Is Your Practitioner a Good Fit?

I have a theory that working with a practitioner – whether it’s a coach, therapist, or healthcare provider – is a lot like dating. You’re both learning about each other, seeing if you’re a good match, discovering what you have to teach one another. Plus, I’ve heard it said that the best practitioners might even text you the next day!

But it’s easy to forget this as a client. Because we don’t have the same level professional training as the practitioner, we might find ourselves doubting our intuition and giving over our power to someone who may not really resonate with our experience.

The most successful and effective practitioners I’ve known and worked with understand this power of relating to their patients. These practitioners work extra hard to meet their clients where they’re at. They want to put together an approach that takes each client’s unique needs into account, and that helps their client take significant, positive strides forward.  But what if that’s not the case? Here are a few questions to ask yourself before your next session.

Are they flexible?

A lot of practitioners choose their work because they’ve overcome major struggles in their own lives. And that’s awesome! But the approach that they took – which may have been a god-send for them – might not work for you. And that’s perfectly okay! So ask yourself if the practitioner is open to tweaking things. Are they rigid? Or do they allow for some flexibility? If they don’t, learn what you can from them (because there is often a kernel of wisdom there, even if the approach as a whole doesn’t work for you), then move it on down the road

Does it appeal to you?

Do the lifestyle changes they’re suggesting sound like options you’d like to try? Of course, making positive changes is often challenging and not always fun — but does what they’re proposing inspire you, or does it just feel like a burden? Maybe you’re working with a raw foods practitioner, for example, but the thought of giving up bacon makes you want to jump off a bridge. Listen to that feeling – it’s trying to tell you something! Perhaps the best route for you is to increase the amount of raw foods your eating, add green juices, and incorporate the principles of the raw foodists into your life in a way that works for you. You don’t have to ditch the practitioner completely, but you always have the right to take what they’re telling you and tailor it to fit your needs.

It goes without saying that, if you’re going to do this, of course you should be informed. Do your research and ask for advice from other practitioners with different perspectives. Then, at the end of the day, choose the approach that feels right for you.

Are they sending judgey vibes?

A practitioner is supposed to be a loving, supportive presence in your life. Sometimes, a practitioner may have the best of intentions, but might simply lack the life’s experience to see things from your perspective. If you deviate from the approach they suggested – and they can’t understand why you did so – it’s possible for them to react in a way that feels judgmental or critical. And that’s the opposite of what you want from a practitioner! If this is the case, and it doesn’t change after a couple of sessions, you probably want to look for someone new.

The bottom line is, it’s all about trusting your intuition and doing what’s right for yourself. Practitioners come with their own set of experiences and viewpoints that can color the way they see you situation and the advice they give you. So, you don’t have to blindly follow everything a practitioner suggests. If something doesn’t quite fit, do some research, get a second opinion and have faith in your own wisdom.
















Siyus Copetallus
Siyus C2 years ago

Thank you for sharing.

Carole R.
Carole R2 years ago

Thank you.

Jayasri Amma
Jayasri Amma2 years ago

Thank you!

Jim Ven
Jim V2 years ago

interesting article, thank you.

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Elena Poensgen
Elena Poensgen2 years ago

Thank you

Adrienne L.
Adrienne L2 years ago


Anja Necin
Anja Necin2 years ago

Thank you!

Darren Woolsey
Darren Woolsey2 years ago

Chopping and changing is not a good idea, unless you're working with vegetables. . .

Fi T.
Past Member 2 years ago

Communicate with them