Kindness Matters

This is my simple religion. There is no need for temples; no need for complicated philosophy. Our own brain, our own heart is our temple; the philosophy is kindness. -Dalai Lama

It isnít only in the midst of family emergencies that the kindness of others makes such a big difference in life. This is often the time we think of going out of our way for someone else, where we offer, ďAnything I can doĒ and mean it.† Knowing you have people at your back, being the recipient of small gestures can make all the difference in the midst of crisis.

But it is not only during our challenges that kindness makes a real difference. The absence of kindness throughout childhood development is a growing crisis in this country as our children are taking the crass humor of popular culture to heart. The prevalence of bullying in the youngest grades is baffling even long time teachers. Most disturbing is how parents of these aggressive children often support these dominant behaviors and value popularity over kindness.

Lao Tzu wrote, ďKindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love.Ē These are the lessons that our society most needs to cultivate during this time of loss and upheaval. Gone are the days of opulence and greed; our cultural icons have to care about more than just themselves. Civility and community have to be reconstructed back into a culture that is often reflected in sarcastic and divisive humor that alienates for the sake of a laugh.

At a time when most school districts in this country are trying to figure out how to keep their doors open 5 days a week, focusing our collective attention on rebuilding the stature of kindness might be the only behavior we can really afford. The truth is that we need each other more than ever in these uncertain times. At every encounter with strangers and friends alike, pause and see if you witness an opportunity for kindness. If you do, which I suspect you will; practice it even briefly and see how you feel.

It might be the most powerful act of positivity that we can demonstrate in a day.


Emma S.
Emma S3 years ago

An excellent reminder. Thank you.

Julie D.
Julie D4 years ago

"There is no need for temples, no need for complicated philosophies. My brain and my heart are my temples. My religion is very simple, my religion is kindness."
The Dalai Lama

"We are not capable of doing great things, only small things with great kindness"
Mother Teresa

"Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible."
The Dalai Lama

"One never stands so tall as when they stoop to help someone else"

"By developing a sense of respect for others and a concern for their welfare we reduce our own selfishnesss, which is the source of all problems, and enhance our sense of kindness, which is a natural source of goodness."
The Dalai Lama

Elena T.
Elena Poensgen4 years ago

Thank you :)

paul m.
paul m4 years ago

Too right.....

Fiona T.
Past Member 5 years ago

With kindness, everything is nice

Atocha B.
Mary F5 years ago

I love this quote: Pope John Paul II -“None are so poor that they have nothing to give and none are so rich that they have nothing to receive”.

I believe this could be said for kindness!

Danuta Watola
Danuta W5 years ago

Thank you for sharing.

Summerannie Moon
Summerannie M5 years ago

Absolutely. If you are kind you attract people who are also kind or people who need to be around people who are, so they can learn the art of Kindness or witness it or feel it.
It takes little energy to be kind but it takes a lot of stress and anger to be nasty and unkind.

I dont think I have ever met such a lot of nasty people in all my life as of late which is so sad. I distance myself from them after a while when I believe they are a lost cause. Why bother!??

People I find are really insular and the whole world revolves around them and anything else which is a bit of a distant past their nose is off limits to their kind ness or concern.

Recently I joined a womens social group and a week after I got very ill with the flu and out of all 37 women only ONE emailed me to ask me if she could do anything for me at any time. I got tears in my eyes........she was the only one and wasnt even a friend...yet. During this time of me being so ill, this kind lady's sister fell over and broke her ankle in two places and smashed her leg bone just above it, she is a secretary for a professor, she has a family and husband and her day is chockers and yet she offered to fit herself in for ME. HOW KIND!
We had lunch together on Thursday just past and I got my money out to pay but she insisted on paying for lunch. My 'shout' next time! A very kind lady indeed...
oh she works for a Psychology Professor..... all kindnesses need to be paid forward.

ii q.
g d c5 years ago

people who see kindness all around them practice it...

Michele Wilkinson

Thank you