How to Make Friends No Matter How Old You Are

The older you get, the more impossible the idea of making new friends can feel, but is it really that hard? There is this pervasive myth that it becomes more challenging to make friends once you become an adult—that things just aren’t so sunny once you enter “the real world”.

The truth is, it’s not that hard to make friends as an adult. In fact, it should become easier, the older we get. As an adult, you’re more secure in who you are as a person, more confident. You know what your interests are. You know what types of people you get along with. All you have to do is be open to new friendships—which is where most of us get hung up. To give you a hand, here are three tips for making new friends, no matter what your age…

Get rid of your adult sense of complacency.

A lot of us seem to think that it is okay to have fewer (or no) friends as an adult—but that couldn’t be further from the truth! It doesn’t matter if you’re five or 95, friends deeply enrich our lives. So stop lying to yourself.

You need friends. You deserve friends. And you are wholly capable of making new friends. Stop being satisfied within your comfort zone, and allow new people and experiences in.

Two female friends with surfboards

Find your niche.

The easiest way to make friends is to hang out with people who share mutual interests. The more niche these interests are, the easier it becomes to meet people, make friends and actually have fun together. Hang out at your local bike shop. Join the book club at your local bookstore. Seek out a local knitting, poetry, pottery or baking group. Dive deep into what you’re passionate about; that’s where your friend group lives.

What? You don’t have a niche interest? Then you need to dig in a bit. We all have things that pique our interests. Allow yourself to pursue those flights of fancy. Not only will your life become richer, you’ll be so much happier for it. Plus, making new friendships will become a cinch.

Senior Women Friends Cooking in Kitchen

Be open, and interact with people.

Okay, so you’ve put yourself out there—you’ve joined a group or you’ve started doing what you love out in public (like writing in your local coffee shop). But that’s not where the job ends. You actually have to open yourself up to new experiences and people.

Make eye contact. Don’t be shy about making funny or complimentary comments to those nearby. Ask questions to people that interest you. Make plans with someone to get coffee and talk shop next week. Essentially, let down your guards and be open to the people who come your way. That’s a surefire way to make quality friendships that will last a lifetime. And it makes even the most mundane excursions all the more fun!

Have you made any good friends as an adult? How did you meet them? Do you find it particularly challenging to make friends as you age? Share your thoughts with the Care2 community below!    

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Coo R
Coo Rabout a month ago

good advice

Hannah A
Hannah A1 months ago

Thank you

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Daniel N
Past Member 3 months ago

Thank you

Olivia M
Past Member 3 months ago

Thanks for sharing

Janis K
Janis K3 months ago

Thanks for sharing.

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Leo C
Leo C3 months ago

Thank you for posting!