How to Recommend Alternative Medicine to Reluctant Family Members

Sharing a new idea or way of doing something can be challenging. If you come at it from the wrong angle, then youíve got the Great Wall of China separating you and your loved one for who knows how long. Change and newness spark fear and anxiety in most people. Itís uncomfortable at the bare minimum. Itís this discomfort that often keeps people from venturing forth and trying new things. And itís this discomfort that can make it difficult to make recommendations for alternative medicine to your family members.

If you can remember that change is uncomfortable, then you can take a compassionate and gentle approach to offering new ideas about alternative medicine to your loved ones.

The Compassionate Approach

1. Be the example

No person is perfect. But the perfect person to spread the word is the person who walks the talk. The best way to share new information is to be the example. First, think about how you embody and live the life you wish to share with others. How do you use alternative medicine? Do you visit a chiropractor, acupuncturist or naturopath? Are you educated on the uses of essential oils and use them regularly? Why would someone listen to you if you have no personal experience doing the exact thing you espouse? Get into action and be in alignment.

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2. Be open to talking

Donít let fear hold you back. Many people keep quiet about their dealings with the naturopath because they fear others will think theyíre a kook, woo-woo or spacey (insert whatever judgment youíve heard). Your family canít see you as the example, leading the way if they donít know what youíre doing. When they ask how youíve been, tell them youíve been having pain in your lower back but your chiropractor fixed you right up.

At this point, youíre merely sharing what you do to keep yourself healthy. In this way, you allow for the topic of alternative medicine to become a normal part of the conversation. In time, the other personís uncomfortable feelings with these alternative methods will dissolve as they get used to it being a part of your life and, therefore, their life.

3. Honor differences

Everyone resonates at different wavelengths. You may respond to one modality better than another while your partner gets better results with something else. Thatís the nature of life. Our differences guide and direct our path. So what works for one person may not work for another. Thatís why itís absolutely essential to honor everyoneís unique needs and desires.

Anytime you find yourself taking a rigid stance about a singular modality, itís time to take a step back and reevaluate your approach. Itís the rigidity of your stance that makes people feel boxed in and triggers their defense mechanisms. Which is what you should try to avoid doing if you want a fluid and open conversation about alternative medicine.

4. Know your information

You shouldnít be sharing information when you donít fully understand what it is youíre sharing. Especially if youíre trying to make it seem as though you know more than you do as a persuasion tactic. With this method, youíll do more harm than good. Instead, let it be known up front that youíre not an expert. Communicate where you received your information and talk openly about your personal experience and the recommendation youíre making. And always be sure to follow it up with references and education.

5. Have references and education

Making recommendations for alternative medicine to family and friends who range from highly skeptic to completely open must always be followed with quality references and education. Think about leaders in the field and professionals whoíve helped guide your journey.

Who can you recommend your mom, dad or brother to visit? What websites have been essential in your education? What books or videos have you watched that helped change your perspective? Youíll want to make it as easy as possible for your loved one to learn quickly about the benefits of alternative medicine. Take them to the website. Give them the phone number. Make a list of books. Get them started.

Final Thoughts

If you spot reluctance in a family member, then thatís a sign you should listen to. The person is either not ready to hear what you have to say or your approach has gone sour. Thatís when itís time to loop back. Work these five steps to ensure that family and friends open naturally to your recommendations and good feelings keep flowing.

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Marie W
Marie W5 months ago

Thanks for sharing.

Jeramie D
Jeramie D11 months ago


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Peggy B11 months ago


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Marija M
Marija M11 months ago

tks for sharing.

Ruth S
Ruth S11 months ago


Chrissie R
Chrissie R11 months ago

One word: Don't.

Stephanie s
Stephanie Y11 months ago

Thank you

Muff-Anne York-Haley

My daughter is so good at this. She works in the health food and nutrition industry.

Winn A
Winn Adams11 months ago