How Finding a Nemesis Can Help You Be Your Best Self

Despite what comic books would have you believe,†finding a nemesis might actually be good for you. They donít need a fancy costume or an evil scheme. Your nemesis could simply be that cleverly snarky person on Twitter or that annoying person who always seems to outdo you in real life. Whoever you choose, having a nemesis will make you a better version of yourself.

Finding Your Nemesis

First off, letís clarify that a nemesis is not an enemy. You donít hate them completelyóand you definitely don’t wish them any real harm. Theyíre more of a rival in some area of your life. They donít have to know who you are, but you know them. They always seem to be just slightly more successful than you are, and they drive you crazy with their incessant accomplishments.

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Your nemesis might be getting married, winning a major award, getting a promotion, writing a book or just being generally successful and adored. Or maybe theyíre just really witty on the internet. And yep, you probably feel a little jealous. You had the same thought, but you didnít say it as cleverly. You have a book idea, but you just havenít sat down to actually write the darn thing. You have a partner, why should your nemesis get all this attention just for getting married? They always seem to be just one step ahead of where you want to be.

Harnessing the (Super) Power of a Nemesis

Of course, be careful not to become a hater and actively work to put that person down. Donít go around smack talking your nemesis by name. Thatís not cool and can make things awkward real fast. Continue to value them, as much as you actively hope their next project goes a little less perfectly.

Use your nemesis as an impetus to lift yourself up to (and ideally beyond) their level. Let your jealousy take you higher, not lower.

This type of high road jealousy actually comes with a powerful benefit. It lights a fire underneath you and pushes you to work harder than you normally would.

The byproduct?

You become a better version of yourself. You wake up earlier, you make time for your passions, you work out hard, you give a full 100 percent to the things you want to accomplish. Having a nemesis encourages you to avoid complacency and keeps you pushing yourself forward throughout life.

So, what are you waiting for? Start searching for that special person in your life. And if you already have a nemesis, send them a mental thank you for encouraging you to be the best version of yourself. Then you can go straight back to love-hating them.

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Hannah A
Hannah A32 minutes ago

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Leo C
Leo Custer15 hours ago

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danii p3 days ago

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danii p3 days ago

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danii p3 days ago

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Dr. Jan Hill7 days ago

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Jan S
Jan S12 days ago

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Pearl W
Pearl W12 days ago

Hi All - Take a mirror to bed and wake up to yourself - Some of the comments point out they 'had' these types of situations when they were younger - Growing up or ageing certainly relaxes you point of view - Meditation really helps too - The common manta "just breathe" is invaluable - If you know someone who you think needs to learn something, remember: "Never try to teach a pig to sing. It wastes your time and annoys the pig." - Or think of your own quirky expression/quotation - Hopefully you'll laugh, relax and remember to "just breathe" - Before you know it the moment will pass, it always does - Thanks Jordyn - Big smiles

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Coo R
Coo R13 days ago

okay

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Diane E
Diane E13 days ago

Strange. But it would channel concentration!

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