How to Really Love Someone

“Love,” like “Happiness” can be hard to explain.

But the great writer Ernest Hemingway came very close to expressing the essence of love.

When you love you wish to do things for. You wish to sacrifice for. You wish to serve.”  A Farewell to Arms

To that, I would add that you wish to do for and to give … without expecting anything in return.

“Only love that continues to flow in the face of anger, blame, and indifference can be called love. All else is simply a transaction.” says Vironika Tugaleva, author of The Love Mindset.

Let not your love for another become a transaction. When you give someone a smile, a hug, kind words, a listening ear, an understanding shoulder, money, support — give them because you truly want to. My father often quoted the Urdu words “Neki kar, darya mein dal.” It simply means “Do a good deed, and then toss it into the river.” I have tried to follow that in my life, because I believe that expectations can rob love of its purity and beauty.

  • Let us give our love for free, as often as we can, as much as we can.
  • Let us sometimes pause to self-correct on the beautiful path of love.
  • Let us love because we feel love, not because we expect or need love.

What, according to you, is the right way to love someone? I would love to hear your views.



Debbie Crowe
Debbie Crowe2 years ago

Jane R. I like what you said. I sent you a green star!!

Elena T.
Elena Poensgen3 years ago

Thank you :)

Jeffrey Stanley
Jeff S3 years ago

Thank you.

Mona M.
Mona M3 years ago

Life IS the School of Love and unless we experience love for our self and detachment from our own story we will continue to mix being in a need to receive love and real love which is a state of being.

Graham Parker
Graham P3 years ago

Thanks interesting.

Jane R.
Jane R3 years ago

Love is caring for the other person's needs. Giving all you can to make that person happy. As for a husband and wife it means wanting to spend all your time making them happy and spending as much time together as possible, but also letting them be themselves and have the alone time they need. Do not smother them. Giving your love to another will bring love back to you. Only then can two people be happy with each other.

Karen Whitworth
Karen Whitworth3 years ago

Helping someout in need of money, or a service of some kind, with no other motivation other than to help them, opens up your heart to love them more. Feeling gratitude for even the little things others do for you, helps you love more.

Alan Lambert
Alan Lambert3 years ago

Forwarded to everyone who can use it and should be interested, Thanks for posting

Mar-yannu Hathory

your article is excellent! perfectly expresses my feelings about love ... to be moved to give unconditionally.

Sandy G.
Sandy G3 years ago

True love is hard to find.