in college informed me that she couldn’t hang out with me any more because she was secretly in the closet and madly in love with me, it totally freaked me out.

But I’ve evolved since then. Half of my best friends are gay, and many of my patients are lesbians and post sex-change transsexuals. These people are some of the Pinkest people I know. They OWN who they are, even when it means being judged by their families, their employers, their friends, and society at large. I think it takes so much courage to live out loud (and really let your freak flag fly!).

Way out of the closet

We were staying at a friend’s house in the Castro, where the rainbow flags fly high from most of the neighbors’ houses and the party was rocking right down the street, and where the hot, buff security guards wore thigh-high striped tights and pink tutus. Lady Gaga blared from loudspeakers and people came way out of the closet. T-shirts read “Can’t Think Straight” and “I Can See Queerly Now” and (this one made me smile) “I LOVE PINK.”

One stage sported topless middle-aged women demonstrating self breast exams and breast cancer awareness. Another showed men in thongs dancing like nobody was watching.  The Gay Pride parade, led by The Color Purple author Alice Walker as Grand Marshall, featured gay cheerleaders kicking, flipping, and pom-poming, San Francisco mayor Gavin Newsom shaking hands and high-fiving, and a float full of trannies bedazzled in their finest.

As you can imagine, repealing Proposition 8, which outlaws gay marriage in California, got a lot of attention. Those who managed to get married before Prop 8 (or went elsewhere for a ceremony) walked hand in hand, holding signs showing how long they had been married. One gay couple boasted a 44 year marriage, and the crowd went wild when they walked by.

We belong together

The highlight of the Gay Pride weekend for me was when a flash mob broke out on the steps of the civic center, dancing away to “We Belong Together” from Grease. (Our very own new Editor-in-Pink Lauren Nagel was among the dancers and the video went viral after being posted on Huffington Post!)

My four year old Siena high-fived women in pink boas and men in pink tutus, while shaking her booty to Barbara Streisand tunes. She asked me what gay means, and I told her that it means boys love boys and girls love girls. Her response: “Well, I love Kate (her best friend).”  I just nodded. Yes, the way I see it, love is good — no matter how you slice it.

A Society based on love, acceptance, and equality

I can’t imagine how hard it must be for the homosexuals of the world who live a life in the closet, but those at the Gay Pride festivities were definitely out – and proud of it. And I say, more power to ‘em! I think gay rights are the last hold-out of the civil rights movement, and I can’t wait to see the day when gays are granted the same rights as everyone else. Why should they be any different? I trust that the day will come when our country’s desire for a society based on love, acceptance, and equality will outweigh our tendencies towards hatred, judgment, and fear. Gay marriage will be legal everywhere, and gays won’t have to hide in the closet to be accepted in their homes, their workplaces, the military, or anywhere else.

Until that day comes, I’m here, in support of our brother and sisters who just happen to love those of the same sex.

What do you think? Are you in support of gay rights? Would you go to a Gay Pride parade? Do you raise your children to accept those who are different? Can you view the gay people in your life as equal, lovable, authentic people deserving of all the same love and civil rights as everyone else? Can you use your magical eyes to see beyond the masks we may wear, into the hearts of those who may be different than you are? Are you gay? Are you able to OWN it? Do tell…


Trish K.
Trish K7 years ago

I could not have made it thru high school without my gay guys.
I could not imagine life without gay and lesbian friends and family.
Life is getting better but we have a long way to go end discrimination.

Mari Basque
Mari 's7 years ago


Emily Weibel
Emily W7 years ago

I always find these articles intriqueing. I enjoy learning different views. =)

River Godbee
River Godbee7 years ago

I think it's cool that people can rally together like this. People are people!

Jaclyn Svarrer
Jaclyn Svarrer7 years ago

Well it is highly unfortunate that some felt the need to judge & preach intolerance in their comments :/ Ignoring the ugliness posted by these people, I can say I think this is a great article. May we all find love that speaks to our hearts & have the courage to truly & honestly be ourselves, as soon as we find out who that is. Thank you.

Paige Boily
Paige Boily7 years ago

=) =) =) =)

Maureen Heartwood

Lissa, if you're trying to be accepting and Queer-friendly, PLEASE don't use the word "tranny". It's a negative slur.

Say instead trans woman, trans man, trans person - and that's only if you really must. Otherwise, just woman, man and person work quite well. :)

Keely R.
Keely R7 years ago

I really enjoyed reading your article. I've been to Pride parades a couple of times and loved the fun and accepting atmosphere!

Sue H.
Sue H7 years ago

Thanks for the article. Having been
born and raised in the Ca. Bay area,
I feel like I was blessed with learning tolerance towards diversity.

Kirsten Spencer
Kirsten Spencer7 years ago

Wow, some heated discussions on this one.