How to Get A Reluctant Partner on Board with Decluttering

It’s officially spring, and many of us are using this refreshing time of year to spring clean and declutter our homes. If you have a partner at home, however, this is often easier said than done. One partner wanting to clean less than the other is a common problem, and it can seem extra frustrating when you’re trying your hardest to get your house clean and minimalist.

Here are some tips for getting your partner on board with spring cleaning:

Sell Them on the Benefits

Getting rid of one’s stuff simply for the sake of a spouse is no fun. But if your partner declutters because they actually want to, it becomes a very different narrative. Before you begin nagging your partner, explain what you think they stand to gain from the process. If you think your partner will be able to make money selling all of her unread books, for example, tell her about it.

Lead by Example

You should also show your partner firsthand how they can benefit from decluttering. Selling and donating your own stuff will show them how they can save time and money on a minimalist lifestyle. Remember that it may take a few months for you to start saving money, but once this starts to happen, your partner is certain to notice.

Offer to Help — But Don’t Declutter Without Permission

Give your partner a helping hand in deciding what he or she wants to donate or sell. But it’s important never to get rid of your partner’s things without permission. This is huge, because if your partner perceives you to be “taking over,” it’s unlikely they will have a positive experience with the decluttering process.

Make a Vision Board, and Share it with Your Partner

Collect photos and inspiration from decluttered, minimalist homes you see on Instagram or Pinterest. Then print them out and make them into a vision board to help inspire you on your decluttering journey. Share the vision board with your partner, prioritizing images of rooms that your parter uses often, such as the bathroom, office or shared bedroom.

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Val P
Val P4 months ago


Marie W
Marie W5 months ago

Thanks for sharing

Latoya B
Latoya Brookins8 months ago

Nope. I'm a hoarder and a geek so that's double the hoarding instinct.

Carolyn Bateman
Carolyn Bateman8 months ago

I think I'm going to need more to go on than this! I've tried these things ... :-)

Shirley P
Shirley Plowman8 months ago

not an easy one at all!!

Bill Eagle
Bill Eagle9 months ago

This is a really hard thing to do. Both my wife and I are hoarders and getting rid of stuff is like pulling teeth.

Emma Z
Past Member 9 months ago


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